Sunday, November 14, 2010

GIRLS: How do i go back to just being friends?

I went with this girl to prom and i use to really like her a lot. We never technically went out we just kind of went on a couple dates and i kissed her twice. Now after prom i told her that i just wanted to be friends because i kno that im just gonna get hurt by her because she flirts with a lo of guys and i get jealous easy. There were other reasons though but now things are REAL awkward between us and she seems like she doesnt evn want to be friends anymore. All of my friends said that she would love to be just friends and i evn asked her about it. I have her in my first class and i sit by her but after prom night shes totally distant from me. I know it sounds lame but i dont wanna lose her but i know that if i push things then shes just gonna get more distant. PLZ TELL ME WHAT U WOULD WANT THE GUY TO DO!!!!!!GIRLS: How do i go back to just being friends?
i have a similar problem too except the guy bailed for prom. um okay to be friends again, you have to make the initiative to stay friends...so text her ask her to do something fun together but make it clear that you know just as friends. but i know for a fact that since you kinda called it off she won't text you and shell hold back now. so you have to do everything basically. sorry. we're girlsGIRLS: How do i go back to just being friends?
just ignore her..who ****** gives a **** about her?
ummm she seems like shes bummed cause u told her you just want to be friends and she liked u if she flirts with guys then she probably likes alot of guys and when u turned her down she moved on the the next one if she likes u u cant just be her friend but if you dont trust her then u cant date her so ur in a bad spot but just tell her you really want to hangout and u feel like shes being distant and make up a reason why u wanted to be her friend instead of be her man so she doesnt feel denied
she probably likes u and doesnt want to seem like shes flirting, since u said u didnt like her that way

that happened to me, i got a crush on a guy friend, then he found out and so i stopped talking to him as much cuz i didnt no how he would feel. i would just make an effort to be nice, treat her like a guy. dont be mean, but just dont be touchy-feely. crack jokes and listen to her, go hang out somewhere with a group, play something at a park, start by doing stuff with groups so u can hang out but arent pressured to talk to each other every second
shouldve never said that in the first place. maybe those kisses were just a one night thing. unless things were to escalate afterwards like the next day, then thats when you would tell her. do you talk to her like start the convo? or do you expect her to start the convo? just talk to her like you have before, hang out with her, do whatever. If its not work, then she pretty much doesnt want anything to do with you anymore.
That's her way of coping and healing from it all. She probably had some type of feelings for you and after you saying you just want to be friends made her sad and stressed. This very same thing happened to me when a guy I liked for a few years told me he only wanted to be friends. She is just trying to become a bit less attached to you emotionally so she can move on and just be friends. Just continue being her friend (laugh with her, hug her, talk to her, etc.) and just make things comfortable rather than ackward in any way. Act your natural self. Make an effort to talk to her. Smile at her and say hi as soon as you see her! Just please, don't flirt with her in any way because it confuses us gals...that emotional attachment would come back and the whole process would start all over again~

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