What relief can I get from the pain of a cheating lover?

I am 16 years old, and have been with my boyfriend for three years. I'd never been so happy before, and i had the biggest gut feeling possible that he was the one.



6 months ago I decided to look at his phone outbox, knowing that their wasn't going to be anything bad on it, just out of curiosity. To my absolute shock there were about 5 messages sent to another girl which were discussing a kiss, and how much he enjoyed it. When i confronted him about it, he tried to deny the whole thing, but i eventually got it out of him when he burst into tears. He admitted that they kissed, out of the blue, and nothing else.

A kiss and 5 texts.

I forgave him, and understood his claims that it was a mistake.

About a month later, i checked his facebook inbox, and once again to my horror there was messages dating back 2 years ago to this same girl (who was a friend), these messages were extremely sexual.

After the tears and anger i forgave him again, and agreed to help him make a fresh start. I sat him down and asked him, for the sake of our relationship to get everything off his chest, to which he explained i'd already figured out for myself everything that he'd done wrong.



We were moving on fine, then a month later i went on his hotmail, to see the emails, just as a check up, and although there weren't any messages after the night that i first found out, there were the same kind of emails that he'd sent to this girl, but many more, and all to different women. i counted 35 different women, and there were messages dating back to when he was 12 years old.



He justified his actions by saying he was too embarrassed to admit he was a nymphomaniac



I forgave him again, this time feeling very sorry for him, hoping to cure him.



I know that in total, he'd had extreme cyber sex with 36 women, (including the girl that was my friend) and kissed, and 'felt up' one (the friend). This is only what i discovered for myself. He has not admitted anything else. the women online were all met through Omegle, and dating websites, many who i looked up are married, few with kids.



we've been working through it, and trying to move on. I'm still entirely head over heels for him, and would never dream of doing anything like that to him, which kills me. We go to school together, along with the girl he cheated with, and I'm constantly feeling anxiety. I know for a fact that i tried the hardest, and still do, to make him happy in every way shape or form (especially sexually, although i do not want to actually HAVE sex before marriage, but neither does he). I've had to put up with a lot during high school, including sexual abuse, horrendous cyber bullying and physical abuse, but nothing has been anywhere near as tough as this.



I just need relief, and leaving my boyfriend is simply not an option for me.



Sorry i couldn't make this shorter. I'd very much appreciate an outsider's opinion.



Thank you



in addition, his dad is also a nymphomaniac who cheated on his mother very similarly to the way my boyfriend cheated on me.What relief can I get from the pain of a cheating lover?
wow. That has bad news written all over it. The only relief that's there is to get as far away from that situation as possible. You are at serious risk being with him. If you care about your well being you will reconsider your ';options';. Good LuckWhat relief can I get from the pain of a cheating lover?
There are many other men in the world who are not nymphomaniacs....