I have this guy who is a friend. We are very close. I have known him for over a year now and we have talked at least once everyday. We met during a difficult time in my life. I lost a child, he became my supporter when I had nobody else. My husband went off the deep end and my friend helped with advice on how to save my marriage. I tried everything. I asked the husband for counseling and he refused. It got to the point in my marriage that my husband had became abusive. I left my husband in October. Before I left my husband it was all friendship bw me and the friend. He has been divorced and had kids just like me. We are alike in so many ways we just click. I am 100% sure I have fallen in love with him. He is very sweet to me and makes me really happy. In the past I never noticed it before but if he was going out with a girl i'd get upset. I never noticed it until recently, only when we talked about it. He hasn't been seeing anyone I am positive of that. We have talked about dating and he says he likes me and only time will tell. At times I can see that he really cares for me and my kids. As I do him and his kids. He is so confusing though. He says things like you are so wonderful and exactly what I need in my life. Then he says you are not ready to love again. I can't explain how I feel about him. I just know that being around him makes me feel so whole. He literally takes my breath away. Im not sure he feels the same about me. he says he is cold hearted and has built a wall to keep others out. At times he beats around the bush and says he loves me and at others he says things like how he wishes he was in love with me. If I don't txt him or call he txts me or calls me. We have slept together only recently. Hes been around a year why would he spend a year being so close to me if all he wanted was sex? Does he truly care for me and is just afraid to show it? His ex had cheated on him and in return he did the same. He has said that he doesn't feel like he could be the husband I need. This is a man I have seen break down and cry. I have seen him at some of his worse days and some of his best. Am I wrong for wanting to have a realationship with him? For honestly feeling like I love him?Is he into me? Sorry this is kinda long.?
this dude loves 1 night stands and yur just handin um to him on a silver platterIs he into me? Sorry this is kinda long.?
he is into you
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No man invests a year of his life and the sharing of heartbreak to wrangle some easy sex. It sounds like he has chosen to harden his heart to love. He is not willing to risk the kind of heartbreak he has dealt with in the past. He is protecting himself. I think that he needs counseling. Is he Christian? He could talk with his pastor. I'm sorry, Christian is not the point, but if he attends spiritual meetings of any religion, he could talk with someone there who could help him. He needs to learn to trust, again. Until he does, he will not feel safe in any relationship. Stop the sex, keep on loving and caring for him. But you need to protect yourself, too.
From what you have just said, it sounds like he really does care for you but he has a very difficult time when it comes to trust. If all he wanted was sex, no he would not have stayed around for a year, I think there is more to it than that. Having an ex cheat on you can leave a scare very deep and for quite a long time. As a general rule of thumb, men take considerably longer to recover from emotional issues. Mostly because we tend not to face our emotion right away. Society has taught us to ';suck it up and be a man';. Thing's are changing in that respect, but very slowly. When he say you are not ready for love, it seems to me that he is saying that he might not be ready. The only panacea I can see for this right now is time. You have to allow for the trust to continue to develop. That fact that you were true to your ex-husband even while you were Friend with him and you did not cheat on your ex during that times says quite a good bit about your personality. That will definitely be in your favor.
If you feel that strongly for him, the best thing you can do is to be his friend. Don't be afraid to let him know how you feel, and tell him that if you thought you were ready for love again, that you hope it might be with him. From what you say, it sounds like your ready, he just might not be. The most important thing is to let him know you are there for him. The pain of betrayal (his ex) takes a long time to go away. He still needs to deal with that issue. When he says he does not feel like he could be the husband that you need, he might very well be telling you the truth about how he feels right now. Don't rush him, take your time. By the way, you already have a relationship with him, he just does not know it yet.
Best of luck to you, and be patient and take your time. especially for yours and his kids sake.
Sunday, November 21, 2010
How do I win back this girl's trust? A bit long (looking for more answers this time please)?
There's a girl who used to be crazy about me last year. I never loved her but I like her physically (pale, sort of pretty, curvy, D cup). I could never love her either - I just never had that love connection with her.
Anyway, I'm in one of those very rare cases where an average, even mediocre guy finds that a tolerable girl is emotionally hooked on him - even as they break up, many months pass with no contact, and she dates other guys, the weakness doesn't change. And I want to take full advantage of that.
I'm really lonely at the moment, I've gone through several failures with women I desperately wanted, and now I think it's time for a somewhat physically pleasant rebound.
We've had the lightest contact lately and I can tell from her emails that the weakness is still there. E.g. she always answers my emails. Gets emotional when I tell her I still love her, gets emotional when she says I don't really love her and she doesn't trust me (that's why she's refusing me so far).
My question is, how do I lure her softly back in? I need to talk to her, be gentle and an oasis of care, coax her defenses down, get her comfortable enough with me and then make her fall in love full force again. Knowing this kinda girl - it's pretty likely if I play it right (I'm usually not a patient guy and when I want a quick fix I cut to the chase). Should I avoid the L word and what I really want and just be good to her for a while?
I want her sexually again.How do I win back this girl's trust? A bit long (looking for more answers this time please)?
you will die sad and lonely
not an answer to your question, but a true answerHow do I win back this girl's trust? A bit long (looking for more answers this time please)?
Jacka$$!
You are asking us how to lie to her? Just because you are lonely, horny or whatever doesn't give you the right to use her, especially if she has real feelings for you. Be kind.
Guess it's more the F word in your case...and I hope she can see right through you.
Why don't you just go find a f*** buddy and stop playing with her heart.... wtf is wrong with you...
... Are you saying you want to take advantage of this poor girls emotions? This is all a bit confusing. If so, then you are messed up. Let the girl be. If you like her then let her know and show her, say nice things, call just to talk, take her on nice dates.
Anyway, I'm in one of those very rare cases where an average, even mediocre guy finds that a tolerable girl is emotionally hooked on him - even as they break up, many months pass with no contact, and she dates other guys, the weakness doesn't change. And I want to take full advantage of that.
I'm really lonely at the moment, I've gone through several failures with women I desperately wanted, and now I think it's time for a somewhat physically pleasant rebound.
We've had the lightest contact lately and I can tell from her emails that the weakness is still there. E.g. she always answers my emails. Gets emotional when I tell her I still love her, gets emotional when she says I don't really love her and she doesn't trust me (that's why she's refusing me so far).
My question is, how do I lure her softly back in? I need to talk to her, be gentle and an oasis of care, coax her defenses down, get her comfortable enough with me and then make her fall in love full force again. Knowing this kinda girl - it's pretty likely if I play it right (I'm usually not a patient guy and when I want a quick fix I cut to the chase). Should I avoid the L word and what I really want and just be good to her for a while?
I want her sexually again.How do I win back this girl's trust? A bit long (looking for more answers this time please)?
you will die sad and lonely
not an answer to your question, but a true answerHow do I win back this girl's trust? A bit long (looking for more answers this time please)?
Jacka$$!
You are asking us how to lie to her? Just because you are lonely, horny or whatever doesn't give you the right to use her, especially if she has real feelings for you. Be kind.
Guess it's more the F word in your case...and I hope she can see right through you.
Why don't you just go find a f*** buddy and stop playing with her heart.... wtf is wrong with you...
... Are you saying you want to take advantage of this poor girls emotions? This is all a bit confusing. If so, then you are messed up. Let the girl be. If you like her then let her know and show her, say nice things, call just to talk, take her on nice dates.
When should I ask her to dance with me?
I'm going to a wedding reception and this girl I like will be there, who also likes me. Should I ask her to dance with me on the first song? Or dance with a few other girls who I don't have any feelings for first?
I'm a pretty lousy dancer if that makes any difference, although I have taken several classes so I sort of know what to do.
I've danced with this girl before. Then we went to the same dance class (but not together) and I asked her to dance there once and she turned me down. Then she got really jealous when I danced with other girls.
So how should I approach things?When should I ask her to dance with me?
Just be honest with her, ask her to dance. Its nothing to really be afraid of. Good Luck!When should I ask her to dance with me?
wow just approach it casually with a conversation ..
joke that you're a good dancer and just suck...
I'm a pretty lousy dancer if that makes any difference, although I have taken several classes so I sort of know what to do.
I've danced with this girl before. Then we went to the same dance class (but not together) and I asked her to dance there once and she turned me down. Then she got really jealous when I danced with other girls.
So how should I approach things?When should I ask her to dance with me?
Just be honest with her, ask her to dance. Its nothing to really be afraid of. Good Luck!When should I ask her to dance with me?
wow just approach it casually with a conversation ..
joke that you're a good dancer and just suck...
I am in love with a married woman, and want her for myself?
Almost a year ago, I got back in touch with this girl I used to have feelings for (I am a girl to). At the time I was married, and Ive had relationships outside my marriage before. After my husband left me, me and this other woman got an apartment together. She said that her and her wife were not together anymore but still lived together. For months I waited for her to move out of her wife's place and move in with me. When she finally did she only stayed about a week and a half, and then went back to her wife. They have been together for 13 years and are legally married. Well she left her wife again after being gone for a month, because her wife kept bringing me up and crying about the affair. But every time she leaves her wife she starts to text her by the next day telling her she loves her and misses her. Well this time she only stayed for 5 days, and she has been gone for almost 2 weeks now. But we talk and text each other through out the day, I am sure her wife does not know about this. While she was living with me she posted on a comment on her facebook saying MY WIFE IS ON MY MIND. I want to be with her but not like this, she says that she loves me. But she keeps going back to her wife. But I know that she loves her wife and would do anything for her. Do you think she will ever leave her wife for good and be with me. Her wife takes good care of her but I think I can do a better job. She says she loves me but keeps going back, how do I get her to stay?I am in love with a married woman, and want her for myself?
Don't torture yourself by continuing to let her come back and forth in your life. She sounds selfish and unstable. If she treats the women she loves like this, why would you want to have a relationship with her? Make a clean break - you have become addicted to the drama not the girl.I am in love with a married woman, and want her for myself?
she is playing you and am sorry to say this if she really loves you she would have left her wife a long time ago .Move on and find someone else
Don't let her fool you, she is just using you. She will never leave her wife as long as they keep talking to each other.
Nothing good will come out of this, one of you will be hurt. and because she keeps going back with her wife it will probaly continue to be you. They obviously have a history together, 13 years is a long time. Stay away from her, and let her go. She is probaly telling you one thing and telling her wife something else. Why would you want to be the other woman. You may think this isnt fair to you, but its not fair to the wife either. There is someone out there who will be loyal to you, but if you are caught up in this affair with this woman you wont be open to someone good and deserving in your life. What if you were the wife, what would you want the other woman to do? I am sure you would want her to move on so you try and mend your marriage. Nothing good will come out of this. She may leave her wife for a couple of days, and you will have that couple days of fun. But its not fun anymore when she leaves you to go back to her wife. Let her go, she is not going to leave her wife for you, sorry but I am only being truthful
woman once forbidden to marry the same type. No issue will occur. Just fun to make people complacent the disaster will occur.wavy hair
Don't torture yourself by continuing to let her come back and forth in your life. She sounds selfish and unstable. If she treats the women she loves like this, why would you want to have a relationship with her? Make a clean break - you have become addicted to the drama not the girl.I am in love with a married woman, and want her for myself?
she is playing you and am sorry to say this if she really loves you she would have left her wife a long time ago .Move on and find someone else
Don't let her fool you, she is just using you. She will never leave her wife as long as they keep talking to each other.
Nothing good will come out of this, one of you will be hurt. and because she keeps going back with her wife it will probaly continue to be you. They obviously have a history together, 13 years is a long time. Stay away from her, and let her go. She is probaly telling you one thing and telling her wife something else. Why would you want to be the other woman. You may think this isnt fair to you, but its not fair to the wife either. There is someone out there who will be loyal to you, but if you are caught up in this affair with this woman you wont be open to someone good and deserving in your life. What if you were the wife, what would you want the other woman to do? I am sure you would want her to move on so you try and mend your marriage. Nothing good will come out of this. She may leave her wife for a couple of days, and you will have that couple days of fun. But its not fun anymore when she leaves you to go back to her wife. Let her go, she is not going to leave her wife for you, sorry but I am only being truthful
woman once forbidden to marry the same type. No issue will occur. Just fun to make people complacent the disaster will occur.
What does it mean when a girl keeps staring at you? Ok to ask her out to coffee and get her number on 1st day?
Ok, a girl keeps staring at me. It's been happening for a few weeks. She even stood right next to me when there was plenty of room to stand somewhere else. She even kept looking at me at a distance when she was walking. Does this mean anything? Or do I just think she's interested in me? I am always wrong reading girl's body language. Please be honest and realistic about this. I don't know because I've never had a gf.
How can I talk to her if I'm not good at it? How can I ask her out to hangout with me and get her number without making it look creepy? We go to the same college and we see each other at the bus stop once a week. I'm a bit shy and don't have a lot of experience since I don't talk much with peopel I don't know. I really want to get to know her and I think she's pretty. But there's only 3 weeks of school left. Is it ok if I ask her out to lunch or coffee and get her number on the same day?What does it mean when a girl keeps staring at you? Ok to ask her out to coffee and get her number on 1st day?
Step out of your comfort zone and you will be rewarded. Even if she says no you will still have a victory. It will be that much easier to do it the next time. Hope this helps. Good luckWhat does it mean when a girl keeps staring at you? Ok to ask her out to coffee and get her number on 1st day?
she thinks u r intersting
Go for it dude she seems like she likes you.
And hell yea it's ok to ask out to lunch/coffee and get her number. Hell maybe even a walk by the park and you can hold hands.....
SO CUTE! Sorry I'm never like this....this just makes me think of my first date with my current boyfriend.
Give her a half smile and apporach her, ';hey how's it going... do you live nearby or somthing?'; Start the convo bro, and it will get you somewhere. Along the lines, do invite her out for a coffee, and just talk about stuff, like school and whatever, then ask for her number, she will surely give it. If she doesn't then each time you see her, just give her that half smile that drives all the ladies wild.
hahaha my mojo is back!!!
Cheers
How can I talk to her if I'm not good at it? How can I ask her out to hangout with me and get her number without making it look creepy? We go to the same college and we see each other at the bus stop once a week. I'm a bit shy and don't have a lot of experience since I don't talk much with peopel I don't know. I really want to get to know her and I think she's pretty. But there's only 3 weeks of school left. Is it ok if I ask her out to lunch or coffee and get her number on the same day?What does it mean when a girl keeps staring at you? Ok to ask her out to coffee and get her number on 1st day?
Step out of your comfort zone and you will be rewarded. Even if she says no you will still have a victory. It will be that much easier to do it the next time. Hope this helps. Good luckWhat does it mean when a girl keeps staring at you? Ok to ask her out to coffee and get her number on 1st day?
she thinks u r intersting
Go for it dude she seems like she likes you.
And hell yea it's ok to ask out to lunch/coffee and get her number. Hell maybe even a walk by the park and you can hold hands.....
SO CUTE! Sorry I'm never like this....this just makes me think of my first date with my current boyfriend.
Give her a half smile and apporach her, ';hey how's it going... do you live nearby or somthing?'; Start the convo bro, and it will get you somewhere. Along the lines, do invite her out for a coffee, and just talk about stuff, like school and whatever, then ask for her number, she will surely give it. If she doesn't then each time you see her, just give her that half smile that drives all the ladies wild.
hahaha my mojo is back!!!
Cheers
How do I tell my friends that his relationship isn't healthy?
I have a friend that recently got together with a new gf. At first I was happy for him and tried to get to know the girl. The more I found out the more I didn't like. She has started separating him from his friends(both male and female) in any way shape or form. Ex: He had a movie night with his guy friends planned and suddenly she needed to go to the mall at the exact same time and for some reason could not drive herself. Ive literally seen her drag him away by his arm,shirt collar, etc when talking to someone, including myself. I just don't know how to make him start thinking for himself again, its like shes taking control of his brain. Anybody have an advice/suggestions?How do I tell my friends that his relationship isn't healthy?
yeah, say,';dude you're whipped';, then get him another beer, really there is no way you can insist upon it though, just make your point and he'll notice the signs, then all you have to do is fake his death in a tragic blimp accident to get him off the hook.How do I tell my friends that his relationship isn't healthy?
tell him you will give some good secks he dont have to chase this crazy btich
yeah, say,';dude you're whipped';, then get him another beer, really there is no way you can insist upon it though, just make your point and he'll notice the signs, then all you have to do is fake his death in a tragic blimp accident to get him off the hook.How do I tell my friends that his relationship isn't healthy?
tell him you will give some good secks he dont have to chase this crazy btich
How do I tell him? Girls and guys opinions please?
I work with this guy. Before I get a whole lot of grief over that part...our employer does not have a problem with employees dating, seriously, they don't. We are both over 21, so were not children. Okay now that that is out of the way. He started about two months ago. After I started training him as a bartender, and we started hanging out with me after work. Getting a bite to eat or grabbing a drink. One night he was done early and he stayed for three hours to wait for me to finish so we could go get a drink. We have flirted a little back and forth. Feeding each other cherries after pouring this shot that you need to pour the liquor over to layer. He'll do little things like bring me an energy drink in when I have to work a double shift, etc.
We have a lot in common, such as we were both home schooled up until high school, through the same program too, which is strange, I've never met anyone else who went through the same program I did. We are both intelligent, overachievers, and a little bit neat freakish. He's very athletic, I'm athletically retarded...but that's okay
He is very good looking, obviously, I'm attracted to him. However, I'm not all that confident in my looks. People tell me I'm cute and beautiful, but I don't necessarily believe them. My fear is that I'm attracted to him and he's not attracted to me, but thinks of me as a friend and co-worker. So my question is...after all that long story is should I just bite the bullet and tell him that I like him? If so, how should I tell him. I've never told a guy I liked that I have feelings for him, so I need some adviceHow do I tell him? Girls and guys opinions please?
oh man i cant help this but you guys sound nerdy and it's ironic you are drinking liquor and you are irishHow do I tell him? Girls and guys opinions please?
just look at him straight in the eyes and tell him, you never know life is short and sometimes you just have to take your chances. i think he likes you but i would wait a little more and just give him signs its better when the guy makes the first move(:
Don't feel like you have to just come out and tell him you like him. Flirt with him more and casually ask him if he wants to hang out..but do something thats not work related.
I once saw this in a movie.. try this.. Ask him how he likes to kiss. Slow or fast. Then show him. Just be playful at first and see what he does after. ; )
ok well he prob does like u soooo id say he soandso uhhhhh i wanted to tell you i like you and i hope you like me
Hold off on the ';telling';. Talk with him and ask him out to an activity that's beyond just ';hanging out';, like a one-on-one dinner. If he's down, good... see where it goes... see if there's flirting... let the chemistry happen. He obviously cares about you otherwise he wouldn't do things like hang out and bring you energy drinks (I would be uber-flattered if a woman did that for me!)
Ok. Just tell him this : '; Look, we've been hanging out a lot, and I want u to know that I like u.'; At the perfect moment, say that. Then if he sais he does to and he's been trying to get the courage to tell you and stuff, you're probably gonna start dating. But if he doesn't react, then just say, '; Sorry, I know. I'm going too fast.'; Hope this helps. :)
GOOD LUCK!!!
Since you are over 21 (like my self) it seems you want to know if he can be in a serious relationship with you. Check out his other action's..does he treat the other female co-workers the way he does you..or does he ignore them? Since you have went out and took things outside of work obviously there is some initial feelings... attractions. If you are to nervous to ask him ';hey do you like me'; (because I am like that to).. Invite him over for dinner (made by you)...Or ask him something simpler to go see a movie or something. If he accepts your invitation there is obvioulsy some feelings there!! :)
Well since you have some evidence that he night be interested, I'd say go for it. Maybe just ask him if he wants to go to a movie some time, or go to dinner. If he turns you down just walk it off. It sounds like it's worth a shot! Good luck! :)
First, I like your writing style, you cracked me up with the athletically retarded point.
Anyway, you hit on some important points namely that you are both intelligent overachievers. You guys probably have a TON of things that are incredibly interesting to discuss, it is no WONDER he waited for three hours for you to get off of work. Reading into what you wrote I assume you both have a passion for life, where ideas are bouncing off of your heads constantly, always thinking, always dreaming. It is no WONDER he wouldn't find you fascinating you him.
With all of that this guy finds you beautiful. I bet you know you are beautiful, it is just that your feelings for him and the fear of becoming vulnerable and being hurt makes you reluctant to admit it to yourself that such an awesome guy in EVERY way would find you attractive. Again, your down-to-earth humility is also what he finds so endearing.
Woman - this guy thinks you are HOT! Tell him that you like him over drinks. Tell him that you enjoy being in his company, that you loved that he waited three hours until you were off of work. Tell him that you find yourself sneaking peaks at him while you work at the same time. Tell him that you think about him at times.
Hey, have fun and enjoy this. I think you guys sound pretty perfect for each other.
im only 20 and havnt been in a situation exactly like this but im good at getten girls and im always very blantant and it accually works pretty well from what ive experienced if u guys flirt and all that and it seems like he might like u just make it a casual question dont get so worried about it wich i know is hard to do but anyways my attempt would be somthing like this.....
hey john doe we hang out alot and have alot of fun and i just wanted to mention that im feeling very attracted to u in a more intamate way then you might think and i was just wondering how u felt about me if i was just a friend to you or if u felt that you liked me in a similar way?
and bam you got ur answer he'll iether well yes jane doe i am attracted to you and youll be thrilled or else he'll feel a little akward and say somthin well no im accually iterested in another girl,,,,or well i dunno,,,,or somthin like wow i didnt know u feel that way im not sure if i do or just somethin other then a smile and a yes who knows what it could be people say odd things when they turn u down but hey if he doesnt say yes then no biggy just be like.....
oh ok thats cool i was just wondering but i dont want you to feel wierd around me now
and dont worry about ur looks all girls are like that and even me n im a guy but u cant let that hold u back or youll never get laid so have fun with it just ask him dont be scared and be prepared for a no just in case and you should be fine
wait it out a little longer. it seem like he likes you, but then again you don't want to jump the gun and make a fool of yourself.
if your not confident with your looks like most people. look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful. do things that make you feel beautiful.
flirt with him some more. use you eyes and your body. in a non-slutty kind of way of course.
do you even hug? if you haven't hugged him yet. please do so. it is a 1st step to chest to chest contact and sometimes a hug can say a lot. so no side or one armed hugs, those are usually meant for acquaintances. this gives you a chance to smell and feel him, as well as, him getting the chance to smell and feel you. allowing the both of you to get familiar.
compare the size of your hands. i know it sounds stupid but it works (i know your over 21). he will see how small and dainty your hands are compared to his. sometimes your hands might even lock.
run your fingers through his hair (if you can). i love running my fingers through a guys hair. it is a sign of affection. simple and sexy.
give each other back rubs. you and i know standing on your feet all day hurts your back. i have a job where i am on my feet all day too and my back is hurts like crazy at the end of the day.
good luck. i hope you bag your bartender hottie.
We have a lot in common, such as we were both home schooled up until high school, through the same program too, which is strange, I've never met anyone else who went through the same program I did. We are both intelligent, overachievers, and a little bit neat freakish. He's very athletic, I'm athletically retarded...but that's okay
He is very good looking, obviously, I'm attracted to him. However, I'm not all that confident in my looks. People tell me I'm cute and beautiful, but I don't necessarily believe them. My fear is that I'm attracted to him and he's not attracted to me, but thinks of me as a friend and co-worker. So my question is...after all that long story is should I just bite the bullet and tell him that I like him? If so, how should I tell him. I've never told a guy I liked that I have feelings for him, so I need some adviceHow do I tell him? Girls and guys opinions please?
oh man i cant help this but you guys sound nerdy and it's ironic you are drinking liquor and you are irishHow do I tell him? Girls and guys opinions please?
just look at him straight in the eyes and tell him, you never know life is short and sometimes you just have to take your chances. i think he likes you but i would wait a little more and just give him signs its better when the guy makes the first move(:
Don't feel like you have to just come out and tell him you like him. Flirt with him more and casually ask him if he wants to hang out..but do something thats not work related.
I once saw this in a movie.. try this.. Ask him how he likes to kiss. Slow or fast. Then show him. Just be playful at first and see what he does after. ; )
ok well he prob does like u soooo id say he soandso uhhhhh i wanted to tell you i like you and i hope you like me
Hold off on the ';telling';. Talk with him and ask him out to an activity that's beyond just ';hanging out';, like a one-on-one dinner. If he's down, good... see where it goes... see if there's flirting... let the chemistry happen. He obviously cares about you otherwise he wouldn't do things like hang out and bring you energy drinks (I would be uber-flattered if a woman did that for me!)
Ok. Just tell him this : '; Look, we've been hanging out a lot, and I want u to know that I like u.'; At the perfect moment, say that. Then if he sais he does to and he's been trying to get the courage to tell you and stuff, you're probably gonna start dating. But if he doesn't react, then just say, '; Sorry, I know. I'm going too fast.'; Hope this helps. :)
GOOD LUCK!!!
Since you are over 21 (like my self) it seems you want to know if he can be in a serious relationship with you. Check out his other action's..does he treat the other female co-workers the way he does you..or does he ignore them? Since you have went out and took things outside of work obviously there is some initial feelings... attractions. If you are to nervous to ask him ';hey do you like me'; (because I am like that to).. Invite him over for dinner (made by you)...Or ask him something simpler to go see a movie or something. If he accepts your invitation there is obvioulsy some feelings there!! :)
Well since you have some evidence that he night be interested, I'd say go for it. Maybe just ask him if he wants to go to a movie some time, or go to dinner. If he turns you down just walk it off. It sounds like it's worth a shot! Good luck! :)
First, I like your writing style, you cracked me up with the athletically retarded point.
Anyway, you hit on some important points namely that you are both intelligent overachievers. You guys probably have a TON of things that are incredibly interesting to discuss, it is no WONDER he waited for three hours for you to get off of work. Reading into what you wrote I assume you both have a passion for life, where ideas are bouncing off of your heads constantly, always thinking, always dreaming. It is no WONDER he wouldn't find you fascinating you him.
With all of that this guy finds you beautiful. I bet you know you are beautiful, it is just that your feelings for him and the fear of becoming vulnerable and being hurt makes you reluctant to admit it to yourself that such an awesome guy in EVERY way would find you attractive. Again, your down-to-earth humility is also what he finds so endearing.
Woman - this guy thinks you are HOT! Tell him that you like him over drinks. Tell him that you enjoy being in his company, that you loved that he waited three hours until you were off of work. Tell him that you find yourself sneaking peaks at him while you work at the same time. Tell him that you think about him at times.
Hey, have fun and enjoy this. I think you guys sound pretty perfect for each other.
im only 20 and havnt been in a situation exactly like this but im good at getten girls and im always very blantant and it accually works pretty well from what ive experienced if u guys flirt and all that and it seems like he might like u just make it a casual question dont get so worried about it wich i know is hard to do but anyways my attempt would be somthing like this.....
hey john doe we hang out alot and have alot of fun and i just wanted to mention that im feeling very attracted to u in a more intamate way then you might think and i was just wondering how u felt about me if i was just a friend to you or if u felt that you liked me in a similar way?
and bam you got ur answer he'll iether well yes jane doe i am attracted to you and youll be thrilled or else he'll feel a little akward and say somthin well no im accually iterested in another girl,,,,or well i dunno,,,,or somthin like wow i didnt know u feel that way im not sure if i do or just somethin other then a smile and a yes who knows what it could be people say odd things when they turn u down but hey if he doesnt say yes then no biggy just be like.....
oh ok thats cool i was just wondering but i dont want you to feel wierd around me now
and dont worry about ur looks all girls are like that and even me n im a guy but u cant let that hold u back or youll never get laid so have fun with it just ask him dont be scared and be prepared for a no just in case and you should be fine
wait it out a little longer. it seem like he likes you, but then again you don't want to jump the gun and make a fool of yourself.
if your not confident with your looks like most people. look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful. do things that make you feel beautiful.
flirt with him some more. use you eyes and your body. in a non-slutty kind of way of course.
do you even hug? if you haven't hugged him yet. please do so. it is a 1st step to chest to chest contact and sometimes a hug can say a lot. so no side or one armed hugs, those are usually meant for acquaintances. this gives you a chance to smell and feel him, as well as, him getting the chance to smell and feel you. allowing the both of you to get familiar.
compare the size of your hands. i know it sounds stupid but it works (i know your over 21). he will see how small and dainty your hands are compared to his. sometimes your hands might even lock.
run your fingers through his hair (if you can). i love running my fingers through a guys hair. it is a sign of affection. simple and sexy.
give each other back rubs. you and i know standing on your feet all day hurts your back. i have a job where i am on my feet all day too and my back is hurts like crazy at the end of the day.
good luck. i hope you bag your bartender hottie.
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