how to get with a girl: November 2010

Sunday, November 21, 2010

How can a shy guy get a girl?

I'm an eighteen year old boy who is shy around girls but I am a smart, very like-able person who is friendly and average looking.

I don't have any girl friends but I am liked by all the girls I know as I'm good person so my question is how do I talk to girls to become friends with them?

I am attracted to shy girls the most, do they like shy boys?

Will a girl be impressed if she is approached by a boy who is obviously shy and nervous but has the courage to talk to her specifically?How can a shy guy get a girl?
I'm a shy girl, and I would be totally impressed. You sound like my type actually =3 haha

I adore shy guys. It shows they're not up themselves, and that they are likely to think similarly to me. In fact I find an overly confident guy to be a turn off... I don't like it at all. So don't worry! They'll be plenty of girls who think like this!

So, do what you feel like you can do, maybe stretch yourself a tiny bit, and be yourself. Approach girls and become friends with them- then if you find you like someone, ask her out to see a film with you or something.

Hope I helped and good luck!How can a shy guy get a girl?
Marry Iris. :)

I'm not shy myself, but I like shy guys and have no problem whatsoever to make the first move. Maybe I'm shy inside, and that's why I like them.

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Ask a Girl out ..... the worst that can happen is that she says no

What have you got to lose? She may find u weired and walk away then so what? or she may hang around for a date and never talk to you again, simply move on to the next one... You have nothing to lose, be wild and crazy just go up and talk to one just for the heck of it.. I'm shy and I like shy girls even though i ended up with an outgoing one now I know exactly what you mean. just try to stop thinking so hard and get your focus on her. There is no rush for anything either
generally the shy guy ends up with an outgoing girl because they need someone to break them out of the shell...but theres no law that says a shy guy cant have a shy girl...hey it may even be better because you guys can grow together. i would say start off with becoming more social with girls period even if your not attracted to them.
LOOK U R 18,,SMART N A VERY LIKEABEL PERSON,,HEY ALL U REALLY HAVE TO DO IS JUST START TALKING TO ANY GIRL,,,MAKE FRIENDS WITH THEM ALL THEN U WILL BE ABEL TO CHOOSE WHICH ONE U WANT TO BE YOUR GF,,,AND SHY GIRLS LOVE IT WEN THE GUY NOTICES THEM FIRST AND STARTS TALKING TO THEM,,CAUSE LOOK HOW SHY U R,,,SHY GIRLS MAKE VERY GOOD FRIENDS,,CAUSE NOBODY DOSE TALK TO THEM,,GO FOR IT HAVE FUN,,,PEACE
Yeah, perhaps it will be a surprise to this girl. Normally I can tell if someone likes me by the way they look at me, the eyes are the window to the soul. Talk to a woman friend of yours about advise, and I'm sure if your a nice guy some chicks will dig ya. You will in the end be told no more than yes, but in the end the yeses make the nos worth while if that makes sense.

Is a personal trainer worth 7000 a year?

So are personal trainers worth about 7000 dollars for a whole year? is this a good deal or is it ridiculous? I have to do a 2000 opening fee before i even start working with the trainer. Is there any cheaper way to get fast results like only working with a trainer would do? I am 290 pounds and i want to go down to 160 preferably within the next year and a half, i'm sick of being the big girl! But i'm really tight on the money, if i can rake in the 2000 dollars for the first fee and then 280 approximately a month do you think it's worth it or could i do the same as the Trainer could do? How could i do that? Any diet tips or workout plans? Anyone out there a personal trainer? I'd love to get one i just would be putting myself on the line trying to afford it.Is a personal trainer worth 7000 a year?
That does seem a little pricey. Have you shopped around other options? I meet with my trainer once per week and 3 or 4 other days per week I work out on my own doing the work out program she has designed for me. It has really helped to have her show me the proper ways to do each workout so that you are using the right muscles, especially ab workouts for me was hard on my own to actually feel them working. The trainer works at the gym I belong to, my membership is 20/month and I pay $120 per month which equals out to $30 per session. Which is pretty budget friendly if you ask me since I could easily blow that much on lattes each week hahahIs a personal trainer worth 7000 a year?
$7000 a year? W T F.

I pay a personal trainer $30 a lesson. Which is like 230 lessons.

No way would I pay for a personal trainer, I did 3 times, then I did it all myself.

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if they are good and can get you to your goals then $7000 is not too much!!! ...but you will have to do your part too and follow their meal plans!!!

you are the who one to decide if $7000 is too much to pay to get you into 'not so big girl' status!!!
Don't pay for that stuff, just get a membership to a gym or get a bowflex or treadmill. running is a miracle worker, run. Personal trainers are not worth the money, when you can do it yourself, just educate yourself, get a dvd or book, if you need a friend to work out with, do that. dont waste money you need, when you are the only motivation you need. just do it, look it up on the internet, its free, check out books from the library again free.
No. If i pick up any sort of fitness mag, i start to laugh and wipe my a*se with it, it's a joke and a big con. All this crap about high protein drinks, pills, diets, it's just a load of bollocks and a multi-million pound racket. Work hard, eat and sleep. It's not rocket science.

Is a personal trainer worth 7000 a year?

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How to deal with boyfriend's roomate drama?

My boyfriend moved in with his friend a few months back and everything as been ok for now. His friend's girlfriend and his mother also lives there too. Recently the roomates girlfriend let this trashy girl stay at the house. She has been knowen for doing drugs and is pregnant. I find it very annoying that someone can just move in like that without paying a dime especially when the roomate and my boyfriend do not want her staying there. The roomate wont kick her out cause he doesn't want to start a huge fight with his girlfriend blah blah and my boyfriend is too passive to say anything. I haven't said anything about it to anyone but my bf. She could live with the baby daddy but is just being stupid. Anyway I walked in last night like I usually do and I overheard her telling the roomate's mom that ';she wasn't use to ppl just walking right in and thought it was disrespectful';. I wanted to yell at her but instead told my boyfriend who told his roomate who talked to her. I want to know how to deal with her tonight because I'm sure she'll do one of those I didn't mean it like that, or I'm sorry things. I want her to get the idea I really dislike her any ideas.How to deal with boyfriend's roomate drama?
Sounds like the girl is a pig ewww lol anyways just ignore herHow to deal with boyfriend's roomate drama?
ignore them

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dont hit her whatever you do lol, you can get a charge since she's pregnant.
Whoever owns the house or who holds the lease is the boss.

It is their choice on who they let stay there and how they act.

If they feel the same way you do and need moral support find some manly men and evict her.

Otherwise live with it because you have been overruled.

How do you deal with a clingy person?

There's this girl who, for some reason, believes that we're best friends. I don't even know this person, and she's always hanging around me and trying to be all 'best friends-y'. Well in class because of a seating chart I have to sit next to said person, and when I was going to move nearer to a friend, she glared at me and said ';Don't tell me you're leaving me.'; In addition to creeping me out, it irritated me and I've tried to make it clear that we're not friends. However, she doesn't seem to realize that I don't want to be near her, and she keeps pestering me and bothering me nonstop - it's very unsettling and unnerving. How do I get her to leave me alone?How do you deal with a clingy person?
She is trying to control you with her neediness. Don't let her do it. The next time she comes up to you, just tell her your day is really busy and you have to go. Then walk away. If she follows you, turn and say, ';I told you I'm busy. Bye!!'; Keep doing that and she'll eventually give up and go after someone else. Good luck!! : {How do you deal with a clingy person?
Maybe she is insecure and maybe you were nice to her one day, so she took that as a sign that you want to be friends. Try to be nice, let her down easy, nod occasionally and rarely talk to her, soon she'll give up.
Dont text her back and ignore her when she is around. She will prob get tired of being ignored. OORRRRRRRRRRRRR you may try to actually be her friend, you may like her.
oh my goodness, this happened to me several times.

The problem with my situations was that i get real creeped out so I try to stay away from these people once the clingyness starts. The sad part is in the end, we're not even friends anymore.

What does it mean when a girl keeps staring at you? Ok to ask her out to coffee and get her number on 1st day?

Ok, a girl keeps staring at me. It's been happening for a few weeks. She even stood right next to me when there was plenty of room to stand somewhere else. She even kept looking at me at a distance when she was walking. Does this mean anything? Or do I just think she's interested in me? I am always wrong reading girl's body language. Please be honest and realistic about this. I don't know because I've never had a gf.

How can I talk to her if I'm not good at it? How can I ask her out to hangout with me and get her number without making it look creepy? We go to the same college and we see each other at the bus stop once a week. I'm a bit shy and don't have a lot of experience since I don't talk much with peopel I don't know. I really want to get to know her and I think she's pretty. But there's only 3 weeks of school left. Is it ok if I ask her out to lunch or coffee and get her number on the same day?What does it mean when a girl keeps staring at you? Ok to ask her out to coffee and get her number on 1st day?
Step out of your comfort zone and you will be rewarded. Even if she says no you will still have a victory. It will be that much easier to do it the next time. Hope this helps. Good luckWhat does it mean when a girl keeps staring at you? Ok to ask her out to coffee and get her number on 1st day?
she thinks u r intersting
Go for it dude she seems like she likes you.

And hell yea it's ok to ask out to lunch/coffee and get her number. Hell maybe even a walk by the park and you can hold hands.....

SO CUTE! Sorry I'm never like this....this just makes me think of my first date with my current boyfriend.
Give her a half smile and apporach her, ';hey how's it going... do you live nearby or somthing?'; Start the convo bro, and it will get you somewhere. Along the lines, do invite her out for a coffee, and just talk about stuff, like school and whatever, then ask for her number, she will surely give it. If she doesn't then each time you see her, just give her that half smile that drives all the ladies wild.

hahaha my mojo is back!!!

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Am I addicted to sex?

I recently split up with my girlfriend of three years because I keep sleeping with other women. I love my girlfriend dearly, I really do but I just cannot seem to stay faithful so I finished it.

Everyday all I think about is sex, its like a drug, I need it and I crave it but here is the thing, once I have sex with a girl, no matter how beautiful she is or how goo it may have been, i;m just not interested anymore. Its almost like I love the trill of the chase so to speak. The adrenaline I get from being in a bar and chatting up girls and taking them home for a one night stand is after costing me my relationship. If she found out what I have being doing it would kill her. I just cant see myself stopping anytime soon

Please HelpAm I addicted to sex?
we're all addicted to sex, so don't beat yourself up, but don't be a retardAm I addicted to sex?
Yes. Now go get help.
i bet you're a virgin. it sounds more like you're addicted to your hand
Sex before marriage is widely considered to be a sin in the modern world.

It's natural to be attracted to that which is sinful.

Stay pure, Jesus believes in you.
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I'm just putting this straight out there..

If you truly love her, you can overcome anything to be with her.

Including your ';addiction'; to sex.

If you dont truly love her... well, you will continue on with the one night stands, and break her heart further.

Just think.
Wow. No offense, but you need help.

Also, maybe you should tell your girlfriend the truth. I'm sure if she was doing it to you, you would want to know. Just a thought.
you need proffesional help actually you need to find something better to do

get a hobby

i dont think you can truly love a person and

do something horrible like that

guys like you disgust me
I say yes you are but dude that is not healthy or good for you. Yes sex is a healthy thing when it is with one partner but maybe you need to go somewhere and be by yourself away from everything and really think about it or find a fetish and not a dangerous one either like mine is dessert (eating it off the other persons body like chocolate syrup and stuff or ice cream strawberries you name it). I think you should read and take time off from technology and people and figure out somethings in your head.
i think you have a serious problem and you need to get help. you sound like a good person that means well and i feel like you don't do this because you want to. I think you need to see a therapist. I think also that you should call you ex and tell her everything that has gone on. Maybe, if she still cares about you, she'll even come in for a session. You need to accept that you have a problem and then seek help. admission is the first step and then talk to someone who understands

Best of luck,

jon
No your not addicted to sex. yes im sure your in love with the thrill of the chase...when a real relationship becomes important to you..you will stop .if a disease doesnt stop you first..had you really loved the girlfriend you would have stopped...sorry
If you can't quite for the one you love then I don't think you love her at all. if you did she alone would be enough motivation for you to stop. anyways why don't you avoid getting yourself into situations like that. stop doing things and going to places where you know you can't control yourself
Sadly I think you are addicted but it's only because when you see women you're trying to make them into something else. Meaning that you cannot be satisfied and it may be because of a loss of a special person (not you girlfriend) or some life crisis and you're trying to replace it with sex to keep you occupied. And this is harsh, but you should tell you're girlfriend what you've done if you plan on getting back with her because if you get back with her and DON'T tell her, things will catch up with you in the future. But next time you feel the urge to sex a woman ask your self ';Is it worth it? and What makes you wanna do it?'; And don't give yourself the answer just because you're horny, dig deeper and really think before you actually do it the NEXT time. But hopefully it wont be a next time.
okay heres the thing sex isnt an addiction its a craving its a choice you choose weather you want to have sex or not its not an addiction!!!! if you truely love your ex girlfriend and see a future with her then you would stop sleeping around, get your act together and stop hurting this girl its not right, carmas a b**** sweety, what goes around comes around, take a second and think about that, picture your ex that you claim to care about, going and haveing sex with different guys, taking guys home, sleeping with them, drinking with them, and partying with them, now ask yourself if she did that would it break your heart?? if not then let her go you go your way and let her go her way dont waster her time, however if you will be heartbroken if she cheated on you the way you cheated on her then stop with you bullshit get up off your *** and go tell her you love her and appologize to her, admit to you faults and prey for her to forgive you, you only get one life to live dont mess it up with this girl if you believe shes the one for you, stop sleeping around, if you really love her then after reading this you will get off your a** and go up to her and appologize like you should, but if you dont really care for her then go do whatever you want to do, and have sex with who ever you wish to have sex with, and remember CARMAS A *****, WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND sweety, so let go of this lifestyle and find yourself what your looking for.
Yes, you are the very definition of a sex addict.

Get professional help.
ur ment to hav sex with ur partner not a rubber doll s :)
Saying you're addicted to sex is just an excuse to make cheating sound better.

You're probably very young and want to play the field and are probs not in love if you can do something so heartless behind her back. The best thing you could have done for this girl is break up with her.

Just continue as you are till it bores you and make sure you have safe sex.

Then when youve matured a bit then go with a girl but do not form another relationship until youre ready or you will let another girl down.

Its better for the female race that a guy like you is not on the market
If you truly love her, you wouldn't want to sleep with anyone else.

So maybe go to a psychologist and see if they can sort it out for you.
While a loving commitment is actually scientifically proven to improve the health and longevity of both men and women, many people have a conflicting urge to ';play the field'; (for lack of a better term). Depending on your age, that's healthy too (not the sex part, which can lead to problems you'd need to take care of in a clinical setting if you're not safe); you don't want to leap into a committed relationship without knowing the type of person you truly feel you can commit to.

If you're sleeping around, perhaps it's a sign that you weren't getting what you wanted out of that physical relationship. It's a difficult thing to consider if you love her and are emotionally connected, but physical and intellectual connectivity and compatibility are important in any good relationship. Your ex may just end up being a really close friend.

The next time you feel the uncontrollable urge to go for it, take a cleansing breath and try to consider what's motivating you. It might not be an abnormal sexual urge (though it may feel like one because you feel guilty for cheating or because you've grown self-conscious about it in general).

NOT to say that it's okay to cheat, mind you! Everyone deserves a committed relationship since it's a sign of mutual respect for the love and compatibility the partners share with each other....

Good luck.

How do I tell my friends that his relationship isn't healthy?

I have a friend that recently got together with a new gf. At first I was happy for him and tried to get to know the girl. The more I found out the more I didn't like. She has started separating him from his friends(both male and female) in any way shape or form. Ex: He had a movie night with his guy friends planned and suddenly she needed to go to the mall at the exact same time and for some reason could not drive herself. Ive literally seen her drag him away by his arm,shirt collar, etc when talking to someone, including myself. I just don't know how to make him start thinking for himself again, its like shes taking control of his brain. Anybody have an advice/suggestions?How do I tell my friends that his relationship isn't healthy?
yeah, say,';dude you're whipped';, then get him another beer, really there is no way you can insist upon it though, just make your point and he'll notice the signs, then all you have to do is fake his death in a tragic blimp accident to get him off the hook.How do I tell my friends that his relationship isn't healthy?
tell him you will give some good secks he dont have to chase this crazy btich

I need some help girls.....?

I am dry right now....im a good lookin kid im 17, pretty built, when ever i meet knew girls i can get with that easily...but its weird with girls i know, cuz ill try n work game and it seems like they want nothin to do with me...i don't know what im doing wrong...Girls, if you got a good lookin dude, how do you want him to approach you or try to work game with u? Cuz obviously, im doin somethin wrong here.I need some help girls.....?
Just be natural

If we see that you are trying to have game they will know that you are insecure

but if they see a Natural guy who has confidence is will make you more approachableI need some help girls.....?
be real, and honesty, but caring

I'm afraid of getting a girl pregnant?

I'm a 22 year old male who is not in any relationship right now and hasn't had sex in months, but I'm worried about a hypothetical situation where I'm trying to be responsible but for whatever reason an accidental pregnancy happens. I'm a young entrepreneur and I would literally be throwing my life away if I had to bring a child into the situation right now.

There are only two surefire options, abstain until I'm ready which I CAN do but I don't know how happy any girl I met would be with that (if she's not getting it from me is she going to just find somebody else)

Or I go and put some boys in a freezer in some science lab somewhere and then get snipped. I could still have children when I was ready, and I wouldn't have to worry about having any by accident ever again, the only downside is that when I did have kids I wouldn't be able to make them naturally and would have to go about it by alternative means (using my boys that I've saved for just this occasion).

My question is how would a woman view this? As a woman which man would you rather be with? The one who just doesn't have sex or the one who can't have kids with you the normal way ever.I'm afraid of getting a girl pregnant?
see a therapist manI'm afraid of getting a girl pregnant?
well u do sound 2 selfish for any kids or woman for that matter.
I would rather be with the guy that waits rather than the one that got snipped too early (though it is often possible to get that surgery reversed...but then again sometimes it reverses itself)

I think you should wait until you have a girlfriend that you trust, make sure she is on birth control, and use a condom. You should be covered then.

PS why would you want a girl that would leave you because you are practicing abstinence?

I feel like dying. My boyfriend broke up with me ove my future. How do I stop the pain him? I love him so much?

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, hes 18 and Im 17 (nearly 18). We lost our virginity to eachother and everything and he is the first boy I have ever loved. I would lay down and die for him, I love him so much. I don't care if you think I am too young to be in love, my mum was my age when she met my dad and they are still together and shes now 42.

To cut a long story short on sunday I went to his house. He kept cuddling me and kissing me and smelling me and generally acting strange. I asked why and he said he would tell me later, and that he had my late valentines card to give to me, but I would probably want to rip it up later. I thought he was acting really weird but he was being so loving. We slept together and everything, and he kept cuddling me and smelling my hair, saying how I was the perfect girl for him and not to ever forget that.

Eventually I managed to persuade him to tell me what he wanted to say but he hid under the duvet and couldn't say it. If you saw him, hes 6'1, athletic and into the whole hip-hop thing, so its not like hes soft or anything but he has adhd and wa stuttering and couldn't say what he wanted. Eventually he said ';I think..we should break up.';

It didn't sink in at first, and the first thing I could say was ';why?';. My boyfriend, or ex as he is now, is quite poor and he lives in a shared house, and only has one bedroom which he shares with his 16 year old brother. He had a difficult upbringing and relies on his dad for money. His reason for breaking up with me was that he needed to get his life back on track. He said that he loves me so much and wants me in his future, but the other day he ran out of food and his brother was hungry so he gave him everything in the cupboard, yet his brother was still starving, and it made him think that he can't do this any longer. He said that he needs to start training for football again, as he wants to make it as a professional, he needs to find a job, he needs to start running 20 miles a day and he wants to rent a house to near where I live so we can be together.

I understand his reasons but I don't understand why he cannot have a girlfriend at this time. The thought of him seeing anyone else makes me sick. We were both crying our eyes out and he was holding on to me and wouldn't let go.

I've bombarded him with calls and texts, which I know I shouldn't have as he says he needs space. I saw him two days ago to give back his clothes that I had (he told me to keep them I just wanted an excuse for seeing him), and he ended up kissing me, and even though I told him to stop as it wasn't fair he said he couldn't help it, and we kissed and one thing led to another and eventually we slept together. It felt like we hadn't even broken up. He dedicated the song ';So Nice'; by DK Ironik to me, and it started playing on his xbox as his playlist was on shuffle and we both started crying again.

He told me that he loves me and doesn't want any other girl. He said I'm beautiful and that I'm perfect for him and hes going to miss me so much but its just a temporary thing until he sorts out his life for him and his brother. He said he wanted to marry me and build our own house together with two dogs.

Since I have been home I havn't been to college. I just feel like dying. Every morning I wake up crying knowing that hes not mine any more. Last night I tried calling him like 20 times, he sent me a text saying ';a bit busy atm, text me later x';, but even though I have texted and texted he hasn't replied. He has free texts so thats not an excuse. He's been on facebook on his phone so I'm pretty sure that hes blanking me. I feel so hurt right now, I love him so much, and I just want to talk to him. I know I shouldn't have slept with him but at the time it felt so right. Please help me, what do I do?

I can't live without him.I feel like dying. My boyfriend broke up with me ove my future. How do I stop the pain him? I love him so much?
Let it go and keep ya chin up high.. Put makeup on and go out and mingle. Peace.I feel like dying. My boyfriend broke up with me ove my future. How do I stop the pain him? I love him so much?
Should have kept your legz clozed until marriage.
every one thinks theyre first love is the only love. every one feels that way especially if you lost your virginity to that person. trust me you will not even think of him in the future. cry, listen to sad music, whatever it takes to get over it. if hes ignoring you hes not interested, so move on with your life for now.
aww i know how hard first love is i was 18 when my first love split with me. It sounds as though he's using an excuse to be able to go out and do as he pleases. He's got you on tap - sex when he wants because youre that wrapped up about him but he can still go out with friends and other girls etc. You need to wise up, he could still be with you if he wanted to do all those things he said. The two of you would just see less of one another, theres no need for him to fully split with you. Unless of course hes a genuinely decent guy who doesnt want you being left in the background and neglected for ages. Maybe hes scared you'd stop loving him. More likely i think hes an 18 yo guy who wants to sleep about and go back to you later.
He just needs space to get his life back on track

dont make this harder for him than it already is

if you keep this up calling and being all miserable nothing good will come of it

your acting immature and like a baby

tell him you understand that you two are no longer together and that he should do what he feels he needs to do. wish him luck with getting back on track

then leave and do not contact him anymore just dont

it will be extremely hard but control yourself

dont skip college

and jeopardize your education that not smart

take the time you are apart to work on yourself more

develop a new hobby.. change a bad habit
You really need to do something VERY important right now. Please STOP TEXTING HIM OR TRYING TO GET HIS ATTENTION!!!! That never, ever works! All you're doing right now is justifying in his mind a reason to not be with you any more. Give him the space he needs, go out and have a life. I know it hurts a lot, we've all been there. But if you show him all the positive things about you and show him what a great life you have, then he'll probably start to miss you. Seriously, please don't bother him any more. It's SO important!!!! It's the only way you might actually get him back, but you must prepare yourself for the high chance that it really is over for good. Be strong.
He is not going to love you just because you love him so much. It looks like he is wanting to get away from you but is a little confused. Whatever it is, just let him go. If he really wants you, he will come back.

The more you try to force him to love you, the further away he will go. Just leave him alone for now and let him sort out his issues, whatever they may be. He has to take the step to come back to you as he is one who broke it off.

Don't message or call him for a week. From the looks of things, he might come back but you will have to let it happen that way and not chase him down. It will only make you lose what you want.
listen its really hard breaking up with your ';first'; some people deal with it differently. i have depression and it was really difficult for me. yeah its gonna hurt for a while just like all those cheesy songs say but its the god honest truth. this is a major event in your life and its something every young adult goes through. the pain from the separation your going through isnt from love its from hormones and having to leave your ';comfort zone'; as i like to call it. kinda like when you go to the gym for the first time and ur outta shape. see when were young were very vulnerable were unsure about alot of things and we tend to look for stability in anything we can find. being in relationships makes us feel grownup and like we have a grip on the world or like we have someone there to help us if anything happens. im not gonna ramble im just gonna say this in the best way i can. the best thing you can do is to even yourself out get rid of all his stuff go out with friends and mingle and try to stay active get into some sports go to the mall and stuff and parties if your parents will let you (: your not wrong for having sex with him your young and it happens doesn mean ur a bad person or anything i did the same thing when i was 15. just try to keep your chin up and realize that its just a growing pain.

How long can girls date anyone they want?

There's a girl I know that I work with, who is extremely physically attractive, she's 22 and seems that she can date any guy she wants. When I met her she seemed cool and the conversations were pretty general as far as subject, but I found out a little bit later that she was making fun of me behind my back and whatever, so I don't talk to her anymore. I think she's the type of person that feels better about herself if she puts others down. She was also dating some guy for a couple years, but during the whole time was cheating on him, she flirts with every guy she comes in contact with, uses people, and pretty much treats people like crap. Anyways, my question is, it seems that she can go around and do whatever she wants with no consequences, and I personally think it's only because of her physical appearance. It's kinda upsetting to me, because for me it's a struggle to even get anyone to talk to me and I always treat people well, and I never did anything to provoke her. I've heard that girls that are really attractive don't last to long or may become really unattractive, and the average girl will have an up on her in a couple years, is that true? Why does it seem that every really attractive girl I come in contact with has a horrible personality? What happens to people like this?How long can girls date anyone they want?
It all depends on how you carry yourself. You can look average, and have an amazing personality that draws people to you, and you can get everybody. Or you can be very attractive on the outside, but a pure b***h on the inside, and no one will want to be with you (with the exception of guys that only want one thing). My advice is to just be yourself. I have many very pretty friends with beautiful personalities. But for the ones without beautiful personalities, what goes around eventually comes around.

Tongue piercing questions?

Ok, I've been considering getting my tongue pierced, however I work at a place where we arent supposed to have visible ';facial'; piercings. I was thinking of still getting it and just seeing how it goes and if it became a problem to take it out. Im thinking I could get away with it because I dont talk with my mouth wide open. Questions

1- How much swelling should I expect after two days (i'd be off for two days before going back to work)

2- How far back would make it less visible?

3-Whats your overall opinion on girls with tongue rings?

4- Can i be pierced with clear jewelry?

5- Does it really chip your teeth?

Any other info you can give would be appreciated. Only people with tongue piercings or other body piercings answer please. Thanks :-)Tongue piercing questions?
Hiya

i had my tongue pierced now for over 2years... when i had it done..it swelled for a least a week..it all depends on your bodies reaction. Dont get it to far back. Have it like right in the middle. My work place doesnt allow piecings wither, but on ebay or other piecing places you can buy see throw tongue bars and no one can tell you have one it... No one knows at work that i have mine done..2years down the line! Lol...The only problem with my teeth is that the anamal of your teeth will not be brillant as the ball will rub sometimes, as it can be a habbit to move it around near your teeth..

Hope that helps you..and good luck! It dont hurt..lol

xTongue piercing questions?
Its going to be swollen for longer than 2 days and going to take you a while to get used to. Best thing to keep swelling down is to drink cold drinks or frozen ones. But keep in mind that after everything you put in your mouth you are suppose to use mouth wash after to keep from getting infected.

Yes you can crack your teeth. You can try plastic clear balls but then the plastic cracks. Both hurt if you bite really hard, which you will until you get used to it. I don't think you can really chose where it gets placed on your tongue. You can probably tell them to put it as far back as possible but they are limited by where blood vessels go, the muscle and some other things I think.

If you are otherwise a fairly classy and poised person, your tongue ring probably won't immediately give people a bad opinion of you. There are stil other things to take into account. If thats something your worried about, other visible tattoos and the way you dress, carry your self, how well spoken you are are also going to be considered. Also something to take into account is the effect it has on your teeth and gums. Supposedly it makes you more at risk for gingivitis and some other stuff.
It will swell to twice its size in thickness (usually)

The piercer will know how far back they can put it.

I think its WAY over rated!

It can not be pierced w/ clear jewelry but I think you can find a clear ball at first and then change it to all clear. I had mine for about 1 year and a bunch of people never noticed and I had silver. That was 10 years ago. I thought it was going to be better than it was. After a while it wasn't that cool anymore.

Yes it chips your teeth but you can get a plastic ball to reduce that part.
oh my goodness.. i wanted to till a read this recent article- and realized how dangerous it was.

http://www.torontosun.com/news/world/201鈥?/a>

ill answer your questions, but i would advise you to reconsider this

1. it takes about a week for the swelling to go down- just suck on a lot of ice

2. don't go to far, and make sure they use a UV light to check for veins that could burst upon impact of needle.

3. don't like them anymore, i don't find them trashy or anything, just overall grouse and unsanitary also it distracts someone when they talk to you because you'll just look at their tongue aha.

4. i believe they start you off with a metal bar, then change to plastic so you lessen the risk of chipping a tooth.

5. yes if you bite on the medal bar- it can also cause receded gums.

best of luck;

:)
1) mine didnt swell up much i was able to talk and be normal and no one noticed i had it done until i showed them but it also depends on the person

2) umm it doesnt matter the piercer will choose the best spot for it and it depends on how long your tongue is and how wide you open your mouth when you talk

3) i love my tongue ring! i think its a girl piercing not so much a guy piercing

4) nooo youll get a steel bar and when the swelling goes down go back to the piercer and have them change it into a clear barbell

5) it shouldnt unless you eat horribly. i did chip my tooth for it and idk how i did it but i did and it wasnt bad because it was a baby tooth so just be SUPER careful when you eat and stuff like that and you will have no problem at all :)

just make sure you clean it and DONT PLAY WITH IT! haha

triumphed over adversity

I made my gf feel bad and sad. can i make it up to her?

well we were laying in bed last night she was leaning on me and we were watching porn. she was not paying any attention so i was picking the videos and i watched one with a girl that had really really big boobs. and she was sorta paying attention and after that video was over she said what about this one we were watching it and i said man her boobs are small. my gf got a sad look on her face and said they are probably a c that is not really small.then i said i would never go out with a girl that small ( I DID NOT MEAN IT) her voice was shaky and said why not i said she is too small she said (in a shaky voice) oh. she moved she lay ed down and started txting. she txt my best friend and ask him if her thought i really meant what i was saying he said no you know how defensive he (i) get when people say they are small or stuff like that. she then txted her best friend and just told her and talked for a little wile. ( i red her messages i know i should not of but i did) she feel a sleep and in the morning when she woke up ( i was all ready up) i said good morning and she good morning :(. and i said why did you gust go to sleep last night and she said because i did. i said why did you take that offensive last night when i said she is small she looked like she was going to cry and she had a bra in her floor by her bed and picked it up and threw it at me and i read it 32 or 34 a ( i 4got which one she wares both). and she stuck her hed in pillow and started to cry. i did not mean it at all!!!!!!!!!! how can i make it up to her ?????????? please help

how can i make her feel god about her size?

how can i try to make what i said up to her? any ideasI made my gf feel bad and sad. can i make it up to her?
Tell her the entire truth, yes C's are small, but that doesn't matter to you because with her it's not about bra size, it's her and her alone and that you don't want to be with anyone else. Hold her, do whatever feels comfortable. Maybe buy her some flowers and surprise her with them when she gets back. You NEED to make her feel wanted and important. Go out of your way and do something for her bud. Take it easy.I made my gf feel bad and sad. can i make it up to her?
Get her chocolate and take her to her fav place or somethin-- shopping maybe?
you should try not being such a douche. you should feel like a jerk because you are one. i hope she moves on.

I'm afraid of getting a girl pregnant?

I feel like dying. My boyfriend broke up with me ove my future. How do I stop the pain him? I love him so much?

What should I do???? (about my boyrfriend)?

I have a boyfriend who is 18 and I am 15 and I find him one of the good people in my life. We have been going out for almost 5 months. His past is not the best being that he cheated on girls used them and hurt them, but he changed all that a year ago. We met on facebook from a friend and had an instant connection because we are the same race and have a good sense of humor. Over the months things have gotten worse he does not like to argue so things are never resolved and I am one of those people who is very nice and willing to make others happy always especially him, but I feel like he doesnt really do anything for me but ask for things or he will only do something if it benefits him. I have always settled for less and been through so much with guys and my self esteem and he will say how pretty another girl is and stare and let me know that he checked her out but he always says its a joke but it hurts. He has his good moments but I think he can do way better because I give so much for him to be happy, like I trust him so much no matter how much people who have known him for years tell me he is not good and will cheat on me or has. I am not feeling the care and love I felt in the beginning but just not as important anymore. I want to be happy with him but if Im not important enoug for him to listen to what I have to say then I dont know. Any advice would be helpful and so appreciated.What should I do???? (about my boyrfriend)?
never settle for an asshole. kill him.

How long can girls date anyone they want?

Tongue piercing questions?

How should i proceed with her?

I have been talking with a girl alot who goes to a college that is about 2 hours away. I've seen her twice in the last month, we really hit it off, and now talk almost every day. Now it's getting to the point where I need to decide if i should take things further, or decide that she's just to far away. Her hometown is about 30 min from me. How far is too far away? can a relationship work when you only see the person once or twice every couple weeks? how should i proceed with this?How should i proceed with her?
Ask yourself the question NOT ';can I live w this person?';, but ';can I live w/o this person';?. If you can live w/o then move on. If you are drawn to her more, love does whatever it takes to pursue. I lived 6 hrs away from my husband (before we married) and we had a great long distance relationship only seeing each other once a month. I'm not saying that you have to even love the person yet, but just realize or know that she is not someone that you can find just anywhere. If she is special pursue!!

I need help with this. Is anybody good at writing e-mails?

Okey... so I sent some angry e-mails to my ex-friend because he told me he was taking a one month vacation to another country 1 day after we start kissing and holding hands. And then I discovered he was actually in another country but he's ignoring me now because he thinks I'm crazy. He just dumped me about 2 hours ago.

I sent him this e-mail:

';Please give me another chance. When you called me last month I was so nervous about meeting you I went 24 hours without any sleep before my job interview. I think that inspite of everything, you are a really good person who has made many bad choices. You are the only Christian I know who measures up to my standard of purity but I didn't think I could ever be good enough for you so I tried to decrease your value by pretending not to know you. I am really defensive and slow to trust people because I get suicidal thoughts when I am in love with a man whose heart doesn't belong to me.';

Background info:

When we went out he used to see me once every 2-3 weeks.... and then he cut me out of his life without giving me any explanation... and later told me he thought I was ';crazy.'; And then I made a list of 20 - 30 accusations towards him when he was at my house this morning about how he mistreated me and didn't take me seriously... and he left after about an hour saying ';It's pretty obvious that you don't want me here.';

Then he says this:

';I am sorry but I think it is best for both of us if we stayed away from each other for good. I don't want to keep hurting you when it is clear that we want different things out of life. I also think it would be very beneficial for you to start seeing a psychiatrist or a psychologist about your issues. I hope you have a good and fulfilling life and that you find someone who will aprpeciate and love you but that is just not met. ONce again I am sorry if I hurt you but this is the best thing for everyone. Goodbye and don't worry, you will find someone.

Then I sent him this e-mail

';Do you remmber when you used to stutter when you talked? I remember watching you follow Clorissa around the student centre. U looked so miserable and chaotic but if some girl had given you a chance to be yourself you would have been normal after 3 weeks. I have never been close to a guy but if you give me a chance it won't take me long to adjust and I don't think I ever told you what God wanted me to do with my life. God told me to write books and to use the money to sponsor a chrisitan orphanage in africa. I told you about the tim hortons idea. I also want to get a phd in theology at an ivy league school once my book is published.';

Then I said

Let's meet for coffee.... (That was bout 35 minutes ago)

So what do I do now?I need help with this. Is anybody good at writing e-mails?
You seem to express yourself very well. I don't think you need any help. I am unable to evaluate the moral character of your ';ex-friend'; from here, but it is just possible he may be right about you. The relationship appears to be over in any case. You may need to move on.

How does she really feel about me?

So there was this girl that I 'dated' for about a month, but it was never really official. We became official a few days before Valentine's day and after that she stopped talking to me and a week later she told me that she had let me get to close to her and she wasn't ready for this yet (she's 15 and I'm 17) so it couldn't continue any further. It took me a couple weeks to get over her, and now I can talk to her again without it being awkward. However, every time I see her I think,';what if?'; and I still like her a lot. Would it be inappropriate if I tried to connect with her again like when we were 'dating' and maybe even ask her to a school dance? I miss how she made me feel but I don't want to screw up this friendship again. If so, how should I approach this?

So two months have passed since this and from the answers I got last time I left it alone and didn't approach it. We became friend again, and from proximity we started getting a lot closer again. She initiated a lot of the old stuff that we used to do, late night e-mails, calling me by the nickname she gave me again, she told me that I have no idea how much I still mean to her. Then things started getting awkward again and there was some distance for a week and a half or so. Then one night she was having some trouble with family so I just held her for a while to comfort her. Later that night she called me and left me a message which I didn't check for a few days. That next day though, I actually ended up asking her to my Prom and she said that she'd love to, and the day after that, I had checked my messages and in it she said that she loved me.

I was on the top of the world. However, things are really clinical between us now, it might just be the stress of AP testing but she doesn't email anymore, whenever she talks she usually just finds out what she wants to know then leaves. No greeting, no goodbye, and if she does say goodbye she tells me to stop talking so that she can leave. I remember how it was a long time ago when she'd say she'd have tons of work but she'd always take the time out of her day to write me a page long e-mail, and that even though she was really stressed out about school, that I would always be able to calm her down.

ANYWAYS, that was really long, if you actually read all of that.. BRAVO! %26gt;%26lt; So I guess I don't really know how I feel. I want things to go back to how they were the first time, when she would always tell me that I was on her mind, that she missed me, that I made her smile all the time. It's not like that even though she told me that she loved only two weeks ago. I'm afraid that this is following the same pattern as last time, I got to close and it just hit her so she's trying to back off. Right now I'm hoping its just stress, but still, circumstances like these never kept her from me the first time.How does she really feel about me?
Well I've certainly seen worse as far as length is concerned--so BRAVO lol

Now, from what I can gather from this situation you are seventeen years of age, one year from being a legal adult, she is fifteen...three years away from being out on her own. Let me try to elaborate from a female's perspective, if you do not mind.

Insecurity Number one : I was afraid to let go and love, now I have, will he try to take advantage of me?

This one is so common amongst women it will break even the strongest of relationships up, as with any insecurity if obsessive. After experiencing a yearning or ';love'; for an individual, for most likely the first time, the initial reaction will be fear. Fear of being tied down maybe, taken advantage of in a sexual aspect even if the subject has yet to arise, you name it, us females think it. In this case, an explanation or reassuring conversation must take place; state you have no intention upon hurting her, whether it be a relationship or friendship you maintain.

Insecurity Number two : I'm fifteen, he's seventeen...I'll still be in high school when he's partying in college. This one is pretty self-explanatory. College is a fearful word in any serious or in-the-process-of-developing relationship. The word that comes to mind when ';College'; is spoken is not Education, but ';Partying, Sex, Booze.'; When thinking about the reality of the age difference and situation, who would not feel insecure. Once more, communicate and address these insecurities she may have.

Insecurity number three : I'm fifteen, I have my whole life ahead of me. This is a tough one most mature teens face, I like to call you young adults but ';teens'; is so common a days, if I say young adult someone would most likely assume I'm referring to someone in their twenties (I'm a young adult or ';teen'; too -19). Often, a seventeen year old will have a proper up-bringing and find that emotion, heart, and personality is what shapes a human and seek a companion that embraces these feelings of adequacy. However at this age and your choices varying in age, those you may want or yearn for, may not be ready for such a commitment. This is where the statement, ';Nice guys finish last'; will come into play so to speak. If you truly care for this girl, inform her, as I stated previously about every other topic, that you are willing to wait until she finds the time to express herself honestly and openly about the future of your friendship or relationship.

I wish you good luck and do hope that everything will work out for the best.

Do try to call her, and if no answer is given, leave a simple, yet neutral tone voice mail stating, '; I would like to talk to you when you can find the time.'; No pressure, yet reminding her, this situation is still here, and I'm not going away.

Is he into me? Sorry this is kinda long.?

I have this guy who is a friend. We are very close. I have known him for over a year now and we have talked at least once everyday. We met during a difficult time in my life. I lost a child, he became my supporter when I had nobody else. My husband went off the deep end and my friend helped with advice on how to save my marriage. I tried everything. I asked the husband for counseling and he refused. It got to the point in my marriage that my husband had became abusive. I left my husband in October. Before I left my husband it was all friendship bw me and the friend. He has been divorced and had kids just like me. We are alike in so many ways we just click. I am 100% sure I have fallen in love with him. He is very sweet to me and makes me really happy. In the past I never noticed it before but if he was going out with a girl i'd get upset. I never noticed it until recently, only when we talked about it. He hasn't been seeing anyone I am positive of that. We have talked about dating and he says he likes me and only time will tell. At times I can see that he really cares for me and my kids. As I do him and his kids. He is so confusing though. He says things like you are so wonderful and exactly what I need in my life. Then he says you are not ready to love again. I can't explain how I feel about him. I just know that being around him makes me feel so whole. He literally takes my breath away. Im not sure he feels the same about me. he says he is cold hearted and has built a wall to keep others out. At times he beats around the bush and says he loves me and at others he says things like how he wishes he was in love with me. If I don't txt him or call he txts me or calls me. We have slept together only recently. Hes been around a year why would he spend a year being so close to me if all he wanted was sex? Does he truly care for me and is just afraid to show it? His ex had cheated on him and in return he did the same. He has said that he doesn't feel like he could be the husband I need. This is a man I have seen break down and cry. I have seen him at some of his worse days and some of his best. Am I wrong for wanting to have a realationship with him? For honestly feeling like I love him?Is he into me? Sorry this is kinda long.?
this dude loves 1 night stands and yur just handin um to him on a silver platterIs he into me? Sorry this is kinda long.?
he is into you

answer my question?

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No man invests a year of his life and the sharing of heartbreak to wrangle some easy sex. It sounds like he has chosen to harden his heart to love. He is not willing to risk the kind of heartbreak he has dealt with in the past. He is protecting himself. I think that he needs counseling. Is he Christian? He could talk with his pastor. I'm sorry, Christian is not the point, but if he attends spiritual meetings of any religion, he could talk with someone there who could help him. He needs to learn to trust, again. Until he does, he will not feel safe in any relationship. Stop the sex, keep on loving and caring for him. But you need to protect yourself, too.
From what you have just said, it sounds like he really does care for you but he has a very difficult time when it comes to trust. If all he wanted was sex, no he would not have stayed around for a year, I think there is more to it than that. Having an ex cheat on you can leave a scare very deep and for quite a long time. As a general rule of thumb, men take considerably longer to recover from emotional issues. Mostly because we tend not to face our emotion right away. Society has taught us to ';suck it up and be a man';. Thing's are changing in that respect, but very slowly. When he say you are not ready for love, it seems to me that he is saying that he might not be ready. The only panacea I can see for this right now is time. You have to allow for the trust to continue to develop. That fact that you were true to your ex-husband even while you were Friend with him and you did not cheat on your ex during that times says quite a good bit about your personality. That will definitely be in your favor.

If you feel that strongly for him, the best thing you can do is to be his friend. Don't be afraid to let him know how you feel, and tell him that if you thought you were ready for love again, that you hope it might be with him. From what you say, it sounds like your ready, he just might not be. The most important thing is to let him know you are there for him. The pain of betrayal (his ex) takes a long time to go away. He still needs to deal with that issue. When he says he does not feel like he could be the husband that you need, he might very well be telling you the truth about how he feels right now. Don't rush him, take your time. By the way, you already have a relationship with him, he just does not know it yet.

Best of luck to you, and be patient and take your time. especially for yours and his kids sake.

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