Slept with a boy , do you think i'll see him again?

had been chatting loads to this barman over the last couple of months - he works in a bar by my house. two weeks ago he asked for my number and called me when he left work but i'd gone to bed by then so didn't pick up. he called the next day though and was good - chatted about going for a drink but he was working til late that night and i wasn't going out so we arranged to meet the next night (and despite me telling him i wasn't going out, he still called at the end of his shift to see if i was aroung). we met up the next night and went well it would seem - he seemed happy and said he'd call me **to go out** the next week (this was on a saturday). next day in the shop he spotted me and came over over to say hi, was super flirty and repeated about calling me to go for a drink. the next day he called but cos i couldn't meet til late, i said to come over to mine (rather than get a drink) as we live close by....realise gunna get lots of abuse now but....we slept together...and was good...





when he left he asked if i'd be in his bar that week (his only night off is the night he saw me)...so i said yes, i'd be there on the thursday and we'd catch up then. but in the end on the thursday i wasn't gunna go out so i sent him a message saying that and also put ';but we'll meet/get a drink another day if you want'; and also put that i'd had a good time with him on the tuesday.





no reply....i know it didn't demand one - and that i guess he'd only get in contact if was for a reason (and cos he's working all these nights (and i'm working all days) we can't meet, so there's no ';reason';) ...but still - SOMETHING would have been nice...or is it just girls that text ';pointless'; things like ';ok'; to aknowledge messages??





so yep, on the saturday i went his bar and we chatted and was fine, he said sorry about not replying to the message ';but you're really great eh?'; and that he'd text to go out on tuesday (as in yesterday)...and NOTHING...STILL....





but is weird cos the last time we met up, last tuesday, right near the end, he asked how long i'd be here for (live in foreign country) ';to know how long we've got'; ( i live here permanently)...and he was also super tactile /chatty etc (after sex too) so don't really get how it's changed so much....





is it just now that i've slept with him he thinks am easy lay and he'll just get in touch when he feels like it?? or will i never see him again? or...? would probably go his bar tomorrow (have been going there for years ) but now not sure whether to go as don't want to be there ';hassling'; him but would kind of like to know what's going on...





he has two jobs and only one night off a week (which was last night and it coincided with his favourite football team important match) so get taht maybe in the end he didn't want to meet - so is the absense of message just a boy thing (no reason to message, no message) or...?





also,,,i actually slept with him the first night and he still wanted to meet after that so......like i would have thought if he just wanted the one-time sex then why bother getting in touch again?Slept with a boy , do you think i'll see him again?
He thought that you were from out of town and it would not be a long term thing. Now he has to consider that you might want more from him than just sex. He has plenty of opportunity in the bar, so I can't imagine why he would want someone steady in his life to cheat on. Chalk it up to experience. These type guys have so much opportunity, that they have a very difficult time having a relationship. Find a nice guy that is not attached to a job where he is constantly hit on by other women. By the way, the fastest way to turn off a nice guy is to sleep with him on the first date. He will automatically think you are a wh*re, whether you are or not. At least try to get to know him better before having sex with him.Slept with a boy , do you think i'll see him again?
He probably sees you as a possible girl worth dating but hasn't the time to get into a relationship due to all his work. It also sounds like you broke the rule of NEVER having sex with a guy on the first date, it makes you seem easy and guys LOVE a chase. But all isn't lost. Keep in contact with him and if he doesn't respond often then visit him and talk while he is bar tending, etc.
I dont want to sound cruel but I think it was abit much to soon.





If I were you I would send a text and say something ';Do you fancy meeting up for a drink think we need to talk';





If he doesnt reply dont chase him just leave it because he just thinks your easy (No offence)





But if he contacts you and says OK meet away from both homes and stay on neutral ground. Ask him what he thinks of you. Then drop it and talk about other things like you would a friend and see how he is then because if you can't hold a conversation without sex being mentioned then he is not worth it. But WHATEVER you do dont sleep with him that night and see if he contacts you afterwards when you don't sleep with him. Trust me you will know whether he is worth it then or not. You have to be able to talk to make a conversation work anyway not to be just about sex.





You seem a nice girl don't let him mess you about. Everybody is worth more than that including you. I may be 16 but I do know what I am on about Been there myself. Now I am with someone engaged and looking to move in together next year. If you want a future with someone don't throw yourself at them they won't resepct you for it and they will keep using you.





Good Luck !!! :) xx