he is my best guy friend...
U used to have a crush on him a while back,
it ended by a kiss, and didn't further, he didn't love me, he only wanted to make out.
I was devastated a couple of weeks, and realized it was pointless, so I forgave him and he became friends. He usually sits beside me in classes, and comes over to my house after school.
we are all comfortable with each other so we joke around a lot, we laugh and all.
After our ';kiss'; I had two boyfriends... both failed.
1. the first failed because of me, I didn't love him and he annoyed me
2. failed b/c he cheated on me
My best guy friend after each break up helped me through it.
I don't know why but I feel really safe with him... I never felt that way before.
He is very flirtatious, he flirts with everyone.
I denied to myself that I loved him all the time b/c I always was scared I would get hurt.
Yesterday we kissed again... but while both drinking.
and I felt something... yet again.
I don't know why but I can't give up on him... it's like he is the one...
I don't know but I feel so happy with him.
he told me about how he falls in love with girls...
that he doesn't fall just that easily, that it takes time for him.
etc...
It seems that it is hopeless
and that we will stay friends forever....
Should I give up ?Should I just forget about this guy?
yeahShould I just forget about this guy?
Well,there is a chance as long as he wants to be your friend.Don't force the issue.But on the other hand,it may just be conventient to have you around just in case he can't find ''some'' somewhere else.Think about that.
Sunday, December 11, 2011
How can I apologize to my BEST friend after all that! help?
ok, here is the story I am a 16 years old girl , my best friend and I have been VERYY close friends for 3 years and this year i had too many problems at home and i used to be depressed she used to try to stay beside but i sometimes lost control and shouted or spoke to her in a bad way once towice and tree time ... this leaded to problem after problem and our relationship has weaken now she has a new best friend I try to apologize for that and fix things but she keeps on saying she wont believe words anymore everything inside her is broken in addition to the problems she had with me she had other issues she codnt tell me I think this situation needs action and not only apology but we are on a study leave now and our IGCSE exams are after 1 week so i dont get to see her at school and there is no time to go out WHAT CAN I DOO I REALLY NEED HER and i want her back :( HELLLPHow can I apologize to my BEST friend after all that! help?
Maybe you should write her a nice apology letter explaining her how you feel. Let her know how much she means to you in your life and that you will never find another friend like her and that you don't appreciate what you have until it's gone. Now you realize how special your friendship is and you'll never take it for granted again. Ask her for another chance and that you promise to change. After all that and if she doesn't accept your apology, then it's time to find a new best friend. Good luck hun.How can I apologize to my BEST friend after all that! help?
Something like That has happen to me and my Friend Did the same thing as your Friend is doing to you and trust i have try and try and try to make things right again but she just wont listen to me and i left so mad but if she wont listen to you then maybe it's time to move on My friend and i been friends for 13 years now and i'm 16 years old...it hurts a lot to throw all of that away but i only think of the good times not the bad. or Maybe u can remind her about something u both use to do together something to being u close again.
send a text
i feel sorry about what happened. If shes really a friend, she'd understand.. you were in a situation where you need a friend and she was there for you. you were right when u asked for an apology but if shes really a friend she dont need any of that. there are some things that is not under your control anymore at least you did your part, u asked for an apology and i commend you for that. If shes really a friend then she would stay through thick and thin. if you cant fix the things anymore that maybe because its not under you r power anymore.
Tell her that you knew you were acting like a b---- and you are sorry that you were not there for when she need a friend with her probems and that you understand her feelings. Tell her that you miss her friendship and need her as a friend, that is all you can do.
Maybe you should write her a nice apology letter explaining her how you feel. Let her know how much she means to you in your life and that you will never find another friend like her and that you don't appreciate what you have until it's gone. Now you realize how special your friendship is and you'll never take it for granted again. Ask her for another chance and that you promise to change. After all that and if she doesn't accept your apology, then it's time to find a new best friend. Good luck hun.How can I apologize to my BEST friend after all that! help?
Something like That has happen to me and my Friend Did the same thing as your Friend is doing to you and trust i have try and try and try to make things right again but she just wont listen to me and i left so mad but if she wont listen to you then maybe it's time to move on My friend and i been friends for 13 years now and i'm 16 years old...it hurts a lot to throw all of that away but i only think of the good times not the bad. or Maybe u can remind her about something u both use to do together something to being u close again.
send a text
i feel sorry about what happened. If shes really a friend, she'd understand.. you were in a situation where you need a friend and she was there for you. you were right when u asked for an apology but if shes really a friend she dont need any of that. there are some things that is not under your control anymore at least you did your part, u asked for an apology and i commend you for that. If shes really a friend then she would stay through thick and thin. if you cant fix the things anymore that maybe because its not under you r power anymore.
Tell her that you knew you were acting like a b---- and you are sorry that you were not there for when she need a friend with her probems and that you understand her feelings. Tell her that you miss her friendship and need her as a friend, that is all you can do.
What should i do about this drama with my horse? NEEP HELP FAST!?
so i adopted an abused horse not too long ago (he was beaten kept in bad conditions and starved, hes very very skinny and boney) well i talked to my barn about it and they agreed to let me keep him there. a few weeks after a new girl came to the barn, saw him, and started flipping out on me about how skinny he was and calling me an animal abuser and all this nasty stuff, after she was done i calmly told her that he was abused but not from me and that i adopted him and that i was getting him back up to health. SHE TOLD ME I WAS LYING!!!! this was about a week ago from today. well yesterday i was training/working/lounging him, trying to get him reacquainted with the whip so that he knows its not a bad thing and that it wont hurt him (scary as hell to do by the way!!) and he throws huge tantrums when im doing it but its something that needs to be worked out so that he doesn't hurt someone else, and i know it will take a while and i only do it for about 5 mins before moving on. well she came in while i was doing it and started screaming and flipping out on me talking about how i needed to be arrested and my horse taken because i was ';beating my horse'; at the time she came in the house was off the lead and aloud to roam where he pleased as i was feeding him sugar cubes and prapraising him and only trying to get close to him with the whip. so today i get a call from animal services or what ever about a complaint that i was abusing a horse and they came down to the barn too look things over, after i explained that i recently adopted him and showed paper work and pictures from when i first got him and that he has started to put on weight they said ok and everything was cleared up by them. but now my issue is this damn girl what do i do about her!?!?! shes nuts! i need advice asap!What should i do about this drama with my horse? NEEP HELP FAST!?
Oh that is awful! Good thing it's you and not me, I probably would have broke down and punched her. :/ Calling animal services... ridiculous. If you want to put weight on him faster, maybe switch to a different feed regimen and try some weight boosting supplements. As long as things are cleared up with the cops, pretty much all you can do is ignore her. If you don't have a temper like I do, you could try treating her VERY nicely, and maybe she'll loosen up a little. Maybe even suck up to her by offering to let her help you work with him? If you don't mind her being around him, that is. Ugh, I hate these kinds of problems! Best of luck to you, my prayers as well. :)What should i do about this drama with my horse? NEEP HELP FAST!?
tell her to mind her own friggin business... and then just ignore her and go about your business...
and if she continues, calmly tell her to step away from you and your horse because she is upsetting him...
then if she doesnt quit, maybe call her parents and tell them to tell her to lay off- (or her husband if she is an adult) or the barn people who allowed you to keep this poor sweet horse there and have them explain to her how she is screwed up and harrassing you...
good luck, and good luck rehabing your horse.
haha, sorry hard not laugh, she sounds ummm a lil on the crazy side. But you should put a huge bright sign on his stall saying he WAS abused, and recently adopted by you. Put on there the whole story and put a photo of him the first day you got him, then every now and then put a new photo of his progress!
Good luck with her!
Is there anyone at your barn who can help? Maybe an owner/manager who's opinion this girl trusts can help you out. It seems a little unfair that your on your own with this. I don't think it's great that she got to the point where she called animal services. People need to back you up!
If you can't find help, try to talk to her in a calm environment, away from your horse, and explain what's going on.
:( Good luck!!!!
You do not need help fast. That kind of attitude just adds to the drama. You got checked out. You got everything cleared up. Forget it. Your horse needs you to focus on him. You will run into whack jobs every where you turn. Select your friends with care and be polite to the rest. Love your horse. That's what's important.
If you are in the right, document everything. Do what you would normally do. And document everything. She is acting on emotion. Your documents will cover your rear. If this is a city girl who is reacting to what she dreams is reality the documents will let those who know she is over reacting. If you are in the wrong they will know this also by your lack of documentation. I am not there all know is what you have said. But as a farm raised girl who lives in the city I have met many city people who have some very unreal ideas of how life goes on the farm. If she is over reacting....her reports will be seen as such. Just make sure you are in the right...and do everything in your power to show so.
The last time I took on a neglected horse I made a big sign for his yard explaining his history. I also told the owner of the property and all the staff all about it to they could handle any questions from boarders or visitors. AND, I made him his own web page, so anyone could log on and see his whole story, and all the pictures of him as he progressed :-)
I've linked the old URL below - feel free to use the same format if you have a website you could put his story on for people to see!
Good luck!
Rachael
I think you are doing exactly right by this horse, and now animal control knows it as well. This gal clearly does not know what she is doing, In a year, you are going to have a well trained horse in good weight, and she will probably have a spoiled brat on her hands.
Keep documenting his improvement in case there are any more questions. But clearly, anyone who knows you and knows her will be able to figure out the real story for themselves.
I would go directly to the barn manager/owner. Don't talk to this girl because she obviously won't listen to you because she's already made up her mind that you are abusing your horse (ridiculous yes but that's what she's decided). Tell the barn manager about your interactions w/her and about the fact that you think she called animal services. This is something that the barn manager needs to address and it's their job to address problems in the barn. Just make sure that when you go to the barn manager, you state facts, not your opinion and you stay calm and don't reduce yourself to her type of behavior (yelling and acting irrationally, name calling etc.). The barn manager won't want to get involved if s/he sees it as a ';high school drama'; type situation, but if you approach the barn manager calmly and w/facts about what she has said and what happened w/animal control then s/he will be more likely to step in.
And when this girl approaches you in the future, just move away from her. Be polite but tell her that you are working w/your horse and you need to concentrate on what you are doing. I know it's hard to keep from screaming at her and telling her she's crazy but the high road is the road to take w/this type of person because NO MATTER what you say, she's already formed her opinion and she's going to shout it from the roof tops to anyone that will listen. Hopefully you've been at your barn long enough for the other boarders to know that what she is saying is wrong and they know the truth about you and your horse.
Good Luck!!! And thank you for adopting!!!
Oh that is awful! Good thing it's you and not me, I probably would have broke down and punched her. :/ Calling animal services... ridiculous. If you want to put weight on him faster, maybe switch to a different feed regimen and try some weight boosting supplements. As long as things are cleared up with the cops, pretty much all you can do is ignore her. If you don't have a temper like I do, you could try treating her VERY nicely, and maybe she'll loosen up a little. Maybe even suck up to her by offering to let her help you work with him? If you don't mind her being around him, that is. Ugh, I hate these kinds of problems! Best of luck to you, my prayers as well. :)What should i do about this drama with my horse? NEEP HELP FAST!?
tell her to mind her own friggin business... and then just ignore her and go about your business...
and if she continues, calmly tell her to step away from you and your horse because she is upsetting him...
then if she doesnt quit, maybe call her parents and tell them to tell her to lay off- (or her husband if she is an adult) or the barn people who allowed you to keep this poor sweet horse there and have them explain to her how she is screwed up and harrassing you...
good luck, and good luck rehabing your horse.
haha, sorry hard not laugh, she sounds ummm a lil on the crazy side. But you should put a huge bright sign on his stall saying he WAS abused, and recently adopted by you. Put on there the whole story and put a photo of him the first day you got him, then every now and then put a new photo of his progress!
Good luck with her!
Is there anyone at your barn who can help? Maybe an owner/manager who's opinion this girl trusts can help you out. It seems a little unfair that your on your own with this. I don't think it's great that she got to the point where she called animal services. People need to back you up!
If you can't find help, try to talk to her in a calm environment, away from your horse, and explain what's going on.
:( Good luck!!!!
You do not need help fast. That kind of attitude just adds to the drama. You got checked out. You got everything cleared up. Forget it. Your horse needs you to focus on him. You will run into whack jobs every where you turn. Select your friends with care and be polite to the rest. Love your horse. That's what's important.
If you are in the right, document everything. Do what you would normally do. And document everything. She is acting on emotion. Your documents will cover your rear. If this is a city girl who is reacting to what she dreams is reality the documents will let those who know she is over reacting. If you are in the wrong they will know this also by your lack of documentation. I am not there all know is what you have said. But as a farm raised girl who lives in the city I have met many city people who have some very unreal ideas of how life goes on the farm. If she is over reacting....her reports will be seen as such. Just make sure you are in the right...and do everything in your power to show so.
The last time I took on a neglected horse I made a big sign for his yard explaining his history. I also told the owner of the property and all the staff all about it to they could handle any questions from boarders or visitors. AND, I made him his own web page, so anyone could log on and see his whole story, and all the pictures of him as he progressed :-)
I've linked the old URL below - feel free to use the same format if you have a website you could put his story on for people to see!
Good luck!
Rachael
I think you are doing exactly right by this horse, and now animal control knows it as well. This gal clearly does not know what she is doing, In a year, you are going to have a well trained horse in good weight, and she will probably have a spoiled brat on her hands.
Keep documenting his improvement in case there are any more questions. But clearly, anyone who knows you and knows her will be able to figure out the real story for themselves.
I would go directly to the barn manager/owner. Don't talk to this girl because she obviously won't listen to you because she's already made up her mind that you are abusing your horse (ridiculous yes but that's what she's decided). Tell the barn manager about your interactions w/her and about the fact that you think she called animal services. This is something that the barn manager needs to address and it's their job to address problems in the barn. Just make sure that when you go to the barn manager, you state facts, not your opinion and you stay calm and don't reduce yourself to her type of behavior (yelling and acting irrationally, name calling etc.). The barn manager won't want to get involved if s/he sees it as a ';high school drama'; type situation, but if you approach the barn manager calmly and w/facts about what she has said and what happened w/animal control then s/he will be more likely to step in.
And when this girl approaches you in the future, just move away from her. Be polite but tell her that you are working w/your horse and you need to concentrate on what you are doing. I know it's hard to keep from screaming at her and telling her she's crazy but the high road is the road to take w/this type of person because NO MATTER what you say, she's already formed her opinion and she's going to shout it from the roof tops to anyone that will listen. Hopefully you've been at your barn long enough for the other boarders to know that what she is saying is wrong and they know the truth about you and your horse.
Good Luck!!! And thank you for adopting!!!
How to lose weight at age 12?
I am 12 years old (almost 13) girl and I have a sorta fat stomach, legs, and arms. Im not fat, im just a little overweight and i want to get rid of it as soon as possible. I am 4 feet and 6 inches tall (im short) and i weight about 94 pounds. Also im really shy about this. i stopped eating chips and some junk food. summer is coming up soon so i wanna get skinny for my bathing suit and all. also will swimming make me skinner? cause i have a membership to a gym place and im going to swim there soon and few times a week with my mom. PLEASE HELP!!!How to lose weight at age 12?
ONLY DRINK WATER! soda and juices make you gain weight like crazy.
You're young, so don't wait!! Just stay active, play with friends, play sports, and make sure to not snack when you're bored. thats what got me.How to lose weight at age 12?
I'm stuck in the same place you are. I am 11 though. I run around my neighborhood everyday with my friends to exercise. I try to eat healthy as much as I can. I eat a lot of fruits and vegetables. If you have a game system like the Wii, you can try Wii Fit with the balance board. It's fun and you also get to exercise!
I hope this will help you!
**((SANDRA))**
start going to that gym. swimming will help. any form of cardio (swim, walk, run, cycle, aerobics, dancing will help you lose weight. try eat a healthier diet. take weight loss slow or you will do your body and hormones some harm at 12.
If it makes you feel any better you are actually within the normal range for your height and weight (see link below).
You have made the step in the right direction by stopping or slowing the junk food you should also increase the amount of fruits and veggies you eat. Swimming is wonderful for weight management and overall health. Another great activity to tone the body (stomach, legs, and arms) is yoga. You can probably find a class at your gym or pick up a DVD to get started it will not only tone your body but increase flexibility, strength, and makes you feel great! Helps you to deal with stress and focus too a bonus for school.
You are on the right path keep it up!
I tried to lose weight for months before I was able to find a way to successfully lose weight. Instead of rewriting the article I found, you can read it here. http://ow.ly/1tU9l
ONLY DRINK WATER! soda and juices make you gain weight like crazy.
You're young, so don't wait!! Just stay active, play with friends, play sports, and make sure to not snack when you're bored. thats what got me.How to lose weight at age 12?
I'm stuck in the same place you are. I am 11 though. I run around my neighborhood everyday with my friends to exercise. I try to eat healthy as much as I can. I eat a lot of fruits and vegetables. If you have a game system like the Wii, you can try Wii Fit with the balance board. It's fun and you also get to exercise!
I hope this will help you!
**((SANDRA))**
start going to that gym. swimming will help. any form of cardio (swim, walk, run, cycle, aerobics, dancing will help you lose weight. try eat a healthier diet. take weight loss slow or you will do your body and hormones some harm at 12.
If it makes you feel any better you are actually within the normal range for your height and weight (see link below).
You have made the step in the right direction by stopping or slowing the junk food you should also increase the amount of fruits and veggies you eat. Swimming is wonderful for weight management and overall health. Another great activity to tone the body (stomach, legs, and arms) is yoga. You can probably find a class at your gym or pick up a DVD to get started it will not only tone your body but increase flexibility, strength, and makes you feel great! Helps you to deal with stress and focus too a bonus for school.
You are on the right path keep it up!
I tried to lose weight for months before I was able to find a way to successfully lose weight. Instead of rewriting the article I found, you can read it here. http://ow.ly/1tU9l
So there's this girl I want to get to know, but...?
So here's the story
I've seen this girl around all of High School and have been interested in her, but I haven't been able to be around her for long periods of time up until now
So I'm a senior and she is in my english class (and she'll be going to a college close by to where I'll be)
so I got her number and I've tried talking to her
I had one or 2 really good conversations with her then it almost seems like she doesn't want to talk
and it all seems one sided to me like she doesn't want to participate
How should I go about this? (I want to still get to know her though)So there's this girl I want to get to know, but...?
well get to know her better without talking to her. ask people close to her things like whats her favorite color, her favorite animal, ya know; the basics!
don't talk about nothing. talk about something she would want to talk about.
if she doesn't want to talk to you she will show massive body language hints. pay attention to what she is concentrating on: your face(good) or everything but you(bad).if she doesn't want to talk to you she will also say thing like uh-huh and ya. if it seems like she doesn't want to talk to you, don't force her to! that will only make things worse.if she's in you class, offer to do things for her AND the people around her (like throwing away their trash) if you only offer things to her she may become uncomfortable and this would be the opposite reaction. in helping other people around her, this will make her more comfortable and will help her not to think that people will start to gossip about her and you being together.(something she may be terrified about)
good luck!advice your mother gave you
I've seen this girl around all of High School and have been interested in her, but I haven't been able to be around her for long periods of time up until now
So I'm a senior and she is in my english class (and she'll be going to a college close by to where I'll be)
so I got her number and I've tried talking to her
I had one or 2 really good conversations with her then it almost seems like she doesn't want to talk
and it all seems one sided to me like she doesn't want to participate
How should I go about this? (I want to still get to know her though)So there's this girl I want to get to know, but...?
well get to know her better without talking to her. ask people close to her things like whats her favorite color, her favorite animal, ya know; the basics!
don't talk about nothing. talk about something she would want to talk about.
if she doesn't want to talk to you she will show massive body language hints. pay attention to what she is concentrating on: your face(good) or everything but you(bad).if she doesn't want to talk to you she will also say thing like uh-huh and ya. if it seems like she doesn't want to talk to you, don't force her to! that will only make things worse.if she's in you class, offer to do things for her AND the people around her (like throwing away their trash) if you only offer things to her she may become uncomfortable and this would be the opposite reaction. in helping other people around her, this will make her more comfortable and will help her not to think that people will start to gossip about her and you being together.(something she may be terrified about)
good luck!
How can I get this virgo boy?
I'm pisces girl living in a coed house with virgo guy. he is soo sweet and nice and well mannered. he is very hard to get to know, since we are both so shy. the thing is i always catch him staring at me! he does things for me, like open doors and donates to my charity, and finished a piece of chocolate i didn't want, but i thnk he's just being nice? we have hung out more and now he's seems a bit more comfortable coming up to me and starting a convo. he always seems to be around me (even if not directly talking to me). what should i do? flirt? the only thing is he hooked up with my capricorn friend last year, but doesn't seem interested in a r/s. They made out again two nights ago, so i'm guessing he doesn't like me then...How can I get this virgo boy?
I';m a virgo we are naturally shy even if we like the person. We are nice to everyone cause that is in our nature. You need to give him sign like flirt with him so he can know that you are feeling him. We don't know if someone likes us. And we don't want to make a move and get hurt. So I say go for it and tell him that you like him. It would be much better so that he knows and can give you all of his time.How can I get this virgo boy?
If he hooked up with your friend you back off. Period.
I';m a virgo we are naturally shy even if we like the person. We are nice to everyone cause that is in our nature. You need to give him sign like flirt with him so he can know that you are feeling him. We don't know if someone likes us. And we don't want to make a move and get hurt. So I say go for it and tell him that you like him. It would be much better so that he knows and can give you all of his time.How can I get this virgo boy?
If he hooked up with your friend you back off. Period.
There may be a girl that I know who...?
Okay, so i am asian. I love black girls, the way they head bang makes me tickle in the you know what areas tehe. Anyway, I am a girl like many of you girls but except for one difference. For some reason i like police booty? I wear those outfits all the time and turn the lights off (my sister sometimes says ';Hey, where the light?'; haha) and pretend I solve a mystery of drugs and I get capture with my gun and I just need to know if it is normal to want a black girl to help my fantasy, because theres a girl at school who hints that she likes it (how i got into it in the first place) and she wants to come over next thursday when my parents aren't home. My mom says black girls are trouble, but I don't believe her, what should I do?There may be a girl that I know who...?
Black girls are trouble? Race is a social construct. The color of a person should not matter in anything. If that's what you like, hey, that's what you like.There may be a girl that I know who...?
Uhm, ignore the racist bigot?
Obviously sneaking this girl in will help your mothers racist view of African Americans. Its an excellent idea
this is the best answer
Black girls are trouble? Race is a social construct. The color of a person should not matter in anything. If that's what you like, hey, that's what you like.There may be a girl that I know who...?
Uhm, ignore the racist bigot?
Obviously sneaking this girl in will help your mothers racist view of African Americans. Its an excellent idea
this is the best answer
What else should I add to it/fix it? (free writing) OPINIONS.. Ideas?
I just found this thing i wrote in 2009.... and i felt. like getting other opinions on it... so...
Turn the dead bolts on them doors. Jam them up real good. Get your finger intertwined with the metallic shine. Glaze your eyes towards the attachments. They blame your roving eye for the insolence. Never, did you become the ';dead bolt';; never did you have to bare the obscenities of life. I was your crutch, your back up guy. Protection is what they bring; security is what they behold to us, pompous narcissists. We glide into our luxurious cars, ride away into the night sky expecting those dead bolts to protect us, our belongings our life. Too trusting we are, too vulnerable we are.
Dead bolts what can they do, but blockade the door from intruders. Intruders not only in the physical sense but robbers who rob us of our self worth, our beliefs, our motivations. Robbed, left to shatter into a corner and ball uncontrollably. Tears you say, quite childish to shed tears, but the only way to overcome and let out our insecurities is through shedding tears. Tears fall as realizations of what someone has done to us or what we've done to ourselves. Look at her she weeps and weeps, they ask her why fair child? Why do you weep? She replies, ';For I do not know, this world is slowly self destructing and I myself will go down with it as well”. They gawk at her. They think poor, poor, girl how could you think such wretched things. She must have an oppressor, or she might just be mad, purely mad. Ahha.. insanity is everyone's friend ; scratch friend companion.
I know there are a lot of grammatical errors.... but oh well i'll fix it later...What else should I add to it/fix it? (free writing) OPINIONS.. Ideas?
fix yu head with what yu all yu have and then screw it like that dead bolt.
Turn the dead bolts on them doors. Jam them up real good. Get your finger intertwined with the metallic shine. Glaze your eyes towards the attachments. They blame your roving eye for the insolence. Never, did you become the ';dead bolt';; never did you have to bare the obscenities of life. I was your crutch, your back up guy. Protection is what they bring; security is what they behold to us, pompous narcissists. We glide into our luxurious cars, ride away into the night sky expecting those dead bolts to protect us, our belongings our life. Too trusting we are, too vulnerable we are.
Dead bolts what can they do, but blockade the door from intruders. Intruders not only in the physical sense but robbers who rob us of our self worth, our beliefs, our motivations. Robbed, left to shatter into a corner and ball uncontrollably. Tears you say, quite childish to shed tears, but the only way to overcome and let out our insecurities is through shedding tears. Tears fall as realizations of what someone has done to us or what we've done to ourselves. Look at her she weeps and weeps, they ask her why fair child? Why do you weep? She replies, ';For I do not know, this world is slowly self destructing and I myself will go down with it as well”. They gawk at her. They think poor, poor, girl how could you think such wretched things. She must have an oppressor, or she might just be mad, purely mad. Ahha.. insanity is everyone's friend ; scratch friend companion.
I know there are a lot of grammatical errors.... but oh well i'll fix it later...What else should I add to it/fix it? (free writing) OPINIONS.. Ideas?
fix yu head with what yu all yu have and then screw it like that dead bolt.
I like this girl, but i don't want to date her (Attention whore) She is starting to get addicted to weed?
I like this girl, i fell in and out of love with her, she and I know each other very well, she is kind of a flirt with guys, i did not intend to fall in love with her, but no one has control over love.
I told her i like her, she likes me, but we don't want to date, she is kind of a big mouth, saying stupid stuff on the bus like ';my boobs are so big'; and everyone just looks and goes like ';wdf';. And she tends to lie a lot.
I try to denie to myself i still have feelings for her, but i still care for her.
she is hanging out with the wrong guys.
She started smoking weed and she loves it now, im afraid she is going to ruin her life, because she is the kind of person who will get addicted from the attention of smoking and being high around others.
I have seen close friends ruin their lives from getting addicted, grades going from 90 to 40 just because they can't control the addiction.
I do ocationally smoke weed when there is a party or what not, but i know how to control it (smoking on about 3 times a year) and Im afraid she doesn't know what shes getting into.
I am going to go smoke with her this week, to see how she acts and what she does.
should i tell her to stop? she thinks its just for fun and attention now, but i know for sure she will fall into the drug.
This is my last semester in school with her, she will still be in school for another year, and im kind of watching over her, but im afraid when im gone, she is going to end up like the 19 year old girls still in grade 9 classes.
what do i do? please help.I like this girl, but i don't want to date her (Attention whore) She is starting to get addicted to weed?
Dude, you guys should so have never gotten into smoking the stuff, but whatever.
You should really tell her you are worried about her because you care. Tell her how her life could be affected. How the effect could have her abused by men in the future, her having to rely on others for money because she cant go to school and get a decent job. I dont know.
And the love thing. It's just gonna hurt. When you eventually get a new girl, she wont be your focus. Either way when you graduate, you guys will probably grow apart sooner or later. Depending on what your plans are.
But really, if she woulda never got on the weed, she wouldve been SO much better off.
Mmm, good luck.I like this girl, but i don't want to date her (Attention whore) She is starting to get addicted to weed?
its been a while and ur right, i dont even care about her anymore lol
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dont smoke weed, it'll attracct the wrong attention
she isn't worth your time.just move on to someone more suitable for your personality.
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yes you shuold tell her to stopp. she'll ruin her life.
she really needs a reality checkk.
practice what you preach and talk to her she does want attention and suffers from low self - esteem issues but once you are gone she probably will be a mess you are telling her not smoke dope but on the other hand you are a user of it
your dr frankenstien you 've created a monster u started her on weed
She isn't worth it at all. Don't lower yourself to her level just find someone way better.
well i can help you with the last thing all you have to is make some friends in the lower grades and they'll watch over her for you but the rest wtf when she says:my boobs are so big LEAVE HER.
No offence...but you have no right to tell her not to smoke it if your sitting right beside her smoking it too !!! I think you should BOTH quite before you ruin BOTH your lives.
If you're really worried about her, stop her, talk to her !
She really is gonna get herself hurt if she keeps it up like this.
And like you said...19 yrs old and still a Freshman ?
I'm sure she wouldn't really want that.
you need to move on
you cannot help someone without their wanting to be helped You can attend meetings to learn much more,call Narcotics anonymous and tell them you have a friend who is an addict and you want to attend meetings for friends and loved ones of addicts that's my best answer
I told her i like her, she likes me, but we don't want to date, she is kind of a big mouth, saying stupid stuff on the bus like ';my boobs are so big'; and everyone just looks and goes like ';wdf';. And she tends to lie a lot.
I try to denie to myself i still have feelings for her, but i still care for her.
she is hanging out with the wrong guys.
She started smoking weed and she loves it now, im afraid she is going to ruin her life, because she is the kind of person who will get addicted from the attention of smoking and being high around others.
I have seen close friends ruin their lives from getting addicted, grades going from 90 to 40 just because they can't control the addiction.
I do ocationally smoke weed when there is a party or what not, but i know how to control it (smoking on about 3 times a year) and Im afraid she doesn't know what shes getting into.
I am going to go smoke with her this week, to see how she acts and what she does.
should i tell her to stop? she thinks its just for fun and attention now, but i know for sure she will fall into the drug.
This is my last semester in school with her, she will still be in school for another year, and im kind of watching over her, but im afraid when im gone, she is going to end up like the 19 year old girls still in grade 9 classes.
what do i do? please help.I like this girl, but i don't want to date her (Attention whore) She is starting to get addicted to weed?
Dude, you guys should so have never gotten into smoking the stuff, but whatever.
You should really tell her you are worried about her because you care. Tell her how her life could be affected. How the effect could have her abused by men in the future, her having to rely on others for money because she cant go to school and get a decent job. I dont know.
And the love thing. It's just gonna hurt. When you eventually get a new girl, she wont be your focus. Either way when you graduate, you guys will probably grow apart sooner or later. Depending on what your plans are.
But really, if she woulda never got on the weed, she wouldve been SO much better off.
Mmm, good luck.I like this girl, but i don't want to date her (Attention whore) She is starting to get addicted to weed?
its been a while and ur right, i dont even care about her anymore lol
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WASTE OF TIMEEE
dont smoke weed, it'll attracct the wrong attention
she isn't worth your time.just move on to someone more suitable for your personality.
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yes you shuold tell her to stopp. she'll ruin her life.
she really needs a reality checkk.
practice what you preach and talk to her she does want attention and suffers from low self - esteem issues but once you are gone she probably will be a mess you are telling her not smoke dope but on the other hand you are a user of it
your dr frankenstien you 've created a monster u started her on weed
She isn't worth it at all. Don't lower yourself to her level just find someone way better.
well i can help you with the last thing all you have to is make some friends in the lower grades and they'll watch over her for you but the rest wtf when she says:my boobs are so big LEAVE HER.
No offence...but you have no right to tell her not to smoke it if your sitting right beside her smoking it too !!! I think you should BOTH quite before you ruin BOTH your lives.
If you're really worried about her, stop her, talk to her !
She really is gonna get herself hurt if she keeps it up like this.
And like you said...19 yrs old and still a Freshman ?
I'm sure she wouldn't really want that.
you need to move on
you cannot help someone without their wanting to be helped You can attend meetings to learn much more,call Narcotics anonymous and tell them you have a friend who is an addict and you want to attend meetings for friends and loved ones of addicts that's my best answer
How can a shy guy get a girl?
I'm an eighteen year old boy who is shy around girls but I am a smart, very like-able person who is friendly and average looking.
I don't have any girl friends but I am liked by all the girls I know as I'm good person so my question is how do I talk to girls to become friends with them?
I am attracted to shy girls the most, do they like shy boys?
Will a girl be impressed if she is approached by a boy who is obviously shy and nervous but has the courage to talk to her specifically?How can a shy guy get a girl?
I'm a shy girl, and I would be totally impressed. You sound like my type actually =3 haha
I adore shy guys. It shows they're not up themselves, and that they are likely to think similarly to me. In fact I find an overly confident guy to be a turn off... I don't like it at all. So don't worry! They'll be plenty of girls who think like this!
So, do what you feel like you can do, maybe stretch yourself a tiny bit, and be yourself. Approach girls and become friends with them- then if you find you like someone, ask her out to see a film with you or something.
Hope I helped and good luck!How can a shy guy get a girl?
Marry Iris. :)
I'm not shy myself, but I like shy guys and have no problem whatsoever to make the first move. Maybe I'm shy inside, and that's why I like them.
Ask a Girl out ..... the worst that can happen is that she says no
What have you got to lose? She may find u weired and walk away then so what? or she may hang around for a date and never talk to you again, simply move on to the next one... You have nothing to lose, be wild and crazy just go up and talk to one just for the heck of it.. I'm shy and I like shy girls even though i ended up with an outgoing one now I know exactly what you mean. just try to stop thinking so hard and get your focus on her. There is no rush for anything either
generally the shy guy ends up with an outgoing girl because they need someone to break them out of the shell...but theres no law that says a shy guy cant have a shy girl...hey it may even be better because you guys can grow together. i would say start off with becoming more social with girls period even if your not attracted to them.
LOOK U R 18,,SMART N A VERY LIKEABEL PERSON,,HEY ALL U REALLY HAVE TO DO IS JUST START TALKING TO ANY GIRL,,,MAKE FRIENDS WITH THEM ALL THEN U WILL BE ABEL TO CHOOSE WHICH ONE U WANT TO BE YOUR GF,,,AND SHY GIRLS LOVE IT WEN THE GUY NOTICES THEM FIRST AND STARTS TALKING TO THEM,,CAUSE LOOK HOW SHY U R,,,SHY GIRLS MAKE VERY GOOD FRIENDS,,CAUSE NOBODY DOSE TALK TO THEM,,GO FOR IT HAVE FUN,,,PEACE
Yeah, perhaps it will be a surprise to this girl. Normally I can tell if someone likes me by the way they look at me, the eyes are the window to the soul. Talk to a woman friend of yours about advise, and I'm sure if your a nice guy some chicks will dig ya. You will in the end be told no more than yes, but in the end the yeses make the nos worth while if that makes sense.bios error beep java
I don't have any girl friends but I am liked by all the girls I know as I'm good person so my question is how do I talk to girls to become friends with them?
I am attracted to shy girls the most, do they like shy boys?
Will a girl be impressed if she is approached by a boy who is obviously shy and nervous but has the courage to talk to her specifically?How can a shy guy get a girl?
I'm a shy girl, and I would be totally impressed. You sound like my type actually =3 haha
I adore shy guys. It shows they're not up themselves, and that they are likely to think similarly to me. In fact I find an overly confident guy to be a turn off... I don't like it at all. So don't worry! They'll be plenty of girls who think like this!
So, do what you feel like you can do, maybe stretch yourself a tiny bit, and be yourself. Approach girls and become friends with them- then if you find you like someone, ask her out to see a film with you or something.
Hope I helped and good luck!How can a shy guy get a girl?
Marry Iris. :)
I'm not shy myself, but I like shy guys and have no problem whatsoever to make the first move. Maybe I'm shy inside, and that's why I like them.
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Ask a Girl out ..... the worst that can happen is that she says no
What have you got to lose? She may find u weired and walk away then so what? or she may hang around for a date and never talk to you again, simply move on to the next one... You have nothing to lose, be wild and crazy just go up and talk to one just for the heck of it.. I'm shy and I like shy girls even though i ended up with an outgoing one now I know exactly what you mean. just try to stop thinking so hard and get your focus on her. There is no rush for anything either
generally the shy guy ends up with an outgoing girl because they need someone to break them out of the shell...but theres no law that says a shy guy cant have a shy girl...hey it may even be better because you guys can grow together. i would say start off with becoming more social with girls period even if your not attracted to them.
LOOK U R 18,,SMART N A VERY LIKEABEL PERSON,,HEY ALL U REALLY HAVE TO DO IS JUST START TALKING TO ANY GIRL,,,MAKE FRIENDS WITH THEM ALL THEN U WILL BE ABEL TO CHOOSE WHICH ONE U WANT TO BE YOUR GF,,,AND SHY GIRLS LOVE IT WEN THE GUY NOTICES THEM FIRST AND STARTS TALKING TO THEM,,CAUSE LOOK HOW SHY U R,,,SHY GIRLS MAKE VERY GOOD FRIENDS,,CAUSE NOBODY DOSE TALK TO THEM,,GO FOR IT HAVE FUN,,,PEACE
Yeah, perhaps it will be a surprise to this girl. Normally I can tell if someone likes me by the way they look at me, the eyes are the window to the soul. Talk to a woman friend of yours about advise, and I'm sure if your a nice guy some chicks will dig ya. You will in the end be told no more than yes, but in the end the yeses make the nos worth while if that makes sense.
Girl trouble, I am desperate for help?
I use to go out with a girl named Nicole on and off but now its officially over but she does not want to get over me and its hard for the both of us. I mean I have tried to and I told her but we can never completely get over each other for we have the same classes and same friends so we have to be together, atleast she can't get over me, I want for this all to end because its way too much drama but she is also one of my closest friends. But the problem gets worses, I met this amazing girl on Facebook and I feel very attached to her already and we are planning to meet up soon and neither of us are creepers. But Nicole is still convinced she loves me and I have even said it back because I feel caged and cornered, like I have no choice. So me and the other girl (Olivia) might end up going out and I have no idea how to tell Nicole, because I have to. But there is way I could do this, I could just keep Olivia a secret and then since summer is so near I could just let our friendship kinda drift apart and then she would probably not have any feelings for me anymore. Please I need your opinions and solutions.Girl trouble, I am desperate for help?
Omg are you 14?Girl trouble, I am desperate for help?
Well don't dodge the bullet because it won't help. it's going to break her heart anyway. if you try to ignore her, she'll just stalk you lol. just talk to her one night, casually, and talk about your feelings. say you still want her as a friend and you still want things to be over but you don't want the drama. tell her she's pretty and she could have any guy she wants. your guys' hearts just don't dance to the same beat. but ya, don't dodge the bullet. it never helps
You planed it, even if you said she's just a friend.
If you are interested in someone else and you feel cornered by your ex's feelings for you, it is time to tell it to her straight. Trust me, although it might break her heart in the short term, you will have more chance at friendship if you are straight up and honest with her. She will thank you for it eventually. Don't keep Olivia a secret and string your ex along, it is cruel and a scumbag thing to do, and I guarantee if your ex finds out she will hate you so much more than if you had just been honest with her in the first place.
Good luck, it's hard but you have to just suck it up and do it.
Omg are you 14?Girl trouble, I am desperate for help?
Well don't dodge the bullet because it won't help. it's going to break her heart anyway. if you try to ignore her, she'll just stalk you lol. just talk to her one night, casually, and talk about your feelings. say you still want her as a friend and you still want things to be over but you don't want the drama. tell her she's pretty and she could have any guy she wants. your guys' hearts just don't dance to the same beat. but ya, don't dodge the bullet. it never helps
You planed it, even if you said she's just a friend.
If you are interested in someone else and you feel cornered by your ex's feelings for you, it is time to tell it to her straight. Trust me, although it might break her heart in the short term, you will have more chance at friendship if you are straight up and honest with her. She will thank you for it eventually. Don't keep Olivia a secret and string your ex along, it is cruel and a scumbag thing to do, and I guarantee if your ex finds out she will hate you so much more than if you had just been honest with her in the first place.
Good luck, it's hard but you have to just suck it up and do it.
How can I get my female friend to want something more romantic?
So i've got this friend of mine who I like romantically. A couple of times she's expressed a similar interest, telling me she was sick of fighting how she really felt, but then soon after she has gone back to saying she 'just doesn't see me that way' and while there is something there, she doesn't want to persue it. She's told me before that she's liked me since we met (same with me) but she really doesn't act like it. Now I feel like i've pushed her away over the years by seeing other girls, but I only really want her. I've tried telling her exactly how I feel, but she just never listens. How can I get her to see me in the same way I see her?How can I get my female friend to want something more romantic?
aw! let me just say... thats so cute! and sweet!
but anyway, all you can do is let her know you are serious. she might not take you seriously considering you have been with other girls and stuff. explain to her that you really only want her and you always have. and make sure you tell her what it is you like about her... since you are friends you probably know a lot about her! and thats worth more than some other guy she just met
aw! let me just say... thats so cute! and sweet!
but anyway, all you can do is let her know you are serious. she might not take you seriously considering you have been with other girls and stuff. explain to her that you really only want her and you always have. and make sure you tell her what it is you like about her... since you are friends you probably know a lot about her! and thats worth more than some other guy she just met
How do I get a boy to ask me out?
I think he likes me. We've grown really close in the past two or three weeks. I try to be alone with him but someone always comes and talks to him about other girls who like him. He holds my hand a lot, but as soon as I look down at our hands and look up and smile he pulls away quickly. I really want him to ask me out. He's just so cute and sweet! He laughs at my lame jokes, and he's really funny. So, how do I get him to ask me out? And hint for a kiss? (I've NEVER had my first kiss, and I really want it...)How do I get a boy to ask me out?
next time he holds your hand and pulls away, pull it back and say i dont mind. then he'll know that like him. then tell him that u like him... alot and see if he will tell you for sure. if he says he does, ask him wat now and hopfully he will ask you out thenHow do I get a boy to ask me out?
You can't get him to ask you out. You have to either ask him yourself (which I see nothing wrong with) or maybe tell one of his friends you like him. Either that or continue doing what you are doing and if he liked you enough he will ask you out himself. Goodluck.
By asking him to prom, making out with a popular girl, then ditching for ever... Hahha, stargirl, great book ;)
You know you can ask him out, right? Don't just sit around waiting for him to ask you out. Take the initiative.
Hmmmm... every thing is perfect, just have patience... Never run fast when it come to boys they change their opinions very fast... So, have patience and enjoy what ever going on.....
GOOD LUCK
Just ask him out it's as easy as that. If he says yes, great. If he says no, you'll get over it and move on. Better than spending a lifetime waiting and hoping.
Follow this advice tell him you are not wearing any bloomers and if he say that is disgusting.Say well it's true because I were teddy's and panties.I don't think he would be upset with that.
tell em how you feel.. take him to a place private place and say what you need to say.. hes not gonna ask you out because hes to shy. (im not) lol.. so the only way to go out with him is probably for u to ask him out
next time he holds your hand and pulls away, pull it back and say i dont mind. then he'll know that like him. then tell him that u like him... alot and see if he will tell you for sure. if he says he does, ask him wat now and hopfully he will ask you out thenHow do I get a boy to ask me out?
You can't get him to ask you out. You have to either ask him yourself (which I see nothing wrong with) or maybe tell one of his friends you like him. Either that or continue doing what you are doing and if he liked you enough he will ask you out himself. Goodluck.
By asking him to prom, making out with a popular girl, then ditching for ever... Hahha, stargirl, great book ;)
You know you can ask him out, right? Don't just sit around waiting for him to ask you out. Take the initiative.
Hmmmm... every thing is perfect, just have patience... Never run fast when it come to boys they change their opinions very fast... So, have patience and enjoy what ever going on.....
GOOD LUCK
Just ask him out it's as easy as that. If he says yes, great. If he says no, you'll get over it and move on. Better than spending a lifetime waiting and hoping.
Follow this advice tell him you are not wearing any bloomers and if he say that is disgusting.Say well it's true because I were teddy's and panties.I don't think he would be upset with that.
tell em how you feel.. take him to a place private place and say what you need to say.. hes not gonna ask you out because hes to shy. (im not) lol.. so the only way to go out with him is probably for u to ask him out
This girl hurt me so much, what should I do?
I just got out of a relationship...3 Years with this girl, and she was my bestfriend before we got together. We were eachothers firsts, and highschool sweethearts...Sadly, over the years she has always hurt me by doing stupid things while we were together. I'm 20 now and shes 19 and it ended about 2-3 Weeks ago.
Anyways, a few days later she starts dating this 28 Year old, and shes 19...And has already slept with him more than once and goes on secluded camping trips with him...Like wtf, she's changing so much.. Anyways Im moving to a different city closer to family and for school in the fall and to just get away from her so I have time to heal.
Before I leave she says she really wants to say goodbye to me in person, but apart of me wants to just leave without saying goodbye to say ';You've hurt me, so I'll hurt you'; but I know if I do that I'll regret it...but if I do not say goodbye, it shows how strong I am, and telling her that I don't need her anymore...I still love her very much but she clearly doesnt love me for doing this crap with such an older guy..It disgusts me...Anyways, any advice would be great.This girl hurt me so much, what should I do?
Follow your heart. I personally would not say goodbye, not out of revenge, simply out of a sense of dignity. It sounds as if she did not show much respect for your relationship. How serious did she take the relationship if a few days later she was already dating another guy? She wants to say goodbye to you in person because she feels guilty. Once she turns round the corner, the boyfriend will be waiting for her so that they can go on another camping trip. How vomiting. Start building a good self-esteem and let her disrespect somebody else. If you don't, I'll see you again on this site some time in the future with a new story (I'm 30 now and she's 29...she left me for a guy who is rich and they go on secluded boat trips...etc...etc). See what I mean?This girl hurt me so much, what should I do?
pretend you have a girlfriend really hott girl and show off on her too
I would leave without saying anything to her. You owe her nothing. She is just having a guilt trip.
Move on with your life in a new city, and good luck.
dont say goodbye. she might even be doing this just on rebound, or to shove it in your face. just leave, and show you dont need that in your life. seeing her again is just going to make the cut deeper than ever, trust me. if anything, get back in touch with her in a few months or a year or so, to be friends. right now, seeing her and saying goodbye will just be too much and not help ANYTHING. be stong%26lt;3
Anyways, a few days later she starts dating this 28 Year old, and shes 19...And has already slept with him more than once and goes on secluded camping trips with him...Like wtf, she's changing so much.. Anyways Im moving to a different city closer to family and for school in the fall and to just get away from her so I have time to heal.
Before I leave she says she really wants to say goodbye to me in person, but apart of me wants to just leave without saying goodbye to say ';You've hurt me, so I'll hurt you'; but I know if I do that I'll regret it...but if I do not say goodbye, it shows how strong I am, and telling her that I don't need her anymore...I still love her very much but she clearly doesnt love me for doing this crap with such an older guy..It disgusts me...Anyways, any advice would be great.This girl hurt me so much, what should I do?
Follow your heart. I personally would not say goodbye, not out of revenge, simply out of a sense of dignity. It sounds as if she did not show much respect for your relationship. How serious did she take the relationship if a few days later she was already dating another guy? She wants to say goodbye to you in person because she feels guilty. Once she turns round the corner, the boyfriend will be waiting for her so that they can go on another camping trip. How vomiting. Start building a good self-esteem and let her disrespect somebody else. If you don't, I'll see you again on this site some time in the future with a new story (I'm 30 now and she's 29...she left me for a guy who is rich and they go on secluded boat trips...etc...etc). See what I mean?This girl hurt me so much, what should I do?
pretend you have a girlfriend really hott girl and show off on her too
I would leave without saying anything to her. You owe her nothing. She is just having a guilt trip.
Move on with your life in a new city, and good luck.
dont say goodbye. she might even be doing this just on rebound, or to shove it in your face. just leave, and show you dont need that in your life. seeing her again is just going to make the cut deeper than ever, trust me. if anything, get back in touch with her in a few months or a year or so, to be friends. right now, seeing her and saying goodbye will just be too much and not help ANYTHING. be stong%26lt;3
I need help with this situation. i fear for this little girl!?
i have custody of my niece (1 1/2 years). well we went to court and i am mandated to let her go see her mother (my SIL) every other weekend. They said that the fact that she has a job and her own apartment now proves that she is trying and they want to give her a chance.
anyways i have let her go over for 3 weekends now. when i pick her up on sunday night she is dirty and usually wearing the exact same clothes i dropped her off in on friday!
when i go to get her she runs to me all excited and happy, and her mom gets mad at her and smacks her on the hand and then turns around and gets mad at ME because she says that i am ';putting things in her head'; and that i ';need to quit acting like her mom because i am not';.
like i said she come home filthy everytime. i pack her nice clean clothes and plenty of diapers, and when i go to get her, all the clothes are still in the case, and maybe 5 or 6 diapers have been used. (5 or 6 diapers in 3 days!!)
i ask wat she has eaten, only to find that in the 3 days she has only been given water and some fruit snacks the ENTIRE day. except for at dinner when she gets a lunchable!
when i got this little girl she was very afraid of all males, and still refuses to let my hubby see her naked....she cries and screams when he tries to change her diaper. there is suspected molestation, and when i went to pick her up on sunday the person who is suspected was there! he is my SIL's boyfriend.
i have contacted my lawyers and social services, but idk what to do. there is no way in HELL i will let that poor baby go back there anymore, i dont care if i get in trouble i really dont!
the dirtiness is one thing, but the not feeding her and having her around that man is simply UNACCEPTABLE!!
they said they will ';look into it'; and investigate, but since there is no physical sugns of abuse, it is really my word against hers. i simply REFUSE to send her back.
how much trouble am i going to get in?
i dunno what to do, someone please help us!I need help with this situation. i fear for this little girl!?
dont let her go back there, and when they file a suit against you then you can place your case
i dont think the parents will because i dont believe they careI need help with this situation. i fear for this little girl!?
I don't know what you should ';legally'; do, but if it was me, in your situation - there is ABSOLUTELY NO WAY, NO HOW I would send that child back there. I would go to jail before I sent a child I was responsible for into a dangerous household. Someone has to stand up for that child. Be her voice. Good luck!
record everything take pictures of her to show how dirty she was. take pictures of what you pack and how you pack it before she leaves then take pictures again when she comes back. the best thing you can do is record everything it helps. I had to win custody of my daughter and that's what i did because it is proof.
Good luck!
hope you get full custody!
I saw something like this on tv..The mom and dad got divorced,the dad was molesting the little girl but there was no evidence.She didn't send the little girl for a long time,but eventually the dad called the police,and the mom either had to start sending the daughter for the weekend,or go to jail.She eventually sent the little girl for the weekend,because if she didn't,she would be in jail,and while she was in there,the dad would have the child.It's just something to think about.Good luck.
I would definitely document everything take pics of everything.. before she goes over there and when she comes back make sure the date is on the picture so you will have proof. other then that I don't know what to tell you.. but just keep in mind that if you don't do what the orders say then you might go to jail and that little girl needs you more then anything right now... good luck and I hope everything will work in your favor
You need a lawyer, keep a diary of each time she comes back to you and something is wrong.
I wish so bad that you could adopt her : /
I guess you just need to find some way to get 'evidence' that they are not taking good care of her. Take pictures of how filthy she is when you get her back from them.. take a video of the bag when you dropped her off (like right before you bring it inside) and show it how many diapers there are and then do the same thing right when you pick her up (make sure the video shows you coming out of the house so they know you didn't rig it) and take pictures of anything else that isn't right.. just think of anything you can do to get PROOF because I know how it is with them.. they can't really do anything until they have any. maybe secretly record her saying she only fed her a few things.. If you get enough stuff they will probably give her to you.. Good luck.
documentation, documentation, documentation. Keep a journal, keep pictures. Have more than just you there when the child is dropped off and picked up for eye witness account. Make it a different person everyday and add friends instead of family. Complain complain complain. Document every time you make a complaint. Go and make a formal complaint to CPS suspected abuse complaints. Get a temp restriction on the visitations. You have custody you are her mom. Her mom gave her rights up when she didnt put that baby first. Fight like heck but legally. Find out what will happen to you if you dont let her go, because if you get in trouble where is she going to go after that? Back to her mom most likely. You are her only hope.
For your niece's sake, do comply with the court's orders -- don't jeopardize your custody of her. Keep working with the lawyers and social workers.
As Ally said, take pictures. Get proof. Perhaps ask a Social Worker to see the girl before you drop her off and again when you pick her up. The more proof you have, the better your case against them.
Good luck.
ETA: And I agree with the others that you have to do this legally. The last thing you want is to lose custody.
do not ignore the court order.. because you will end up getting in more trouble than she will.. in my state, (pa) you can file for emergency custody and get all of her rights taken away.. in your case that would be the visits.. and if that doesnt happen, call the police and make a report every time you pick her up.. for neglect, and for physical and mental abuse (she should not be smacking a 1 yr old for being happy to see the person who cares for her.. thats teaching the child to trust noone).. and let them know about the suspected molestation.. also take before and after pictures when you drop her off and pick her up and show that shes dirty and unchanged.. document what they fed her.. and call child services every single time to report whats happening.. if you keep up and dont give up, hopefully she will get charged with child endangerment..i know in a situation like that you just want to hide her away from all of the chaos, but if you obey the law and report every sign of abuse, they will see you have her best interest in mind and not the birth mother.. its just a shame you have to put her through it again just so the system can believe whats happening.. its sick and sad because these losers do not understand what this is going to do to the child in the long run.. the last thing they should want is for their children to grow up and become a person like themselves. but most people like that are selfish and stupid and have no idea how to care about another human being.. soo sad
I am VERY VERY shocked that social services aren't taking this serious....pictures, videos, anything of proof will help...I mean, it really is your word against hers....that poor poor child, I can't imagine how she will grow up with a mother like that in her life! It will emotionally damage her. The government will arrest you if you do not comply with the orders of the court...it's techincally kidnapping if you keep the child from her mother. I would hire a private investigator to get into this woman's life....catch her in the act..doing something that a mother shouldn't be doing..whether at a bar, doing drunks....anything! You can try the approach to the mother... sort of a reverse phsycology...like ';Why do you want this child anyway? It's just a burrden to you and your life, why don't you enjoy it without a child in it, think of all the money you'll save and the freedom you'll have without having to take care of a child';.....make her NOT want the little girl...you know? and hopefully she will give up her rights as a mother...what does your husband think... (brother of this woman, correct?) ...get him on your side...have him sit down with his sister and talk about the options...good luck though, no child deserves that kind of life...it makes me sick. I hope things work out and the government actually does some good for once...Take care.
Take a picture of her before she goes over and then once you pick her up...there is some evidence for them right there!
If you feel that it is still unsafe for her to be there, then keep contacting everyone and say that she is still unfit to be a mom. Just because she has a job and an apartment does not mean she is ready to be a mom!
If you don't let her go back its only going to make things worse. You will lose custody and if you go to jail think of how that effects your child. Just keep at it with a lawyer and with social services. Is there anything saying this guy isnt allowed around her? If so call the cops. If not there isn't much you can do about it sadly. I would also warn her mother you have contacted the case worker and your lawyer in regards to her neglect of the child. Maybe knowing she might lose her rights will smarten her up.
edit: like others have said...take pictures and if you can get hold of one...tape record your conversation with her when you pick her up. Ask what she ate all weekend. Ask why she is in the same clothing you dropped her off in. Hide it in a coat pocket and just ask her questions...try and get the proof on tape.
This is a very difficult situation to be in. It sounds like you are already doing everything you can do. You can not be any good to the child if you are in jail. If you fight this and are sent to jail for not complying with the visitation order, who will take care of your niece during this time? I think you should see about getting the child in to see a child psychologist. They are very good at determining if there has been any abuse. Talk with your lawyer about supervised visits for the mother. What is your lawyer saying that you should do? This is a bit extreme, but is there any way to set up video cameras, maybe put one on the bag that you send with your niece when she goes over there? If any abuse is caught on video tape then a court certainly wouldn't allow her to go over there again. Unfortunately this puts your niece at risk of being abused yet again, and that isn't the best solution either. You can always take pictures of EVERYTHING. Take pictures before and after visits. I think if I were in this situation I'd find out for sure what will happen if you don't send her to the mother's house. Ask your lawyer what will happen. Ask social services what will happen. Ask them about supervised visits or maybe an unexpected drop-in while the child is there. I hope this situation can be resolved in a way that works best for all parties involved, especially for this little girl. It seems as though our system fails us sometimes and it is extremely frustrating.tried in district courts
anyways i have let her go over for 3 weekends now. when i pick her up on sunday night she is dirty and usually wearing the exact same clothes i dropped her off in on friday!
when i go to get her she runs to me all excited and happy, and her mom gets mad at her and smacks her on the hand and then turns around and gets mad at ME because she says that i am ';putting things in her head'; and that i ';need to quit acting like her mom because i am not';.
like i said she come home filthy everytime. i pack her nice clean clothes and plenty of diapers, and when i go to get her, all the clothes are still in the case, and maybe 5 or 6 diapers have been used. (5 or 6 diapers in 3 days!!)
i ask wat she has eaten, only to find that in the 3 days she has only been given water and some fruit snacks the ENTIRE day. except for at dinner when she gets a lunchable!
when i got this little girl she was very afraid of all males, and still refuses to let my hubby see her naked....she cries and screams when he tries to change her diaper. there is suspected molestation, and when i went to pick her up on sunday the person who is suspected was there! he is my SIL's boyfriend.
i have contacted my lawyers and social services, but idk what to do. there is no way in HELL i will let that poor baby go back there anymore, i dont care if i get in trouble i really dont!
the dirtiness is one thing, but the not feeding her and having her around that man is simply UNACCEPTABLE!!
they said they will ';look into it'; and investigate, but since there is no physical sugns of abuse, it is really my word against hers. i simply REFUSE to send her back.
how much trouble am i going to get in?
i dunno what to do, someone please help us!I need help with this situation. i fear for this little girl!?
dont let her go back there, and when they file a suit against you then you can place your case
i dont think the parents will because i dont believe they careI need help with this situation. i fear for this little girl!?
I don't know what you should ';legally'; do, but if it was me, in your situation - there is ABSOLUTELY NO WAY, NO HOW I would send that child back there. I would go to jail before I sent a child I was responsible for into a dangerous household. Someone has to stand up for that child. Be her voice. Good luck!
record everything take pictures of her to show how dirty she was. take pictures of what you pack and how you pack it before she leaves then take pictures again when she comes back. the best thing you can do is record everything it helps. I had to win custody of my daughter and that's what i did because it is proof.
Good luck!
hope you get full custody!
I saw something like this on tv..The mom and dad got divorced,the dad was molesting the little girl but there was no evidence.She didn't send the little girl for a long time,but eventually the dad called the police,and the mom either had to start sending the daughter for the weekend,or go to jail.She eventually sent the little girl for the weekend,because if she didn't,she would be in jail,and while she was in there,the dad would have the child.It's just something to think about.Good luck.
I would definitely document everything take pics of everything.. before she goes over there and when she comes back make sure the date is on the picture so you will have proof. other then that I don't know what to tell you.. but just keep in mind that if you don't do what the orders say then you might go to jail and that little girl needs you more then anything right now... good luck and I hope everything will work in your favor
You need a lawyer, keep a diary of each time she comes back to you and something is wrong.
I wish so bad that you could adopt her : /
I guess you just need to find some way to get 'evidence' that they are not taking good care of her. Take pictures of how filthy she is when you get her back from them.. take a video of the bag when you dropped her off (like right before you bring it inside) and show it how many diapers there are and then do the same thing right when you pick her up (make sure the video shows you coming out of the house so they know you didn't rig it) and take pictures of anything else that isn't right.. just think of anything you can do to get PROOF because I know how it is with them.. they can't really do anything until they have any. maybe secretly record her saying she only fed her a few things.. If you get enough stuff they will probably give her to you.. Good luck.
documentation, documentation, documentation. Keep a journal, keep pictures. Have more than just you there when the child is dropped off and picked up for eye witness account. Make it a different person everyday and add friends instead of family. Complain complain complain. Document every time you make a complaint. Go and make a formal complaint to CPS suspected abuse complaints. Get a temp restriction on the visitations. You have custody you are her mom. Her mom gave her rights up when she didnt put that baby first. Fight like heck but legally. Find out what will happen to you if you dont let her go, because if you get in trouble where is she going to go after that? Back to her mom most likely. You are her only hope.
For your niece's sake, do comply with the court's orders -- don't jeopardize your custody of her. Keep working with the lawyers and social workers.
As Ally said, take pictures. Get proof. Perhaps ask a Social Worker to see the girl before you drop her off and again when you pick her up. The more proof you have, the better your case against them.
Good luck.
ETA: And I agree with the others that you have to do this legally. The last thing you want is to lose custody.
do not ignore the court order.. because you will end up getting in more trouble than she will.. in my state, (pa) you can file for emergency custody and get all of her rights taken away.. in your case that would be the visits.. and if that doesnt happen, call the police and make a report every time you pick her up.. for neglect, and for physical and mental abuse (she should not be smacking a 1 yr old for being happy to see the person who cares for her.. thats teaching the child to trust noone).. and let them know about the suspected molestation.. also take before and after pictures when you drop her off and pick her up and show that shes dirty and unchanged.. document what they fed her.. and call child services every single time to report whats happening.. if you keep up and dont give up, hopefully she will get charged with child endangerment..i know in a situation like that you just want to hide her away from all of the chaos, but if you obey the law and report every sign of abuse, they will see you have her best interest in mind and not the birth mother.. its just a shame you have to put her through it again just so the system can believe whats happening.. its sick and sad because these losers do not understand what this is going to do to the child in the long run.. the last thing they should want is for their children to grow up and become a person like themselves. but most people like that are selfish and stupid and have no idea how to care about another human being.. soo sad
I am VERY VERY shocked that social services aren't taking this serious....pictures, videos, anything of proof will help...I mean, it really is your word against hers....that poor poor child, I can't imagine how she will grow up with a mother like that in her life! It will emotionally damage her. The government will arrest you if you do not comply with the orders of the court...it's techincally kidnapping if you keep the child from her mother. I would hire a private investigator to get into this woman's life....catch her in the act..doing something that a mother shouldn't be doing..whether at a bar, doing drunks....anything! You can try the approach to the mother... sort of a reverse phsycology...like ';Why do you want this child anyway? It's just a burrden to you and your life, why don't you enjoy it without a child in it, think of all the money you'll save and the freedom you'll have without having to take care of a child';.....make her NOT want the little girl...you know? and hopefully she will give up her rights as a mother...what does your husband think... (brother of this woman, correct?) ...get him on your side...have him sit down with his sister and talk about the options...good luck though, no child deserves that kind of life...it makes me sick. I hope things work out and the government actually does some good for once...Take care.
Take a picture of her before she goes over and then once you pick her up...there is some evidence for them right there!
If you feel that it is still unsafe for her to be there, then keep contacting everyone and say that she is still unfit to be a mom. Just because she has a job and an apartment does not mean she is ready to be a mom!
If you don't let her go back its only going to make things worse. You will lose custody and if you go to jail think of how that effects your child. Just keep at it with a lawyer and with social services. Is there anything saying this guy isnt allowed around her? If so call the cops. If not there isn't much you can do about it sadly. I would also warn her mother you have contacted the case worker and your lawyer in regards to her neglect of the child. Maybe knowing she might lose her rights will smarten her up.
edit: like others have said...take pictures and if you can get hold of one...tape record your conversation with her when you pick her up. Ask what she ate all weekend. Ask why she is in the same clothing you dropped her off in. Hide it in a coat pocket and just ask her questions...try and get the proof on tape.
This is a very difficult situation to be in. It sounds like you are already doing everything you can do. You can not be any good to the child if you are in jail. If you fight this and are sent to jail for not complying with the visitation order, who will take care of your niece during this time? I think you should see about getting the child in to see a child psychologist. They are very good at determining if there has been any abuse. Talk with your lawyer about supervised visits for the mother. What is your lawyer saying that you should do? This is a bit extreme, but is there any way to set up video cameras, maybe put one on the bag that you send with your niece when she goes over there? If any abuse is caught on video tape then a court certainly wouldn't allow her to go over there again. Unfortunately this puts your niece at risk of being abused yet again, and that isn't the best solution either. You can always take pictures of EVERYTHING. Take pictures before and after visits. I think if I were in this situation I'd find out for sure what will happen if you don't send her to the mother's house. Ask your lawyer what will happen. Ask social services what will happen. Ask them about supervised visits or maybe an unexpected drop-in while the child is there. I hope this situation can be resolved in a way that works best for all parties involved, especially for this little girl. It seems as though our system fails us sometimes and it is extremely frustrating.
Why would he try to start a relationship now?
Okay I am a junior in high school. My ';potential boyfriend'; Is a senior. We started talking about a month ago and we both know how one another feels. We really like eachother alot. And all that pre-reationship stuff. It seems like he really wants something serious, but in 2 months he's leaving for college which is 3 hours away. Why would he start something? He's going to be surrounded by girls there and will probebly forget about me, he said that he could never, because I'm too special to him, but I know that his eyes will be trawn to the older girls at university. He's the closest I've ever gotten to a guy, I don't think a real realtionship could develop while someone is away. And I do want to spend the last two months with him, but I am not going to give up everything, (first kiss, first boyfriend, first anything really) when it doesn't seem like this will go anywhere. What should I do? I do Plan to tell him everything I've said on here, what doyou think his reaction will be? Help???Why would he try to start a relationship now?
He seems to be not serious with you, Pl leave him as you have another priorities in life. Best wishesWhy would he try to start a relationship now?
He likes you but he may be using you. Let him go.
Don't do it darl. Just wait it out. If he's serious you'll see it after he moves. Wait the two moths, you can remain friends but don't give anything up for him, it's unlikely he'll make the effort once he leaves and you'll be left behind hurt and regretful. Then if he surprises you and does follow you up once he leaves you haven't lost anything either. You don;t have to be nasty or hurtful to him, just say you want to remain friends and get to know each other properly. The best relationships begin with a strong friendship anyway. His reaction may be to deny him leaving will change anything but if he truly believes that he'll respect your decision to wait it out.
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He seems to be not serious with you, Pl leave him as you have another priorities in life. Best wishesWhy would he try to start a relationship now?
He likes you but he may be using you. Let him go.
Don't do it darl. Just wait it out. If he's serious you'll see it after he moves. Wait the two moths, you can remain friends but don't give anything up for him, it's unlikely he'll make the effort once he leaves and you'll be left behind hurt and regretful. Then if he surprises you and does follow you up once he leaves you haven't lost anything either. You don;t have to be nasty or hurtful to him, just say you want to remain friends and get to know each other properly. The best relationships begin with a strong friendship anyway. His reaction may be to deny him leaving will change anything but if he truly believes that he'll respect your decision to wait it out.
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How to deal with messy/lazy housemates?
I live with 3 people (2 female, 1 male). I'm 24, the girls are 24 and 27 respectively, and the other male is 36 (engaged to the 24 year old). Now that all that is out of the way... My housemates are complete lazy slobs. There is no other way to describe them. In fact I don't know where to begin. The engaged couple don't work. They essentially lay around on the couch all day and night watching TV, living off welfare. Through sheer persistence I have managed to get them to do their dishes (because they make a lot of them), but I haven't managed to get the 27 year old to do that yet. Other than their dishes, they literally do NOTHING. This is made so much more painful by the fact that the majority of mess comes from them, because they're around the house all day (I know they just lay on the couch all day, which is mine, and now broken from wear, because I work from home). In fact all the furniture in the house is mine, because I am the only one on the lease (they couldn't find a place because they're both unemployed). To make it worse, I have a dog, a labrador, who is an outside dog. The 24 year old also has a dog, and when she moved in, we agreed that he would be allowed inside to sleep at night (but only in their room). Whenever I leave the house and return later, I find him inside, so they're waiting for me to leave to do this. I have brought it up several times, but what can I do? They sneak him in. The bathroom is so disgusting that I think it is possibly dangerous. Our toilet even had fungus growing because I refused to clean it. They are so lazy that they NEVER take their finished toilet rolls out of the toilet (which is probably the thing that bothers me the most). In the 6 months that they have been here, they have vacuumed once (between the three of them), which only happened because they threw a party and (for some reason) poured sand all over the table, which ended up on the carpet, and after two weeks of literally yelling (as the sand was continually being trampled into the carpet), I managed to get them to vacuum (poorly, as it was). To be honest, I have only scratched the surface of their lazy/messy habits, but I could have my own 6 part novel series if I was to detail them all.
I will list what I have tried (and what has subsequently failed):
1. Chore list (fail).
2. Lead by example (fail).
3. Refuse to clean anything (extra special fail, as they chose to follow my example this time, and the place became toxic).
4. Yelling (fail, with exception of one time).
5. Subtle hints, such as leaving the vacuum cleaner in an obvious position (fail).
6. Obvious hints, such as saying ';it's your turn to vacuum, please do it this week'; (fail).
7. Move out (fail, I moved out, and within 2 months they were evicted from their own place, and begged to move into mine, because they were rejected everywhere else - unemployed factor).
If I haven't tried anything that you would consider worthwhile, please let me know :-)
Also, I should have mentioned, the 24 year old is my best friend, and I completely love her, in spite of her lifestyle. I often think that we're 100% compatible as friends, and 0% compatible as housemates. Nonetheless, I don't want to abandon her, but I also don't want to be her father. Are there any non-demeaning ways to 'train' housemates??
I should also mention that while they are basically off the spectrum when it comes to tidiness, I am probably off the polar end of the spectrum. I like my house clean. I am particularly fussy about recycling, and forced, weekly, to sift through the bin pulling out paper/recyclable material. It is frustrating, because I could not have made it simpler to recycle, there is a large open box for paper/recycle, and there is a bin beside it. How lazy do you have to be to put paper in the bin in this scenario? I should also have mentioned, that not only do I work, I also study, and so I am busy enough as it is, even in finding time to clean up my own mess, let alone cleaning up after three people, two of whom are sitting on the couch all day and night.
Sorry, there is a lot of rage happening because I found a fresh coffee stain on the carpet that I had steam cleaned less than a week ago... ironically I had the carpet steam cleaned (at my expense) because they spilled almost a litre of coffee on the light coloured carpet, and I couldn't get it out myself.
Wow, I do almost have my 6 part novel. I'm a rambler...
Thanks guys.How to deal with messy/lazy housemates?
sorry just couldn't read all of it but have one simple answer ';move'; life is too short for all this ...Good luck....the sooner you move the better! pleaseHow to deal with messy/lazy housemates?
I couldn't read it all either, but maybe you could try, at first, getting the engaged couple a job.
Threaten if they don't start pulling their weight they'll have to leave...
or just try and get used to it. It's all you really can do...
well i did read it all
and i too am VERY anal when it comes to my home %26amp; surroundings
i could not have put up with any of that never mind all
you are asking for help
and i will tell you the only way to solve this
but, sorry, its no magic wand, and you wont want to hear it
decide what you value more, your sanity or your friendship?
you have tried everything reasonably possible
and they have taken advantage of your generosity
ask your self this, had this not been your best friend, what course of action would you have taken?
i know they left before, but by having them back you are now enabling their behaviour, both their dirty slovenly habits, and their lazy attitude towards working and bettering themselves
as long as they live with you they have no incentives to do anything but be slobs
sorry, but for your own sanity, and your friendship, you have no choice
you need to sit them down and tell them you are giving them 30 days notice
DO NOT back down under promises
the age they are, they should never live like this, they are going to be like this for always
and drag you down with them, in fact they already have
30 days notice
and then you take time to get YOUR home back to its former clean %26amp; tranquil glory
and let these ';people'; fend for themselves
i did read it all and as poor house keepers as they are you are equally a bad decision maker
7. Move out (fail, I moved out, and within 2 months they were evicted from their own place, and begged to move into mine, because they were rejected everywhere else - unemployed factor)
TOO BAD, TOO SAD - grow up and get your own place or sleep under a bridge
repeat this one and this time correct your behavior + DO NOT let them move back in under any circumstances
it doesn't matter that the 24 y/o female is your friend - you are enabling her = STOP IT = if she is truly your friend she will understand your need for cleanliness and respect your wishes and come and visit you on Sunday afternoons for tea
since they are such welfare recipients turn them in to the agencies that they are collecting from = the agencies would love to know that they are being ripped off
ooohhh and ask for reimbursements for the damages done to your personal property while you are at it - that will reinforce that your are serious about them getting out - TODAY since they have the time to lounge around they have the time to move out
JUST TELL THEM
Move out, or evict them from your property. I know it would be hard doing it to a friend, but I couldn't stand living in those sort of conditions.
I will list what I have tried (and what has subsequently failed):
1. Chore list (fail).
2. Lead by example (fail).
3. Refuse to clean anything (extra special fail, as they chose to follow my example this time, and the place became toxic).
4. Yelling (fail, with exception of one time).
5. Subtle hints, such as leaving the vacuum cleaner in an obvious position (fail).
6. Obvious hints, such as saying ';it's your turn to vacuum, please do it this week'; (fail).
7. Move out (fail, I moved out, and within 2 months they were evicted from their own place, and begged to move into mine, because they were rejected everywhere else - unemployed factor).
If I haven't tried anything that you would consider worthwhile, please let me know :-)
Also, I should have mentioned, the 24 year old is my best friend, and I completely love her, in spite of her lifestyle. I often think that we're 100% compatible as friends, and 0% compatible as housemates. Nonetheless, I don't want to abandon her, but I also don't want to be her father. Are there any non-demeaning ways to 'train' housemates??
I should also mention that while they are basically off the spectrum when it comes to tidiness, I am probably off the polar end of the spectrum. I like my house clean. I am particularly fussy about recycling, and forced, weekly, to sift through the bin pulling out paper/recyclable material. It is frustrating, because I could not have made it simpler to recycle, there is a large open box for paper/recycle, and there is a bin beside it. How lazy do you have to be to put paper in the bin in this scenario? I should also have mentioned, that not only do I work, I also study, and so I am busy enough as it is, even in finding time to clean up my own mess, let alone cleaning up after three people, two of whom are sitting on the couch all day and night.
Sorry, there is a lot of rage happening because I found a fresh coffee stain on the carpet that I had steam cleaned less than a week ago... ironically I had the carpet steam cleaned (at my expense) because they spilled almost a litre of coffee on the light coloured carpet, and I couldn't get it out myself.
Wow, I do almost have my 6 part novel. I'm a rambler...
Thanks guys.How to deal with messy/lazy housemates?
sorry just couldn't read all of it but have one simple answer ';move'; life is too short for all this ...Good luck....the sooner you move the better! pleaseHow to deal with messy/lazy housemates?
I couldn't read it all either, but maybe you could try, at first, getting the engaged couple a job.
Threaten if they don't start pulling their weight they'll have to leave...
or just try and get used to it. It's all you really can do...
well i did read it all
and i too am VERY anal when it comes to my home %26amp; surroundings
i could not have put up with any of that never mind all
you are asking for help
and i will tell you the only way to solve this
but, sorry, its no magic wand, and you wont want to hear it
decide what you value more, your sanity or your friendship?
you have tried everything reasonably possible
and they have taken advantage of your generosity
ask your self this, had this not been your best friend, what course of action would you have taken?
i know they left before, but by having them back you are now enabling their behaviour, both their dirty slovenly habits, and their lazy attitude towards working and bettering themselves
as long as they live with you they have no incentives to do anything but be slobs
sorry, but for your own sanity, and your friendship, you have no choice
you need to sit them down and tell them you are giving them 30 days notice
DO NOT back down under promises
the age they are, they should never live like this, they are going to be like this for always
and drag you down with them, in fact they already have
30 days notice
and then you take time to get YOUR home back to its former clean %26amp; tranquil glory
and let these ';people'; fend for themselves
i did read it all and as poor house keepers as they are you are equally a bad decision maker
7. Move out (fail, I moved out, and within 2 months they were evicted from their own place, and begged to move into mine, because they were rejected everywhere else - unemployed factor)
TOO BAD, TOO SAD - grow up and get your own place or sleep under a bridge
repeat this one and this time correct your behavior + DO NOT let them move back in under any circumstances
it doesn't matter that the 24 y/o female is your friend - you are enabling her = STOP IT = if she is truly your friend she will understand your need for cleanliness and respect your wishes and come and visit you on Sunday afternoons for tea
since they are such welfare recipients turn them in to the agencies that they are collecting from = the agencies would love to know that they are being ripped off
ooohhh and ask for reimbursements for the damages done to your personal property while you are at it - that will reinforce that your are serious about them getting out - TODAY since they have the time to lounge around they have the time to move out
JUST TELL THEM
Move out, or evict them from your property. I know it would be hard doing it to a friend, but I couldn't stand living in those sort of conditions.
Am i consider a communist?
There is a new stereotype in the vietnamese community in the united states that if you go to vietnam and marry a girl, you're considered a communist or a fan of communism. I'm not a fan of communist in Vietnam because my father fought with americans during the war. I'm only getting married this way because i have no luck with girls, no girls like me. People threatened me that If I bring my wife over here they will burn my house down. They said I should go work for the communists and slaughter people if I'm going to get married with a girl from Vietnam. How come they say i'm a communist ?? Do you consider me a communist ??Am i consider a communist?
That's sillyAm i consider a communist?
Of course not; that is absurd.
That's sillyAm i consider a communist?
Of course not; that is absurd.
Am i consider a communist?
There is a new stereotype in the vietnamese community in the united states that if you go to vietnam and marry a girl, you're considered a communist or a fan of communism. I'm not a fan of communist in Vietnam because my father fought with americans during the war. I'm only getting married this way because i have no luck with girls, no girls like me. People threatened me that If I bring my wife over here they will burn my house down. They said I should go work for the communists and slaughter people if I'm going to get married with a girl from Vietnam. How come they say i'm a communist ?? Do you consider me a communist ??Am i consider a communist?
People there need to get a dictionary and read some history on Communism.Am i consider a communist?
Think about it. You marry a girl who was born and raised in a Communist country. What kind of ideals do you think are instilled in her? Of course, Communist ones. So of course she's a Communist. And if you marry her and pop out little Communist babies, then what are the chances that people are going to regard you as anything but that? What's worse than a Communist is a materialistic, dollar-hungry Commie who married someone that ';no other girls in America likes';. If you do this, you are contributing to the cheapening of the American nation. If people don't burn your house down, I'm sure the Commie girl will eventually find some other way to do so (i.e., adultery, divorce).
NO, YOU ARE CONSIDERED A TROLL!
Let me know where this ';imaginary'; fiancee lives. I have the perfect wedding gift for her,,,A bottle of Drano and a shot glass. It'll be way less painful than marrying a TROLL!
Geeze where do you live?
Stay away from those crazy people. No you are not a communist. You are marrying a woman from a country where communism still exist, what does that have to do with communism?
Who cares what other peoples say. They are just angry with Vietnam that's all. What's past is past and we should try to let go of the past.
They did that to their own country anyways, not us!!!
Edit: They might think that you are a communist because you are taking someone from another country lol!!!
People there need to get a dictionary and read some history on Communism.Am i consider a communist?
Think about it. You marry a girl who was born and raised in a Communist country. What kind of ideals do you think are instilled in her? Of course, Communist ones. So of course she's a Communist. And if you marry her and pop out little Communist babies, then what are the chances that people are going to regard you as anything but that? What's worse than a Communist is a materialistic, dollar-hungry Commie who married someone that ';no other girls in America likes';. If you do this, you are contributing to the cheapening of the American nation. If people don't burn your house down, I'm sure the Commie girl will eventually find some other way to do so (i.e., adultery, divorce).
NO, YOU ARE CONSIDERED A TROLL!
Let me know where this ';imaginary'; fiancee lives. I have the perfect wedding gift for her,,,A bottle of Drano and a shot glass. It'll be way less painful than marrying a TROLL!
Geeze where do you live?
Stay away from those crazy people. No you are not a communist. You are marrying a woman from a country where communism still exist, what does that have to do with communism?
Who cares what other peoples say. They are just angry with Vietnam that's all. What's past is past and we should try to let go of the past.
They did that to their own country anyways, not us!!!
Edit: They might think that you are a communist because you are taking someone from another country lol!!!
My parents will not let me express myself......?
I am a 15 year old boy, and all my life I have known on the inside that I was supposed to be a girl. I recently decided that I and should ';come out the closet';. Which was no surprise to them. I talk and look like a girl, Most places I go where no one knows me, they think I am a girl. My parents tell me that they think it is just a faze, and they want let me buy the clothes I want, and wear make up. It makes me happy, shouldn't that be most important, i'm not saying that I want a sex change right now, or anything. My mom keeps saying to wait till i'm 18, to be who i want. Like what i want to do is illegal or something, please give me some advice on how to deal with this, or how to get them to let me.My parents will not let me express myself......?
You need to find a way to comprimise. As long as you live with them they have control over your life and you need to respect their rules. Maybe ask your parents if you can see a counselor that specializes in gender identity. That would give you an outlet and someone unbiased to talk to.My parents will not let me express myself......?
your parents are wise in suggesting you wait. First problem you will encounter is a legal one. Child advocacy groups may sue your parents or try to have them charged for cruelty or other crimes perpertrated on a minor if the sex change was completed whilst you are under age. Note your parents are legally responsibly for you until you are of age. The second problem is one of growth. Whilst your body is femine in nature it may change significantly in the next few years as you undergo the largest growth spurt of your life to reduce the need for a change. While unlikely it is possible. Also your attitude may also change as you mature and decide to live as you are. again unlikely but not inconceivable. As you mature you develop emotions and ideals which differ from those of children. It is hard living in a body you feel you don't belong in but you may change as you mature. If at 18 you still feel the same way then go for it and know no one has the legal power to stop you . good luck and I hope life works out for you. Ps gender changing to a woman will render you infertile unless you were lucky enough to be born with ovaries. '; unless you extract sperm from the testes which if not removed are inserted up into your body inside the pelvic bone.
Man, I think a lot of guys envy you because you can get in touch with the woman inside. Expanding on this, understanding and emulating admirable behaviors from others is a pretty cool way to act. Becoming very familiar with objects in your environment, drinking them into your cognition, etc., is also a healthy thing to do. It's probably all coping, for the sake of identifying with yourself. If it is, at least one unhealthy behavior you have to consider is possible fantasizing. Your parents are messing up by not weeding these things out, but they aren't experts. Let's look past blame, now-- And you know, they probably aren't rich, they probably aren't only considering your happiness (even though they are definitely considering it, even in situations where it appears that they are giving other considerations more weight)....
';You'll grow out of it,'; is a cliche. How can we expound, to give you the closure, clarity, skills and behaviors necessary to overcome this challenge? If your parents aren't able to give you these things, you'll need to find a way to develop them, yourself. The primary thing to develop is the latter: the skill or behaviors to overcome. But clarity or understanding is an essential step in the process, and closure becomes possible as you develop the skills or or behaviors (we'll just say behaviors) and learn to display them dynamically and interactively. Perhaps it comes down to being able to work within the bounds of any rule set. Can you experience the same satisfaction and interest in an environment where makeup and womens clothing is not available? Can you figure out how to? Are there going to be situations in your chosen career path where you will need to? ';You'll grow out of it.'; Maybe they think that other men feel this way, and that it has a purpose but isn't something to base your life on? Or that because it's a coping thing, you are just struggling, somehow, and you'll stop struggling, someday? Hey, I'm not sure. I think that you have a better intuition for what your parents meant when they said those words. Someone is going to need to be mature enough to change.... Is it going to be you?
A sex change operation is pretty invasive, and if it's possible to look beyond the physical in yourself, you'd be a lot happier than if you altered it. There are a lot of women out there who don't like their bodies, for very long times. Feels like it comes down to something inside. Can you like yourself, naturally? You might hate me for assuming that you don't, but maybe you can see how I would misconstrue it as that, seeing as how you are talking about how people cut themselves up just to look different? You feel like someone you are not. Maybe you need to experience yourself? I can tell you from a lot of experience: self esteem is intimately woven into self experience. If you can become very comfortable with yourself and your body, your self esteem will jump to levels you never imagined it could have.make up for skin tone lot of oil refined
You need to find a way to comprimise. As long as you live with them they have control over your life and you need to respect their rules. Maybe ask your parents if you can see a counselor that specializes in gender identity. That would give you an outlet and someone unbiased to talk to.My parents will not let me express myself......?
your parents are wise in suggesting you wait. First problem you will encounter is a legal one. Child advocacy groups may sue your parents or try to have them charged for cruelty or other crimes perpertrated on a minor if the sex change was completed whilst you are under age. Note your parents are legally responsibly for you until you are of age. The second problem is one of growth. Whilst your body is femine in nature it may change significantly in the next few years as you undergo the largest growth spurt of your life to reduce the need for a change. While unlikely it is possible. Also your attitude may also change as you mature and decide to live as you are. again unlikely but not inconceivable. As you mature you develop emotions and ideals which differ from those of children. It is hard living in a body you feel you don't belong in but you may change as you mature. If at 18 you still feel the same way then go for it and know no one has the legal power to stop you . good luck and I hope life works out for you. Ps gender changing to a woman will render you infertile unless you were lucky enough to be born with ovaries. '; unless you extract sperm from the testes which if not removed are inserted up into your body inside the pelvic bone.
Man, I think a lot of guys envy you because you can get in touch with the woman inside. Expanding on this, understanding and emulating admirable behaviors from others is a pretty cool way to act. Becoming very familiar with objects in your environment, drinking them into your cognition, etc., is also a healthy thing to do. It's probably all coping, for the sake of identifying with yourself. If it is, at least one unhealthy behavior you have to consider is possible fantasizing. Your parents are messing up by not weeding these things out, but they aren't experts. Let's look past blame, now-- And you know, they probably aren't rich, they probably aren't only considering your happiness (even though they are definitely considering it, even in situations where it appears that they are giving other considerations more weight)....
';You'll grow out of it,'; is a cliche. How can we expound, to give you the closure, clarity, skills and behaviors necessary to overcome this challenge? If your parents aren't able to give you these things, you'll need to find a way to develop them, yourself. The primary thing to develop is the latter: the skill or behaviors to overcome. But clarity or understanding is an essential step in the process, and closure becomes possible as you develop the skills or or behaviors (we'll just say behaviors) and learn to display them dynamically and interactively. Perhaps it comes down to being able to work within the bounds of any rule set. Can you experience the same satisfaction and interest in an environment where makeup and womens clothing is not available? Can you figure out how to? Are there going to be situations in your chosen career path where you will need to? ';You'll grow out of it.'; Maybe they think that other men feel this way, and that it has a purpose but isn't something to base your life on? Or that because it's a coping thing, you are just struggling, somehow, and you'll stop struggling, someday? Hey, I'm not sure. I think that you have a better intuition for what your parents meant when they said those words. Someone is going to need to be mature enough to change.... Is it going to be you?
A sex change operation is pretty invasive, and if it's possible to look beyond the physical in yourself, you'd be a lot happier than if you altered it. There are a lot of women out there who don't like their bodies, for very long times. Feels like it comes down to something inside. Can you like yourself, naturally? You might hate me for assuming that you don't, but maybe you can see how I would misconstrue it as that, seeing as how you are talking about how people cut themselves up just to look different? You feel like someone you are not. Maybe you need to experience yourself? I can tell you from a lot of experience: self esteem is intimately woven into self experience. If you can become very comfortable with yourself and your body, your self esteem will jump to levels you never imagined it could have.
How likely is a girl to get pregnant under these circumstances?
My friend is freaking out, she had sex with her boyfriend 2 days after her period and her boyfriends condom broke, but only a little precome got inside.
is she likely to be pregnant ? we're not really sure how the whole '' egg '' thing works, lol.How likely is a girl to get pregnant under these circumstances?
Anytime you have sex you can become pregnant.
Most women ovulate 10 - 14 days from the day they start their period and sperm can hang out waiting on an egg for 72+ hours (5 days at most)
There is sperm in pre-ejaculation, that can also get you pregnant.
Once an egg and sperm meet up it takes your egg another 4 - 10 days to find your uterus and implant into your uterine wall. Once this happens it tells your body you are pregnant and starts to create HcG hormones. The hormones double in size every 48 - 72 hours. The hormones bring on symptoms.
Unfortunately PMS and early pregnancy symptoms are virtually the same. A missed period is your first clue to take a test.
Odd of your friend getting pregnant.. about 2%.
When accidents happen with Plan A (the condom) there is always Plan B, the Morning after pill AKA Plan B pill.
If she misses her period she needs to test. Keep in mind that stress, change in diet, weight loss or gain can delay a period.How likely is a girl to get pregnant under these circumstances?
Its a good time of the month to have sex to get pregnant.
Having said that, most people don't get pregnant on the first month they try for whatever reason. There's no way we can really tell you the likelihood.
Sorry to be blunt, but if you're not sure how the whole ';egg'; thing works, then maybe you shouldn't be having sex in the first place.
is she likely to be pregnant ? we're not really sure how the whole '' egg '' thing works, lol.How likely is a girl to get pregnant under these circumstances?
Anytime you have sex you can become pregnant.
Most women ovulate 10 - 14 days from the day they start their period and sperm can hang out waiting on an egg for 72+ hours (5 days at most)
There is sperm in pre-ejaculation, that can also get you pregnant.
Once an egg and sperm meet up it takes your egg another 4 - 10 days to find your uterus and implant into your uterine wall. Once this happens it tells your body you are pregnant and starts to create HcG hormones. The hormones double in size every 48 - 72 hours. The hormones bring on symptoms.
Unfortunately PMS and early pregnancy symptoms are virtually the same. A missed period is your first clue to take a test.
Odd of your friend getting pregnant.. about 2%.
When accidents happen with Plan A (the condom) there is always Plan B, the Morning after pill AKA Plan B pill.
If she misses her period she needs to test. Keep in mind that stress, change in diet, weight loss or gain can delay a period.How likely is a girl to get pregnant under these circumstances?
Its a good time of the month to have sex to get pregnant.
Having said that, most people don't get pregnant on the first month they try for whatever reason. There's no way we can really tell you the likelihood.
Sorry to be blunt, but if you're not sure how the whole ';egg'; thing works, then maybe you shouldn't be having sex in the first place.
Should I just forget about this guy?
he is my best guy friend...
U used to have a crush on him a while back,
it ended by a kiss, and didn't further, he didn't love me, he only wanted to make out.
I was devastated a couple of weeks, and realized it was pointless, so I forgave him and he became friends. He usually sits beside me in classes, and comes over to my house after school.
we are all comfortable with each other so we joke around a lot, we laugh and all.
After our ';kiss'; I had two boyfriends... both failed.
1. the first failed because of me, I didn't love him and he annoyed me
2. failed b/c he cheated on me
My best guy friend after each break up helped me through it.
I don't know why but I feel really safe with him... I never felt that way before.
He is very flirtatious, he flirts with everyone.
I denied to myself that I loved him all the time b/c I always was scared I would get hurt.
Yesterday we kissed again... but while both drinking.
and I felt something... yet again.
I don't know why but I can't give up on him... it's like he is the one...
I don't know but I feel so happy with him.
he told me about how he falls in love with girls...
that he doesn't fall just that easily, that it takes time for him.
etc...
It seems that it is hopeless
and that we will stay friends forever....
Should I give up ?Should I just forget about this guy?
Well,there is a chance as long as he wants to be your friend.Don't force the issue.But on the other hand,it may just be conventient to have you around just in case he can't find ''some'' somewhere else.Think about that.Should I just forget about this guy?
yeah
U used to have a crush on him a while back,
it ended by a kiss, and didn't further, he didn't love me, he only wanted to make out.
I was devastated a couple of weeks, and realized it was pointless, so I forgave him and he became friends. He usually sits beside me in classes, and comes over to my house after school.
we are all comfortable with each other so we joke around a lot, we laugh and all.
After our ';kiss'; I had two boyfriends... both failed.
1. the first failed because of me, I didn't love him and he annoyed me
2. failed b/c he cheated on me
My best guy friend after each break up helped me through it.
I don't know why but I feel really safe with him... I never felt that way before.
He is very flirtatious, he flirts with everyone.
I denied to myself that I loved him all the time b/c I always was scared I would get hurt.
Yesterday we kissed again... but while both drinking.
and I felt something... yet again.
I don't know why but I can't give up on him... it's like he is the one...
I don't know but I feel so happy with him.
he told me about how he falls in love with girls...
that he doesn't fall just that easily, that it takes time for him.
etc...
It seems that it is hopeless
and that we will stay friends forever....
Should I give up ?Should I just forget about this guy?
Well,there is a chance as long as he wants to be your friend.Don't force the issue.But on the other hand,it may just be conventient to have you around just in case he can't find ''some'' somewhere else.Think about that.Should I just forget about this guy?
yeah
What should i do about this drama with my horse? NEEP HELP FAST!?
so i adopted an abused horse not too long ago (he was beaten kept in bad conditions and starved, hes very very skinny and boney) well i talked to my barn about it and they agreed to let me keep him there. a few weeks after a new girl came to the barn, saw him, and started flipping out on me about how skinny he was and calling me an animal abuser and all this nasty stuff, after she was done i calmly told her that he was abused but not from me and that i adopted him and that i was getting him back up to health. SHE TOLD ME I WAS LYING!!!! this was about a week ago from today. well yesterday i was training/working/lounging him, trying to get him reacquainted with the whip so that he knows its not a bad thing and that it wont hurt him (scary as hell to do by the way!!) and he throws huge tantrums when im doing it but its something that needs to be worked out so that he doesn't hurt someone else, and i know it will take a while and i only do it for about 5 mins before moving on. well she came in while i was doing it and started screaming and flipping out on me talking about how i needed to be arrested and my horse taken because i was ';beating my horse'; at the time she came in the house was off the lead and aloud to roam where he pleased as i was feeding him sugar cubes and prapraising him and only trying to get close to him with the whip. so today i get a call from animal services or what ever about a complaint that i was abusing a horse and they came down to the barn too look things over, after i explained that i recently adopted him and showed paper work and pictures from when i first got him and that he has started to put on weight they said ok and everything was cleared up by them. but now my issue is this damn girl what do i do about her!?!?! shes nuts! i need advice asap!What should i do about this drama with my horse? NEEP HELP FAST!?
Oh that is awful! Good thing it's you and not me, I probably would have broke down and punched her. :/ Calling animal services... ridiculous. If you want to put weight on him faster, maybe switch to a different feed regimen and try some weight boosting supplements. As long as things are cleared up with the cops, pretty much all you can do is ignore her. If you don't have a temper like I do, you could try treating her VERY nicely, and maybe she'll loosen up a little. Maybe even suck up to her by offering to let her help you work with him? If you don't mind her being around him, that is. Ugh, I hate these kinds of problems! Best of luck to you, my prayers as well. :)What should i do about this drama with my horse? NEEP HELP FAST!?
tell her to mind her own friggin business... and then just ignore her and go about your business...
and if she continues, calmly tell her to step away from you and your horse because she is upsetting him...
then if she doesnt quit, maybe call her parents and tell them to tell her to lay off- (or her husband if she is an adult) or the barn people who allowed you to keep this poor sweet horse there and have them explain to her how she is screwed up and harrassing you...
good luck, and good luck rehabing your horse.
haha, sorry hard not laugh, she sounds ummm a lil on the crazy side. But you should put a huge bright sign on his stall saying he WAS abused, and recently adopted by you. Put on there the whole story and put a photo of him the first day you got him, then every now and then put a new photo of his progress!
Good luck with her!
Is there anyone at your barn who can help? Maybe an owner/manager who's opinion this girl trusts can help you out. It seems a little unfair that your on your own with this. I don't think it's great that she got to the point where she called animal services. People need to back you up!
If you can't find help, try to talk to her in a calm environment, away from your horse, and explain what's going on.
:( Good luck!!!!
You do not need help fast. That kind of attitude just adds to the drama. You got checked out. You got everything cleared up. Forget it. Your horse needs you to focus on him. You will run into whack jobs every where you turn. Select your friends with care and be polite to the rest. Love your horse. That's what's important.
If you are in the right, document everything. Do what you would normally do. And document everything. She is acting on emotion. Your documents will cover your rear. If this is a city girl who is reacting to what she dreams is reality the documents will let those who know she is over reacting. If you are in the wrong they will know this also by your lack of documentation. I am not there all know is what you have said. But as a farm raised girl who lives in the city I have met many city people who have some very unreal ideas of how life goes on the farm. If she is over reacting....her reports will be seen as such. Just make sure you are in the right...and do everything in your power to show so.
The last time I took on a neglected horse I made a big sign for his yard explaining his history. I also told the owner of the property and all the staff all about it to they could handle any questions from boarders or visitors. AND, I made him his own web page, so anyone could log on and see his whole story, and all the pictures of him as he progressed :-)
I've linked the old URL below - feel free to use the same format if you have a website you could put his story on for people to see!
Good luck!
Rachael
I think you are doing exactly right by this horse, and now animal control knows it as well. This gal clearly does not know what she is doing, In a year, you are going to have a well trained horse in good weight, and she will probably have a spoiled brat on her hands.
Keep documenting his improvement in case there are any more questions. But clearly, anyone who knows you and knows her will be able to figure out the real story for themselves.
I would go directly to the barn manager/owner. Don't talk to this girl because she obviously won't listen to you because she's already made up her mind that you are abusing your horse (ridiculous yes but that's what she's decided). Tell the barn manager about your interactions w/her and about the fact that you think she called animal services. This is something that the barn manager needs to address and it's their job to address problems in the barn. Just make sure that when you go to the barn manager, you state facts, not your opinion and you stay calm and don't reduce yourself to her type of behavior (yelling and acting irrationally, name calling etc.). The barn manager won't want to get involved if s/he sees it as a ';high school drama'; type situation, but if you approach the barn manager calmly and w/facts about what she has said and what happened w/animal control then s/he will be more likely to step in.
And when this girl approaches you in the future, just move away from her. Be polite but tell her that you are working w/your horse and you need to concentrate on what you are doing. I know it's hard to keep from screaming at her and telling her she's crazy but the high road is the road to take w/this type of person because NO MATTER what you say, she's already formed her opinion and she's going to shout it from the roof tops to anyone that will listen. Hopefully you've been at your barn long enough for the other boarders to know that what she is saying is wrong and they know the truth about you and your horse.
Good Luck!!! And thank you for adopting!!!
Oh that is awful! Good thing it's you and not me, I probably would have broke down and punched her. :/ Calling animal services... ridiculous. If you want to put weight on him faster, maybe switch to a different feed regimen and try some weight boosting supplements. As long as things are cleared up with the cops, pretty much all you can do is ignore her. If you don't have a temper like I do, you could try treating her VERY nicely, and maybe she'll loosen up a little. Maybe even suck up to her by offering to let her help you work with him? If you don't mind her being around him, that is. Ugh, I hate these kinds of problems! Best of luck to you, my prayers as well. :)What should i do about this drama with my horse? NEEP HELP FAST!?
tell her to mind her own friggin business... and then just ignore her and go about your business...
and if she continues, calmly tell her to step away from you and your horse because she is upsetting him...
then if she doesnt quit, maybe call her parents and tell them to tell her to lay off- (or her husband if she is an adult) or the barn people who allowed you to keep this poor sweet horse there and have them explain to her how she is screwed up and harrassing you...
good luck, and good luck rehabing your horse.
haha, sorry hard not laugh, she sounds ummm a lil on the crazy side. But you should put a huge bright sign on his stall saying he WAS abused, and recently adopted by you. Put on there the whole story and put a photo of him the first day you got him, then every now and then put a new photo of his progress!
Good luck with her!
Is there anyone at your barn who can help? Maybe an owner/manager who's opinion this girl trusts can help you out. It seems a little unfair that your on your own with this. I don't think it's great that she got to the point where she called animal services. People need to back you up!
If you can't find help, try to talk to her in a calm environment, away from your horse, and explain what's going on.
:( Good luck!!!!
You do not need help fast. That kind of attitude just adds to the drama. You got checked out. You got everything cleared up. Forget it. Your horse needs you to focus on him. You will run into whack jobs every where you turn. Select your friends with care and be polite to the rest. Love your horse. That's what's important.
If you are in the right, document everything. Do what you would normally do. And document everything. She is acting on emotion. Your documents will cover your rear. If this is a city girl who is reacting to what she dreams is reality the documents will let those who know she is over reacting. If you are in the wrong they will know this also by your lack of documentation. I am not there all know is what you have said. But as a farm raised girl who lives in the city I have met many city people who have some very unreal ideas of how life goes on the farm. If she is over reacting....her reports will be seen as such. Just make sure you are in the right...and do everything in your power to show so.
The last time I took on a neglected horse I made a big sign for his yard explaining his history. I also told the owner of the property and all the staff all about it to they could handle any questions from boarders or visitors. AND, I made him his own web page, so anyone could log on and see his whole story, and all the pictures of him as he progressed :-)
I've linked the old URL below - feel free to use the same format if you have a website you could put his story on for people to see!
Good luck!
Rachael
I think you are doing exactly right by this horse, and now animal control knows it as well. This gal clearly does not know what she is doing, In a year, you are going to have a well trained horse in good weight, and she will probably have a spoiled brat on her hands.
Keep documenting his improvement in case there are any more questions. But clearly, anyone who knows you and knows her will be able to figure out the real story for themselves.
I would go directly to the barn manager/owner. Don't talk to this girl because she obviously won't listen to you because she's already made up her mind that you are abusing your horse (ridiculous yes but that's what she's decided). Tell the barn manager about your interactions w/her and about the fact that you think she called animal services. This is something that the barn manager needs to address and it's their job to address problems in the barn. Just make sure that when you go to the barn manager, you state facts, not your opinion and you stay calm and don't reduce yourself to her type of behavior (yelling and acting irrationally, name calling etc.). The barn manager won't want to get involved if s/he sees it as a ';high school drama'; type situation, but if you approach the barn manager calmly and w/facts about what she has said and what happened w/animal control then s/he will be more likely to step in.
And when this girl approaches you in the future, just move away from her. Be polite but tell her that you are working w/your horse and you need to concentrate on what you are doing. I know it's hard to keep from screaming at her and telling her she's crazy but the high road is the road to take w/this type of person because NO MATTER what you say, she's already formed her opinion and she's going to shout it from the roof tops to anyone that will listen. Hopefully you've been at your barn long enough for the other boarders to know that what she is saying is wrong and they know the truth about you and your horse.
Good Luck!!! And thank you for adopting!!!
I need some help girls.....?
I am dry right now....im a good lookin kid im 17, pretty built, when ever i meet knew girls i can get with that easily...but its weird with girls i know, cuz ill try n work game and it seems like they want nothin to do with me...i don't know what im doing wrong...Girls, if you got a good lookin dude, how do you want him to approach you or try to work game with u? Cuz obviously, im doin somethin wrong here.I need some help girls.....?
be real, and honesty, but caringI need some help girls.....?
Just be natural
If we see that you are trying to have game they will know that you are insecure
but if they see a Natural guy who has confidence is will make you more approachable
be real, and honesty, but caringI need some help girls.....?
Just be natural
If we see that you are trying to have game they will know that you are insecure
but if they see a Natural guy who has confidence is will make you more approachable
There may be a girl that I know who...?
Okay, so i am asian. I love black girls, the way they head bang makes me tickle in the you know what areas tehe. Anyway, I am a girl like many of you girls but except for one difference. For some reason i like police booty? I wear those outfits all the time and turn the lights off (my sister sometimes says ';Hey, where the light?'; haha) and pretend I solve a mystery of drugs and I get capture with my gun and I just need to know if it is normal to want a black girl to help my fantasy, because theres a girl at school who hints that she likes it (how i got into it in the first place) and she wants to come over next thursday when my parents aren't home. My mom says black girls are trouble, but I don't believe her, what should I do?There may be a girl that I know who...?
Black girls are trouble? Race is a social construct. The color of a person should not matter in anything. If that's what you like, hey, that's what you like.There may be a girl that I know who...?
Uhm, ignore the racist bigot?
Obviously sneaking this girl in will help your mothers racist view of African Americans. Its an excellent idea
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Black girls are trouble? Race is a social construct. The color of a person should not matter in anything. If that's what you like, hey, that's what you like.There may be a girl that I know who...?
Uhm, ignore the racist bigot?
Obviously sneaking this girl in will help your mothers racist view of African Americans. Its an excellent idea
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Highschool girls: do you realize how immature this is?
im not saying all highschool girls, but most. Im a good looking guy, in 10th grade. Everytime i get on this site i see questions about girls asking if nice guys do exist, or if this guy just wants action, but when i go to school, all the girls say the same thing, well im not bragging or anything, but im a guy who is actually nice to girls, and cares about them, i just dont want action. But yet everytime ive been turned down by every girl, i always get beat by some upperclassmen who is completely full of himself, and he just acts like he cares, but really he just wants to get some, and he knows underclassmen girls are easy. Thats the true reason the upperclassmen go for younger girls, because the girls know they will be popular and cool in the grade if their going out with an upperclassmen, so its easy for the guys, and most of the girls know that those guys are just looking to get some, and they do give them action just so they stay together or something idk, its a mystery. Ive even asked a couple girls of what they see in upperclassmen, all 3 of them said, hes an upperclassmen who can drive, i get to go places and ill be more popular for dating him, all 3 of them said that exact thing, and theirs a ton more girls in are grade dating upperclassmen so i already know what the rest will say. I dont mean to be mean about this, but do you realize how immature that is?Highschool girls: do you realize how immature this is?
You sound like a high school girl yourself.Highschool girls: do you realize how immature this is?
Trust me, high school is NO place to find ';Love';... its stupid.
thats mostly the reason why i havent had a boyfriend yet, im in 10th grade too (im 16) when i tell people i havent had my first kiss or a boyfriend they are shocked, they say you are so pretty and sweet i cant believe it!
Well, im mature, im not immature like most guys at school. I do see a lot of guys look at me in the halls or whatever (Totally not conceited and you would know that if you knew me personally). Im the nice girl out of the group, im usually the peace maker... it gets annoying but there needs to be the stable head of the people around right?
Anyway, i dont know if this helped any but oh well. I hate how a lot of people are just desperate for a boyfriend or a girl friend, it gets really annoying.
But yeah, i do wish that i could experience a relationship and my first kiss but ill just wait for what God brings my way. I dont want to have my first kiss with some person that i dont really like.
Thats highschool, and life get use to it homes.
Nice guys are the biggest faker in the world. They are nice to get girls.... they are *******, they bend over for a girl... a girl wants a man....not some one who has nothing to do with his time? ...s top whining like a *****, and get your life straight
Ok first I'm not a hs girl. But I completely agree with you. That's really immature dude.
Yes, but I'm different from those girls(not to brag or anything) Like i know how you said that not all high school girls, but most would go for upper class guys. i mean that's true, but not all girls do that.
Sweetie, that's just how high school is. Things pretty much do a 180 after you graduate, so don't give up yet.
YEAH IT'S IMMATURE BUT WHY STRESS IT SO MUCH. THOSE GIRLS ARE THE ONES WHO ARE GOING TO BE HEARTBROKEN IN THE END %26amp; U JUST HAD TO DEAL WITH A LITTLE REJECTION. IF U REALLY R BOTH GOOD LOOKING %26amp; A NICE GUY KEEP TRYING MAYBE YOU'LL END UP IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT ACTUALLY MEANS SOMETHING. WHY WOULD U WANT 2 BE W/H GIRLS WHO R ONLY W/H GUYS 2 GAIN SOMETHING OUT OF IT ANYWAYS? I THINK YOU NEED TO START TALKING TO GIRLS FROM OTHER SCHOOLS.
I agree with you most underclassmen girls want to date a upperclassmen guy to be popular but not all girls are like that. Personally I don't consider myself one of those girls because I wouldn't date any upperclassmen guys just to be popular. Homeboy don't trip I'm sure I'll find a girlfriend who really likes you for who you are. I mean you're barely in 10th grade don't worry about this things. I shouldn't be saying this cause I'm also in 10th grade. Class of 2012 Rules!!!!
It's high school. College will get a little better but be careful, some people never grow out of the high school mentality. It does get better as you get older tho.
You sound like a high school girl yourself.Highschool girls: do you realize how immature this is?
Trust me, high school is NO place to find ';Love';... its stupid.
thats mostly the reason why i havent had a boyfriend yet, im in 10th grade too (im 16) when i tell people i havent had my first kiss or a boyfriend they are shocked, they say you are so pretty and sweet i cant believe it!
Well, im mature, im not immature like most guys at school. I do see a lot of guys look at me in the halls or whatever (Totally not conceited and you would know that if you knew me personally). Im the nice girl out of the group, im usually the peace maker... it gets annoying but there needs to be the stable head of the people around right?
Anyway, i dont know if this helped any but oh well. I hate how a lot of people are just desperate for a boyfriend or a girl friend, it gets really annoying.
But yeah, i do wish that i could experience a relationship and my first kiss but ill just wait for what God brings my way. I dont want to have my first kiss with some person that i dont really like.
Thats highschool, and life get use to it homes.
Nice guys are the biggest faker in the world. They are nice to get girls.... they are *******, they bend over for a girl... a girl wants a man....not some one who has nothing to do with his time? ...s top whining like a *****, and get your life straight
Ok first I'm not a hs girl. But I completely agree with you. That's really immature dude.
Yes, but I'm different from those girls(not to brag or anything) Like i know how you said that not all high school girls, but most would go for upper class guys. i mean that's true, but not all girls do that.
Sweetie, that's just how high school is. Things pretty much do a 180 after you graduate, so don't give up yet.
YEAH IT'S IMMATURE BUT WHY STRESS IT SO MUCH. THOSE GIRLS ARE THE ONES WHO ARE GOING TO BE HEARTBROKEN IN THE END %26amp; U JUST HAD TO DEAL WITH A LITTLE REJECTION. IF U REALLY R BOTH GOOD LOOKING %26amp; A NICE GUY KEEP TRYING MAYBE YOU'LL END UP IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT ACTUALLY MEANS SOMETHING. WHY WOULD U WANT 2 BE W/H GIRLS WHO R ONLY W/H GUYS 2 GAIN SOMETHING OUT OF IT ANYWAYS? I THINK YOU NEED TO START TALKING TO GIRLS FROM OTHER SCHOOLS.
I agree with you most underclassmen girls want to date a upperclassmen guy to be popular but not all girls are like that. Personally I don't consider myself one of those girls because I wouldn't date any upperclassmen guys just to be popular. Homeboy don't trip I'm sure I'll find a girlfriend who really likes you for who you are. I mean you're barely in 10th grade don't worry about this things. I shouldn't be saying this cause I'm also in 10th grade. Class of 2012 Rules!!!!
It's high school. College will get a little better but be careful, some people never grow out of the high school mentality. It does get better as you get older tho.
Does he dont like me ?..?
iam a college student.......There is guy in my college whom i like much...
but he ll never speak to girls......
he is very harsh and argent to his class girls...
i got his number through my friend and msgd him...he was very much interested to know who i am and asked to my friend to show me who?....but my friend dint show me....
in beginning he too msged me...but later he refused me...
he had told to all his class girls about me and said that he have girl to like him ....just because of that they all came to see me.........
i told him i like him and i wanted to speak with him..........
but he told to me that he had not seen me still and he dont have interest to speak to me because he never speak with girls.......
then he also meant that i were not straight forward and i could have come and said him directly that i like him...
i got angry and told him you lost the one who feels for u and goodbye...
but now i got to know through his friend he knew me well.....
his friends are teasing him with my name......
but now his behaviour is entirely different.......
he is looking at me everytime.....even my friends had noticed him seeing me when i were not noticing him.....
once it happened for him to come near me he just got confused how to go and he was not able to see my face ..i heard his friends commenting him why da got shy on seeing her ah?
sometimes he keep coming around me and infront of me
he even checks the place whether iam there or not....
manytimes we both seen eachother he never moves his eye from my eyes........
when have a chance to come near my class he just look into my class...just like searching for me...if i see him by accident he ll just start seeing me again n again.....even when we both were sitting in same hall.....he just came front of his chair and keep on seeing me..we both were seeing eachother many times.....
In my last day of my coll i went and told him its me who msgd u and sorry..after tat wen my frnds went alone he looked them again and again in search of me..but he says he dont have interest ....
does he like me or not????Does he dont like me ?..?
GO FOR IT! HE LIKES YOU AND IS WONDERING ABOUT YOU! GO! GET OFF YAHOO ANSWERS AND SET UP A LUNCH DATE OR SOMETHING!Does he dont like me ?..?
Sounds like he's shy, and very very nervous. He probably likes you but is afraid to admit it.
Maybe try approaching him, just smile and hug him. For now.
but he ll never speak to girls......
he is very harsh and argent to his class girls...
i got his number through my friend and msgd him...he was very much interested to know who i am and asked to my friend to show me who?....but my friend dint show me....
in beginning he too msged me...but later he refused me...
he had told to all his class girls about me and said that he have girl to like him ....just because of that they all came to see me.........
i told him i like him and i wanted to speak with him..........
but he told to me that he had not seen me still and he dont have interest to speak to me because he never speak with girls.......
then he also meant that i were not straight forward and i could have come and said him directly that i like him...
i got angry and told him you lost the one who feels for u and goodbye...
but now i got to know through his friend he knew me well.....
his friends are teasing him with my name......
but now his behaviour is entirely different.......
he is looking at me everytime.....even my friends had noticed him seeing me when i were not noticing him.....
once it happened for him to come near me he just got confused how to go and he was not able to see my face ..i heard his friends commenting him why da got shy on seeing her ah?
sometimes he keep coming around me and infront of me
he even checks the place whether iam there or not....
manytimes we both seen eachother he never moves his eye from my eyes........
when have a chance to come near my class he just look into my class...just like searching for me...if i see him by accident he ll just start seeing me again n again.....even when we both were sitting in same hall.....he just came front of his chair and keep on seeing me..we both were seeing eachother many times.....
In my last day of my coll i went and told him its me who msgd u and sorry..after tat wen my frnds went alone he looked them again and again in search of me..but he says he dont have interest ....
does he like me or not????Does he dont like me ?..?
GO FOR IT! HE LIKES YOU AND IS WONDERING ABOUT YOU! GO! GET OFF YAHOO ANSWERS AND SET UP A LUNCH DATE OR SOMETHING!Does he dont like me ?..?
Sounds like he's shy, and very very nervous. He probably likes you but is afraid to admit it.
Maybe try approaching him, just smile and hug him. For now.
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