How long to get over an ex, sorry kind of long?

me and my ex broke up about a month ago but we were both kind of expecting that we'd be together in the future when we're older and more mature and that we just needed time, we tried being friends but about 2 weeks ago i said i didn't want to because it hurt too much. He was upset and he asked my friend (if it werent my friend i wouldnt have told him anything because we are broken up so he can do what he wants but it's not cool to talk to your ex's best friend) to the movies and when i confronted him about it he apologized for that saying he didn't know why he did and that he just wasn't thinking(i still don't know why he would do that??) we basically argued and we both just said how mad we are and he said mean stuff like ';just stop, your making me never want to go out with you again'; but then he said ';arg i hate this, im mad but i don't want to hate you forever'; then the convo ended with him just being like ';fine then il just be mad forever, i don't feel like talking bye.'; and so i let it go, then a week later he texted me to say ';we don't have to talk about it but i just wanted to say im sorry for hurting you'; and i apologized too. then he was like ';ok thats all i had to say, bye.'; and we haven't talked since then. im so much better than i was a few weeks ago but i can't get him off my mind.he's already talking to other girls i think. i've gotten to know him so well and i can't tell if he's a jerk or if i just hurt him and hes trying to push it away. from all the stuff i just put he seems like a jerk but i still can't bring myself to believe that, like i've seen the good side of him that he doesn't let other people see.Im scared that he's going to move on because i cut contact with him and that i'll still love him months from now and he'll be with another girl. but i also think its possible that he will still have feelings for me even after being with/talking to other girls.i don't know what to think or do. i don't think we'll talk for a long time. im not sure if i should get over him or how or how long it will take?if hes a nice guy or not?if it seems like he still loves me and hes just hurt?any insight into the situation is appreciated!!! please and thank youHow long to get over an ex, sorry kind of long?
Well why did you guys break up? Was this a unanimous decision? Did you both agree to break up?

If you really love him, then try talking to him about what went wrong, that is if you want to go back with him. Ask him if he'll accept you again, and that you're very hurt, and truly want him back.

Unfortunaly, things don't always turn out in happy endings, so idk if you do this, you'll ex will want to be with you again. You can try, but there is no guarantee that he'll want to.

It sounds like he's trying to forget you by talking to other girls. And it seems that he's doing this on purpose, to try to forget you.

If you try talking to him about this situation, how you feel and such, there is a chance that you both can be back together.

If he says, ';no i dont' want you back'; there is nothing you can do, except move on.

In life, you love, and get hurt, that's how relationships work, you have to be willing to take risks, and the outcomes can sometimes