I am really sad and can't get over my father's death... I don't know what to do?

Hey friends, just need your advice here... This is a super long story but I will try to make it shorter somehow... Well so I lost my dad... And plus on his last day we argued and I left home, then I asked my mum to pick me up and when we came back I saw him lying on the floor dead!... My mum was unpacking some stuff we bought on the way and when she heard my scream she came and so did neighbors they called ambulance and took me away in our inn (our inn is located very near to our house and you can hear what's going on in the house and see the yard from the window), I heard some screams and ';oh my god';s 2 doctors and few people staid with me and gave me some pills that would stop me from panic, when I stopped I fell in shock and was just shaking terribly, I couldn't recognize the woman who was hugging me and telling me some things I wasn't listening to (things like don't worry, he will be fine, blah blah.)( later I remembered that it was my classmate's mother, they live next to us, she's a really nice woman) Well then my aunt took me away so I would be more calm to her house and my couzie tried the best to cheer me up. My dad was taken in hospital for 2 days, but those 2 days were like 100 years in hell for me, some of my relatives warned me that my dad had only like 25-30% of survival, (My mum, my uncle and my gran and I thank them for being so nice to tell me the truth and get me ready...) Though some told me that my dad would make it ';of course'; (I didn't believe though...) people kept taking me to their homes those 2 days like a pup they thought that it would make the situation better, I would just rather stay home but that would be rude so oh well... My mum went in hospital and stayed their all days, nobody was allowed to see my dad, only doctors so she didn't take me, plus I couldn't walk because all those medicines... By the end of the day I was 99% my dad would die but I didn't wanna believe my gut feeling... after another day, door rang it was my mother she was staring at me with sad fake smile and I faked a smile too asking cheerfully how was daddy but she didn't answer then she said look who came to see you... A lot of people followed her, my cousins, my brother my sister and my god-father, I very stupidly couldn't realize firstly what was going on, I kissed each of them and asked my mum the sane question, she said that my god-father wanted to say something to me, he said the words that killed my soul... He said ';Theres... No daddy anymore dear...'; and cuddled me, I just felt the energy flying out of me and I was too tired to react or do anything but crying... I cried a lot and was looking at my cousins crying after I was too tired to even cry my god-father said (he's a doctor, he was allowed to see my dad) that my dad wanted to tell me something before he died and he asked him (they were best friends ever) to tell me he said ';Please, be strong, live your life as I would like you to do, don't give up, be cool... You know what I mean...'; These were his last words...





I am trying but I just cant keep going on like this, the only person holding me on this world is my mum and probably my brother, the ones I love to death and would give my life to without even thinking... But my father was like part of me, we like had our world because he was just like me, but I was such a brat, horrible demon, probably this idiot teen age, after like when I was 12 I would not even talk to him and after I was like 13-14 we would argue a lot (by the way, when he passed away I was 14 now I am 15) When I was a kid I used to be a ';daddy's girl'; type of girl :') I miss the old sweet times...





I sometimes see him in my dreams and I believe hes really there... I wanna believe...





I wanna die to be with him again and just give him a real big hug and tell him how great he is and how sorry I am but I don't wanna leave my mum and bro...





I am very sorry for such a big ';question'; probably bored you... This is much longer though...





Note: I go to a psychologist, I just wanna hear your advices too


And no, I am not a dark weirdo, I try to act normally because I don't wanna let others be bugged of my problems and stuff...





Another sorry for such a big ';question'; and thank you for your answers all, sorry if I bored you...I am really sad and can't get over my father's death... I don't know what to do?
I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my dad five years ago. And I still have dreams about him. He's always alive in my dreams. Sometimes it's just to say ';Hi';. The last dream that I had was in March. He was alive in my dream. And when I realized that he had already died, I begged him not to leave. Needless to say I woke up crying and couldn't stop...





The pain lessens as the years pass. But you'll find yourself crying throughout the years too (as I am right now). And no one truly understands what you're going through until they lose their dad.





In my opinion, I feel like your dads' spirit is visiting you. He's letting you know that he is still there for you and that you can always ';talk'; to him. You may not be able to see him, but he is in your heart. He's asking you to be strong and to live your life.





You may have argued before he died. And you probably feel remorse. I feel that your dad is telling you that he forgives you. He understands what you're going through because he was once a teenager. Remember his last words to you, ';';Please, be strong, live your life as I would like you to do, don't give up, be cool... You know what I mean...';





He knew that you loved him. And always remember that he loved you very much.I am really sad and can't get over my father's death... I don't know what to do?
Awww hun I'm soo sorry but hes in a better place now. Hes watching you. And it's hard for anyone to get over a parents death, I can imagine. Time will heal everything. Focus all of your time on something/someone like a pet so it goes by faster %26lt;3 We all have to go through losing someone we love so much someday, You're not alone.
talk to him..in your sleep.
Just remember that every life has an end.. As hard as it may seem, try and remember the good in his life, just do what you think he would want you to do.. He wouldn't want you to die to see him, then his life would have in a sense be wasted.. Go out there and make him proud so when you do die, because all life has an end, you can go give him a hug and remember that without him, you wouldn't be the person you are today, living or not, he should always be there in your heart. You will always miss him, but think of all things in a positive manner, we only live once, and I am sure he would want you to live the best of your life.
that's really sad. i'm sorry.


to get over it, you should try to find someone who understands you're hurting bad and who's willing to listen to you. maybe your brother, your mom, ect. also, it sometimes helps in these situations to start a diary. just try to find something or someone that you can tell everything to. maybe a pet if you have one?
u did not bore me with this, actually I enjoyed it, so thank u 4 taking the responsibility 2 share this with me. but do as Daddy asked of u, live u life, u still have a long life ahead of u, and sometimes u may feel weird doing this, but when u say ur prayers, ask God 2 watch over ur daddy, I know it's hard rite now, and I'm sorry u have 2 go this, but it'll get easier, not rite now, it'll take some time. and another thing, visit him @ his gravesite, talk to ur dad, because 1 thing about it BabyGurl, he mite gone, but he's not Forgotten. And u remember that, I really do wish u tha best because at lease u did have ur dad around, I didn't get that opportunity, so he understands, and he know that u loved him. Take care BabyGurl. Hope that helped.
That's a lot of guilt you are holding on to. We all have quarrels with our parents, later on we might feel badly about it, but we have the chance to make it up....usually, the end of your fathers life came unexpectedly and your time to make up was not going to come.


That makes you feel very guilty.


As parents we know our kids are going to pull away from us in the teen years, its a painful but necessary step for them to grow up and begin to stand on their own.


Your dad knew that too, that's what he was trying to tell you...he knew that there was no real animosity there, he knew you loved him and he still loved you. No matter what happened before he was taken.


What you experienced was shock, the sense of unreality, the 'wall' between you and others, the blanking out of memory, all of this is a normal reaction of someone in shock.


You cannot kill yourself and be with him, that is the farthest thing he ever would have wanted from you.


If you really want to honor his memory you will be the best possible person you can be. That's what he said, take him at his word.
god is with you if u beleave u will be happy if u beleave in ur dad he can come back but thats only if u realy do beleave with the holy spirit of god i hear be thi u will get the holy spirt!
i am so sorry for your daddy.may his soul rest in peace ameen


thats in human psychology that when we have something we dont really care about it but when we lose it we love it forever and a day
im sorry for your lost..;(


Pray for your dad and God will take care of him..

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